"Marry Him and Be Submissive - "One Italian Wife’s Countercultural Message to Women

  • Thread starter Thread starter SAVINGRACE
  • Start date Start date
Status
Not open for further replies.
This thread cracks me up!
I could almost have predicted every post.
🍿
 
Here’s another issue with the “The One Thing Men Want” piece (and probably also with the Eggerichs book–although I haven’t read it):

It does not give an effective path forward for when there is serious misbehavior by the husband: he’s laid off and is refusing to look for work, he has what looks like depression and refuses treatment or to see a doctor, or he has some sort of substance abuse issue.

These are not exactly freakishly rare situations and (anecdotally speaking) there is not a strong track record for the wife’s sweet respectful submissiveness being the path toward work, good mental health, and sobriety.

Really, how many alcoholics or drug addicts have been nice-d into sobriety?
 
Xantippe said:
Here’s another issue with the “The One Thing Men Want” piece (and probably also with the Eggerichs book–although I haven’t read it):

It does not give an effective path forward for when there is serious misbehavior by the husband: he’s laid off and is refusing to look for work, he has what looks like depression and refuses treatment or to see a doctor, or he has some sort of substance abuse issue.

These are not exactly freakishly rare situations and (anecdotally speaking) there is not a strong track record for the wife’s sweet respectful submissiveness being the path toward work, good mental health, and sobriety.

Really, how many alcoholics or drug addicts have been nice-d into sobriety?
Click to expand...
To be fair, I don’t think the author of “The One Thing Men Want” meant to apply her principles to depressed, addicted, or abusive husbands. I will give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she would not.

Since I haven’t read Eggerichs either I won’t speculate about whether he sees his system as applying to such cases or not.

I do agree there are SOME people who think “God commands wives to submit to their husbands no matter what, sure he should love his wife but even if he doesn’t, marriage is not meant to be secular contract but a sacrament, and just because one spouse doesn’t live up to the vows that doesn’t mean the other can break them too.” And assume that as long as the wife does what is “commanded by God” then God will save that wife from the troubled marriage by miraculously converting the husband.

While I have seen some advice on CAF counseling people to stay in abusive marriages unless they are in immediate physical danger, most of it mentions recourse to prayer, intercession of saints known for being in bad marriages, etc. Not just “if you submit enough your husband will be converted” or “if you love enough your wife will be converted”. Once in a while I see very problematic posts about God actually wanting the abused spouse to be a martyr, but thankfully they are few and far between.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top