Lost Catholic Faith

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gracepoole:
I wasn’t claiming to know everyone’s experience – I am claiming that a generalization saying all Catholic parishes are unwelcoming is categorically false.
I was claiming that you didn’t know other people’s experiences and that you only can claim from your experience that parishes as being unwelcoming as false from your opinion.

You don’t own the opinion of another, but simply your opinion. And I or no one else owns your opinion.
My personal experience demonstrates that the generalization is faulty.
 
My personal experience demonstrates that the generalization is faulty.
And the problem is you really don’t understand what it is like to want this community and yet feel like an outsider despite volunteering as lector, being involved in the KOFC, and being a part of mens group.

You just don’t understand when people don’t want to bother with you. In a secular world, this is understandable. In the Christian faith, you don’t expect there to be strings attached to knowing each other. Now, I’m not referring to friendships necessarily but solid acquaintances. There definitely is not the effort for us as parishioners to go out of our way to reach out to people like there is in many Protestant churches.

To be fair, in a Protestant Church as people do get to know each other that unconditional friendliness can wane. Maybe part of the problem is you have a mixture of people who know each other and people who don’t whereas when people change Protestant churches, everyone has that feeling of not knowing someone so everyone goes out of their way to be friendly knowing what it is like to be that newcomer or the person who walks alone in the faith without someone to guide or disciple you.
 
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I have had some personal events in my life that were somewhat traumatic for me and I was alone dealing with them without very much support. I lost my way with disparity and depression. One special person noticed this and helped me through this with a lot of love and support in the last couple of years. I since came back to church a couple of years ago and got myself back on track even with a newfound faith. I am happy to be back with a stronger faithlife and attending church.
 
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gracepoole:
My personal experience demonstrates that the generalization is faulty.
And the problem is you really don’t understand what it is like to want this community and yet feel like an outsider despite volunteering as lector, being involved in the KOFC, and being a part of mens group.

You just don’t understand when people don’t want to bother with you. In a secular world, this is understandable. In the Christian faith, you don’t expect there to be strings attached to knowing each other. Now, I’m not referring to friendships necessarily but solid acquaintances. There definitely is not the effort for us as parishioners to go out of our way to reach out to people like there is in many Protestant churches.

To be fair, in a Protestant Church as people do get to know each other that unconditional friendliness can wane. Maybe part of the problem is you have a mixture of people who know each other and people who don’t whereas when people change Protestant churches, everyone has that feeling of not knowing someone so everyone goes out of their way to be friendly knowing what it is like to be that newcomer or the person who walks alone in the faith without someone to guide or disciple you.
Uh, who says I don’t understand that?

All I’m pointing out is that if someone says ALL Catholic parishes are unwelcoming, this claim is categorically false because I’ve witnessed exceptions.
 
All I’m pointing out is that if someone says ALL Catholic parishes are unwelcoming, this claim is categorically false because I’ve witnessed exceptions.
Agreed. But what’s the difference between all and almost all if you struggle to find the ones that truly do have these exceptions?

Thanks for sharing
 
I have had doubts about certain aspects of Catholicism. But, i could never see me leaving the church. For me, this is the only true church.
 
It probably depends what sort of person you are. If you are the right sort of Catholic you may find you’re fine wherever you go, if not then changing parishes won’t help unless it’s a very different sort of parish that you fit better. No parish can be everything to everyone.
 
I consider it unfair to both myself and the Roman Church (and my priest) to maintain the situation AND attend mass, so I’ve ceased attending mass at my parish very recently.
Although this is sad, I do respect your integrity.
 
I have the benefit of my local priest being an extremely empathetic man who told me point-blank that the Church’s position on it is anachronistic and needs to change. But nonetheless the Church still bans it and therefore he’d still require my confession of it.

I consider it unfair to both myself and the Roman Church (and my priest) to maintain the situation AND attend mass, so I’ve ceased attending mass at my parish very recently. I go to the closest Orthodox Church for the first sabbath of the month (it’s something of a drive) and I go with my wife for the remainder - which is usually to my parent’s Baptist Church, interestingly… (as my wife wasn’t raised Baptist - I was).

I mean seriously lets face it there are a lot of Catholics out there who are disobeying the Catholic Church in this regard and still go to Mass. So what’s preventing you from going? Or are you going?

Frankly, I don’t think they should go. And if their kids are in Catholic school, they should pull them out.

I don’t like to half a** things. Whole a** or no a**.
You Sir! Owe my deepest respects! Although we will disagree with each other on this issue. I do respect your integrity!
 
When I came back to Catholicism, I decided (as the Bible tells us) that being a luke-warm Catholic was worse than rejecting Catholicism completely. I promised myself that nothing–no particular person, priest, congregation, boring sermon, nasty parishioner, unbelieving friend, not even the pope in Rome–would ever separate me from the Eucharist, from my inalienable right to access the Lord Jesus in His sacraments. Believe me, we all suffer from the Church in many ways, but the Church (ie. your parish, my parish included) is the Body of Christ on the Cross, and our means of salvation. Who told you it is supposed to be all joy and roses?
 
I appreciate that you look at this positively and appropriately.

God bless.
 
I don’t think anyone here has ever actually felt the way you describe. Many of us live in places where we’re greatly outnumbered by Protestants…especially Evangelical Protestants. Even with the True Presence, it can be difficult to hear family, friends, coworkers go on and on about how supportive their marvelous church is…and feel alone in the faith. It’s a moot point for me now, since I can’t get to a Catholic church, but I remember how I felt like something of the spiritual equivalent of those mystics who are said to survive for years on the Eucharist alone. Except for private prayer and reading, the Eucharist was the only spiritual food I had. And no, it wouldn’t have helped to change parishes. Every church in the city, perhaps in the diocese,was pretty much the same. Bland homilies, bad music, people who seem to be there only to fulfill their obligation.

It’s occurred to me many times that the only thing that the Catholic Church does better is the Eucharist. Certainly that’s the most important thing, but if that’s all you have to nourish your spiritual life it’s tough going.
 
I don’t think anyone here has ever actually felt the way you describe. Many of us live in places where we’re greatly outnumbered by Protestants…especially Evangelical Protestants. Even with the True Presence, it can be difficult to hear family, friends, coworkers go on and on about how supportive their marvelous church is…and feel alone in the faith. It’s a moot point for me now, since I can’t get to a Catholic church, but I remember how I felt like something of the spiritual equivalent of those mystics who are said to survive for years on the Eucharist alone. Except for private prayer and reading, the Eucharist was the only spiritual food I had. And no, it wouldn’t have helped to change parishes. Every church in the city, perhaps in the diocese,was pretty much the same. Bland homilies, bad music, people who seem to be there only to fulfill their obligation.

It’s occurred to me many times that the only thing that the Catholic Church does better is the Eucharist. Certainly that’s the most important thing, but if that’s all you have to nourish your spiritual life it’s tough going.
So now we’re moving the goal posts. The poster to which I was originally responding wasn’t describing “bland homilies, bad music, people who seem to be there only to fulfill their obligation.”

Finally, you’re assuming that my parish fulfills me in every way – that I’ve been welcomed into all groups with which I’ve tried to participate, that I feel connected with my fellow parishioners, etc. Nope. I don’t have Catholic friends and my Catholic family lives several states away. It’s isolating. No one is denying that. Yet I still joyfully participate in Mass and believe in the one true Catholic Church. Would it be nice and perhaps easier if I had a full and complete community with whom I can share the faith? Of course. Would I ever permit the lack of this to drive me away from Christ? No.
 
So now we’re moving the goal posts. The poster to which I was originally responding wasn’t describing “bland homilies, bad music, people who seem to be there only to fulfill their obligation.”
I really didn’t mean to do that. Please accept my apology.
Finally, you’re assuming that my parish fulfills me in every way – that I’ve been welcomed into all groups with which I’ve tried to participate, that I feel connected with my fellow parishioners, etc. Nope. I don’t have Catholic friends and my Catholic family lives several states away. It’s isolating. No one is denying that. Yet I still joyfully participate in Mass and believe in the one true Catholic Church. Would it be nice and perhaps easier if I had a full and complete community with whom I can share the faith? Of course. Would I ever permit the lack of this to drive me away from Christ? No.
I admire your fortitude. I wish I were more like that. It seems to come down to whether or not one finds Christ only in the Catholic Church, and to what degree. May God continue to bless you.
 
Are there any out there that have lost their Catholic faith? If so, did you switch to another religion, or none all together? What events lead to your loss of faith?
I haven’t nor have I been tempted to lose it.

Q:
How could one not take seriously the following? The one who judges ALL gave us this chilling news, and the reason for that news

few are saved

WHY?
 
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I haven’t nor have I been tempted to lose it.

Q:

How could one not take seriously the following? The one who judges ALL gave us this chilling news, and the reason for that news

few are saved

WHY?
Studies have shown that fear makes people think and act irrationally.
 
I think Christ envisioned a primus rather than a supremus and it seems that a lot of traditional Catholics can’t see the difference.
I think you are right. Jesus and the Apostles taught quite clearly about servant leadership. This pompous attitude that developed through the middle ages seems to be an infiltration from human culture.
I prefer to be a free-thinker on my own and follow a set of core values I have developed for myself by pulling from a lot of places…many come from religions I have read about. I am comfortable in my own skin, so it works for me.
I suspect this is the case for most people who leave the Catholic faith. I mean, they prefer to follow their own internal sense of right and wrong, rather than have it defined by the Church. The Church says we should all follow our conscience, but then, “a well formed conscience will be consistent with Catholic Teaching”. Where does that leave people who feel differently?
I think poor catechesis may just be the #1 reason people leave the faith.
I taught confirmation classes for a couple years, and I think we all assume too much about what children know. Our catechesis for children is built around the assumption that children are raised in Catholic families with Catholic formation, and this does not happen often anymore. They don’t even understand the basic contents of the creed, as you noted, that Jesus is God. We need to back WAY up!
For me it’s not so much a loss of faith but feeling like I don’t belong in the Catholic church. I got to a point of asking “God can I really do this alone? Or should I find a church where I can have some support?”
It is a fact that our separated brethren have done a much better job with fellowship and meeting the emotional needs of the members.
 
@Guanophore, CAF (and the CC on the whole) is fortunate to have your participation.
 
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from my inalienable right to access the Lord Jesus in His sacraments.
I don’t think this is the best way of saying it. For one you don’t have the right. You are a Sinner. Second the Lord Jesus allows access to himself in the Sacraments by Grace. You don’t deserve anything. Jesus has received you in GRACE!
 
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