buffalo:
All one has to do is go to Mass in another parish.
“Hey Dad, I went to Mass at St. soandso. Their Mass is nothing like ours. They don’t do this and this and this. They do this…”
Dad to Kid - “Don’t worry about just focus on the Mass.”
That’s
exactly what my dad would have said to me.
Different does not automatically make a mass invalid, plus most people would not have a clue which ‘differences’ were adaptations authorized by the bishop and which were actual abuses. The point is they should be focusing on the mass itself, making sure
their participation is according to the guidelines instead of focusing on what everyone else in the church is doing, including the priests, lectors, choir and so on.
After the mass, my father probably would have commented about what a different experience this mass was for him as he left the church shaking the priests’ hand

, but he certainly would not have presumed the priest was deliberately abusing the liturgy against the teachings of Rome. He’d be trusting this priest is doing what his bishop told him to and leave it at that. He’d probably make a note not to go back to that church, too, if he didn’t like the experience. If he liked it he might even make an extra effort to return.
We have two Catholic churches here. One day we attended the ‘other’ church for some reason, can’t recall…anyway, it was certainly different all the way down to the host…the host was not unleavened but puffy and moist, it almost had a tinge of honey flavoring to it too!

My husband walked away having enjoyed the service very much (reminded him of his 70’s Santa Barbara days)

Kids and I didn’t appreciate it much. The kids were little, too, so it was cool (to me) that they prefered our mass.
There’s a different priest there now and the whole interior was reconfigured. Went to mass recently and it was much better, more conformed. Now that I’ve read up on these other documents the only thing I definitely would have flagged as abuse was that host…I cannot believe that was acceptable…but I don’t know that it wasn’t either.