Boldface mine–I agree so whole-heartedly with what I have bolded in your post.
I try very hard to try to detach myself from the various externals when I go to Mass. The music doesn’t really matter, does it? It’s wonderful when there is good music that I like and the cantor and instrumentalists are especially skilled–but these things are not the Mass. Same for the priest–if he gives a real ripsnorter of a homily, great, but if he doesn’t–the homily is not the Mass. And if all the people around me are visibly focused on the Mass (which I really have no way of knowing, do I?), that’s wonderful–but Mass isn’t the people.
The Mass is the re-presentation of Christ’s sacrifice at Calvary.
Sometimes, I think that the best Mass would be the simplest Mass, with very little “smells and bells.” I know that’s not “the Catholic Way.” But surely we can keep our minds simple, can’t we, and try to keep our focus on Jesus during the Mass, and not allow ourselves to be ruffled by everything going on around us.
Sometimes when I read posts on CAF, I get the impression that the unfortunate poster missed the entire Mass because they couldn’t get past the opening hymn that offended them, or perhaps someone sitting near them was wearing an outfit that didn’t seem modest enough, etc. I’m trying not to be this way. I’m trying to keep in mind that human beings, although we are made in the divine image of God, are still human on this earth, and none of us are perfect yet, and everyone is at a different place in the journey to heaven. I try to look at Jesus and contemplate Him during Mass. I can look at people all day long, but I only get to be in His Presence for one very short hour (or half hour for daily Mass). I don’t want that time wrecked up because I can keep my eyes off of others, or make my ears ignore noise. (And of course, sometimes my stupid knees hurt, so sometimes, I distract myself!)
Anyway, not sure if others feel this way, but it’s where I am.