Grace & Peace!
The desire to engage in sexual relations with ANYONE who is not your spouse is a disordered desire.
Sure, and I can agree with you. But that’s also a very tidy thing to say which ignores a whole host of moral complexities related to how people love, form relationships, etc. For instance:, two unmarried opposite-sex attracted people on a date–if either of them has a sexual thought about the other prior to the date, does the date then become a near occassion of sin or, worse, a way of acting upon or expressing the desire to engage in a sexual relationship and therefore representative of a sinful act? In either case, should no one ever go on a date?
This is why the teaching on concupiscence is so important–which teaching, in a nutshell, is that all human desire is oriented toward some good, but that we often have trouble (due to original sin) determining how to pursue or receive those goods appropriately. A woman’s beauty is certainly a good. Sexual pleasure is certainly a good. To desire both is no sin. To desire both without a reference to the greater good of chasity* may*
become sin and lead to lustful thoughts. To
pursue both, however, without subordinating the desire for these goods to the higher good of chastity* is certainly* sin. This is true for a man who is attracted to women, but it must also be true for a
woman who is attracted to women. Why should that be the case? Here’s why:
If a woman’s attraction to another woman is somehow in a more disordered state than a woman’s attraction to a man or a man’s to a woman, it must be because the thing to which such a woman is attracted–the beauty of a woman’s body–does not represent a good for a woman: the beauty of a woman’s body represents the wrong object of another woman’s attraction, i.e., it is disordered because it is oriented toward something that, because she is a woman, lacks the good for her. The object of her attraction is, for her, an evil. To desire it is disordered. But this puts our hypothetical same-sex attracted woman in a bit of a pickle with regard to desire and concupiscence–the desire of women who are opposite-sex attracted is oriented toward the good of male beauty, but hers is oriented to an evil. Other women can desire the good, though in inappropriate ways (which is human concupiscence). Our hypothetical woman, however, cannot even desire the good, let alone desire it in anwy way other than inappropriately. This makes her something of a moral monster: someone whose desire is oriented, if only in part, to what is evil. Moreover, because human desire is oriented toward what is good, this makes our hypothetical woman somewhat less than- or other than human. So if same-sex attraction is intrinsically disordered but opposite-sex attraction is not, then the traditional teaching on concupiscence (that we desire what is good, but often in inappropriate ways) is incorrect. It would be incumbent upon us, then, to evaluate where the disorder actually
does lie, or to assume a more classically protestant evaluation of original sin (i.e., the human capacity to desire the good is utterly destroyed, we are all fundamentally depraved and concupiscence is actual sin).
If there’s no point in fighting for the acceptance of any sexual behavior, then why is the LGBT community fighting tooth and nail for legally licensed same sex marriage?
It’s certainly not to have legal or licensed sex–folks don’t need a license to legally have sex. I would imagine it has more to do with an idea of the dignity of a human relationship, not the dignity (or indignity, one could say) of any particular sexual act. Whether or not sex occurs in a marriage is not something that civil marriage monitors or seems to care about–analogously, sacramental marriage does not bless whatever sexual sins the married couple might commit.
That way they can point to the law and say “I am affirmed! I am NOT engaging in disordered behavior! It’s explicitly permitted by law!”
But here’s the thing, Alindawyl–homosexual sex
is already permitted by law. Marriage doesn’t make it more permitted. Therefore, the fight for SSM must be about something
more, something more fundamentally
human, then whether or how same-sex attracted folks have sex. This has been my argument.
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