With all respects, this post makes no sense. Looking young is chopped up to genetics, not where you live.
Many women all over the world look younger and it’s due to longer telomeres, not the climate or city one is from.
Perhaps women look younger in Cali due to plastic surgery is more like it.
I see red flags in a 40 something man dating a 21 or 22 year old woman. I just do. Forgive me for caring…but I see lots of red flags and I’m not alone. The divorce rate of this type of union is 80% for a reason.
EDITED TO ADD:
Runwaymodel, I’d like to concede a little bit. This guy could be the right one for you and I’d say keep dating him and see where things go. If he proposes, you could always have a long engagement? My engagement was almost 2 years.
I have to agree with the poster ‘faithfully’ on this one, Serap. Los Angeles does have some of the most gorgeous people you will ever encounter (without surgery as well). Beautiful people from all over the world come there to 'make it big. I find it sad though, that many of these people don’t get their fufillment at Church. It helps keep me grounded.
Norseman82:
Are you encouraging her to sleep around? What kind of comment is THIS for a Catholic forum? (If you meant something else, I will stand corrected, but “sewing wild oats” is an expression for males being sexually active with someone (or many someones) other than their wife prior to marriage).
I agree with you. I have no desire to do that whatsoever, and I am thankful that the man I am with is willing to respect my beliefs and wait until marriage.
djeter:
Hello Runway Model (again):
I realize you are swamped here by your topic but you never answered my first post. My question to you was what your partner sees in you, what is your attractiveness to him?
You may recall that one of the beatitudes that Jesus spoke of was “Blessed are the poor…” Fr. Barron has an interesting take on this as follows:
“And so Jesus says: “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven” (Matthew 5:3). This is neither a romanticizing of economic poverty nor a demonization of wealth, but rather a formula for detachment. Might I suggest a somewhat variant rendition: how blessed are you if you are not attached to material things, if you have not placed the goods that wealth can buy at the center of your concern? When the Kingdom of God is your ultimate concern, not only will you not become addicted to material things; you will, in fact, be able to use them with great effectiveness for God’s purposes.”
I once had a discussion with a friend who married an older man. He passed away quite suddenly from a massive heart attack. Once again, she had married for the security of the older man (He was a doctor). She found that after getting married that she gradually found herself losing all of her college friends. She explained that she thought it was because she and her husband simply couldn’t share in the money struggles that other people her age (i.e., her friends) were facing. They tended to fall into HIS friends and HIS aquaintances as they matched better with their eoonomic circumstances. Do you see the story?
What seems to be a blessing turned out to be a regret, an isolating set of circumstances for the younger woman. What problems do you see looking forward? You’re obviously doing something against the cultural grain: We marry those in our age group. Love seems to dictate this. Love can be corrupted of course and money is an obvious factor in that. How is your love not a corruption? What makes you unique?
With all due respect, I do not understand how you believe that our love can be corruptable because of money. I want someone more success financially than myself, there is nothing wrong with this. I agree that some people can be corrupted by money, but I am letting you know with me that is not the case, I have already obtained monetary success on my own. I cannot predict how our future will turn out, I am leaving that in the hands of God. I can tell you that what attracts me to him is his confidence, chivalry, work ethic, respect towards others, love of animlas, kindness despite his status,he is so loving and caring, always asks about my family, good Lord, I can go on and on. …
As for him, he likes the fact that I am very religious, family oriented, sweet despite my career status, level-headed, give to several charities, kind, ambitious, very opinionated, have a strict set of morals which he says is rare these days, grounded despite my beauty (his words, not mine) nuturing, humble…these are a few things. Of course if you want more, you would have to ask him yourself. I feel very awkward even typing that stuff about myself because I feel like I have to ‘sell myself’. And by that I mean sell my attributes and good traits to others. I do not like having to attempt to explain myself.
mexilad:
I guess I am an older man. I am in my forties. It’s not the years. it’s the mileage. I don’t mean to sound sexist. I have daughters and I will give you the advice I give them. Considering how lousey the pickings are among males these days, you might do well to marry an older man. You don’t have to waste time waiting for him to grow up and figure out what he wants. If you really love him and he loves you, then pray on it and go with what you believe God wishes for you. Trust me dear, from how you described him, you could do so much worse. You are in my prayers dear.
Thank you so much.
