I’m sorry, If I had put for the entire story up, it would take weeks to read. the funny thing is that the counselor was her choice and in the beginning all she could say was that he understood her so well.
I wish your son all the luck in the world and I hope and pray that he may be granted an anullment if that is what he wants so that he may either choose to know the power of love with a woman the way should be experienced or that he may seek vocation.
Thank you for your kind words. However, there is much more to the story…isn’t there always. My son was not married in the Church, which has haunted him for the past 14 yrs.,but has turned out to be a wonderful thing.
Your priest can share his opinion on this but he does have the authority to make the final decision on the valdity of the sacrament. You can always file for an anullment and have it read by the tribunal. While you may not wish to be anyone’s gf/dw you may wish someday to enter vocation and you will need that to do so.
My lack of form anullment - which is what they call it when you have one party who is Catholic but did not marry in the Church- only took a month or two - I don’t really remember except we put in the paperwork at one marriage prep and had it back the next one. I was in the process of doing RCIA and had never really thought needed one since I had never been married in the Church. I was divorced after an abusive marriage and was relieved to find out that all I needed was my xh’s baptismal certificate which could be sent diocese to diocese upon request.
I didn’t know that one would need an annulment when the marriage itself was not considered a “marriage” to begin with. My Son was a baptized Catholic at the time of the wedding & I’m not even sure that my ex-daughter-in-law was ever baptized in any faith. You’ve made me think, though, because her family is very BIG on social correctness & a Christening & party afterwards would have appealed to them. I’d better find out all the details, However, my son has been so damaged by all of it…both the marriage & the divorce, that I don’t think there is any rush.
I believe that what the poster’s priest meant - and this is correct - is that, though she is still considered married, she is not barred from communion unless she attempts another marriage without a decree of nullity. She didn’t say anything about the priest making any decision about the validity of her marriage.
You have hit the nail on the head between the lack of form anullment and a full anullment. The full anullment can take a year or more. The lack of form is a matter of paperwork to prove that it was just what the name implies - a lack of form. The main point are this:
). The way I understood it is that the priest in the OP was counselling that divorce is never a sin (or at least, most of the time isn’t a sin), when the OP can see from the CCC that it can be a “grave offense.”That is not what the RCC teaches or has ever taught. I would discuss this with another Priest If I was you.
According to our faith Joe it is a sin. If the marriage is considered valid no one can separate those two People. They are united as one as God and his Church.It seems that a lot of posters aren’t understanding the OP the same way that I did (or perhaps I am misunderstanding their understanding of the OP
With all the personal examples in this thread, I think it[SIGN] should definitely be said that divorce is not always a sin. [/SIGN]Also, it seems that (at least in my experience with people I’ve known) it is quite often only a sin for one of the parties involved, not both. Obviously, if you aren’t choosing it, it’s not a sin. And if you are choosing it for good reasons (“safety and security”), it’s not a sin either.
However, I think what the CCC says, and what the OP is trying to get at, is that divorce certainly can be a grave sin even apart from any considerations of remarriage. Remarriage isn’t the only thing that can make divorce sinful. As the CCC says, “Divorce is immoral also because it introduces disorder into the family and into society.”
From the personal examples shared here, it doesn’t seem that anyone on this thread is guilty of sin in this regard.
Can you please demonstrate the fact that “according to our faith it is a sin”. The way you present it appears to be in 100% of the cases, I can agree with you that in large number of cases it could be sinful but if you look at post #2 you can see where I disagree with you. I am also assuming that you are talking about civil divorce in a valid marriage.
It is Cristiano. Let me explain here is a quick example. Lets say I am married in Church and my husband and our marriage is valid. Thats it, no man can separate us. We are united as one flesh. Read mark 10:9-12.