if you’re on someone’s side, it’s harder to accept criticism, or see flaws, in that person.
Oh, I think we can see flaws in someone that we love or admire–but I think we also see the good traits.
Kinda like our kids–we well know the flaws that our children have had since birth! But we also can list a lot of good traits.
Sometimes this can backfire badly. A mom who has a son who is a juvenile deliquent or who has a mental or emotional illness or some other conditions (like Aspergers) sometimes just can’t see it–she sees only the sweet little boy that said “Mama!” when he was only 6 months old! This is not good because she will deny that her son is in trouble, that he needs help, etc.
This is what happened with my sister-in-law–my husband and I knew from his first months that our nephew had symptoms of Aspergers (no smiles during his first year, would not look into eyes, didn’t like to be touched, no attempts to babble or talk, never slept for more than an hour or so and never at night, etc.). Our nephew didn’t get diagnosed until he was almost 10 years old–really late to do a lot of key intervention and treatment.
When it comes to Donald Trump, my husband and I were well aware that he had absolutely NO political experience (other than, in all likelihood, buttonholing and possibly even bribing–legally?!–elected officials to do his requests!). We knew that this would make it very difficult for him in essentially a foreign country (Washington D.C.) where he didn’t speak the language, didn’t know the customs and traditions, and didn’t have a lot of friends or allies. (I doubt that Donald Trump has a lot of friends anywhere.)
So we knew that he would appoint people to his Cabinet and staff who were like him–political newbies or complete political virgins with little/no experience or allies.
We also knew that his tendency to use hyperbole (HUUUUGEE!) could get him in trouble, as people expect politicians to tell the truth and if they don’t, it’s LYING (not “hyperbole”). Black and white–this isn’t “Hollywood” or “Broadway” but D.C.
We knew all that, but we really like the idea of breaking up the Washington D.C. Establishment and electing a majority of people who are NOT lawyers!!! With apologies to good lawyers here, we have a tendency to not trust lawyers. We want to see doctors, nurses, teachers, businesspeople, entertainers, FARMERS, welders, computer experts, etc. elected–we want a more representative selection of public officials to represent REAL PEOPLE. We were hoping that Donald Trump could bust up the Lawyer Logjam in Washington.
Well, he didn’t, and now we have even MORE distrust of lawyers.