Mass no no's

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paramedicgirl said:
Let me see if I can help. When you reply to a post, it should have quote features around it. Leave them there, and it should work. If that fails, highlight the text you are quoting, and click on the “Wrap Quote” feature at the top right of your CAF icons. (It looks like a sheet of paper with text on it).

Then click preview post before you submit it.

Good luck! 🙂
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Faith1960 said:
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It worked! 🙂 Before the CAF crash it wouldn’t work for me. I was going to be a smart aleck and say something like it’s the responsibility of the people reading my posts to learn to ignore my posting or something else along the lines of what I’ve been reading, regarding kids acting up in Mass, but I really wanted to be able to use the quote feature. 😛
 
Faith1960 said:
It worked! 🙂 Before the CAF crash it wouldn’t work for me. I was going to be a smart aleck and say something like it’s the responsibility of the people reading my posts to learn to ignore my posting or something else along the lines of what I’ve been reading, regarding kids acting up in Mass, but I really wanted to be able to use the quote feature. 😛
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Well, I guess we aren’t at mass are we?
 
Saint_Michael said:
Faith maybe you can watch the Mass on T.V. and an EMHC can bring you the Host? This way no children or people can bother you.

I shouldn’t have to do any such thing. I’m behaving in Mass; I shouldn’t be the one to leave.

If you had a well behaved daughter that’s great you’re lucky, my son is very well behaved too. That doesn’t mean I think I’m a better parent than parents of acting up children. Some kids are more rambunxious than others, no matter how much discipline or parenting you do getting them to behave to your standards would be impossible. I’ve seen when a child is told to stop it they throw a tantrum perhaps the parents is letting the child sit int he aisle so they don’t cause a huge scene during the consecration?

Wow. Were you being serious when you posted that? If a child is prone to having tantrums you think the best course of action is to reward him and allow him to just do whatever he pleases to avoid causing a scene? If the child refuses to listen and stop whatever it is he’s doing and then proceeds to throw a fit, it’s the parent’s responsibility to pick him up and take him out of there.
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Faith1960 said:
Saint_Michael;1530462:
Faith maybe you can watch the Mass on T.V. and an EMHC can bring you the Host? This way no children or people can bother you.

I shouldn’t have to do any such thing. I’m behaving in Mass; I shouldn’t be the one to leave.

If you had a well behaved daughter that’s great you’re lucky, my son is very well behaved too. That doesn’t mean I think I’m a better parent than parents of acting up children. Some kids are more rambunxious than others, no matter how much discipline or parenting you do getting them to behave to your standards would be impossible. I’ve seen when a child is told to stop it they throw a tantrum perhaps the parents is letting the child sit int he aisle so they don’t cause a huge scene during the consecration?

Wow. Were you being serious when you posted that? If a child is prone to having tantrums you think the best course of action is to reward him and allow him to just do whatever he pleases to avoid causing a scene? If the child refuses to listen and stop whatever it is he’s doing and then proceeds to throw a fit, it’s the parent’s responsibility to pick him up and take him out of there.
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It didn’t work that time. :o
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Faith, you should be able to edit instead of posting another one. On a different note maybe you could do all those parents a favor and call Supernanny to come teach them how to parent.
 
When I see children behaving terribly during Mass, I just think about how their parents must feel!!! I know I would be horribly embarrassed if I had children that acted up! Sometimes kids just have bad days and just won’t behave. I’ve rarely seen a parent actually let their child sit there and scream for an extended period of time though.
 
THutch04 said:
I’ve rarely seen a parent actually let their child sit there and scream for an extended period of time though.
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I’ve never seen it, I’ve always seen the parent evetually discipline the child and remove them when needed, which leads me to believe the people complaining about it are going on about it for no real good reason. They’re being too judgmental and forget what children are like.
 
Faith1960 said:
Wow. Were you being serious when you posted that? If a child is prone to having tantrums you think the best course of action is to reward him and allow him to just do whatever he pleases to avoid causing a scene? If the child refuses to listen and stop whatever it is he’s doing and then proceeds to throw a fit, it’s the parent’s responsibility to pick him up and take him out of there.
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What’s better let their two year old sit quietly in the aisle during the consecration, or scream at the top of their lungs during the consecration?
 
chotock said:
I find it funny that people think the form of the Liturgy is to blame for how people respond. Perhaps it is more in the people attending. Perhaps it is a lack of lay persons willing to step up in this time of declining vocations to actually teach instead of sitting back and complaining. Why is it that for 1500 years we can have Masses presented in the vernacular and be just fine and then suddenly the vernacular is evil and is destroying faith?

If people are not parenting correctly, perhaps someone should offer advise rather than chastising them. As a convert from a church that was liturgical, in the vernacular, I am abhored by the venom being spewed here towards those that for whatever reason, just do not understand what worship is about. Maybe instead of complaining, and insulting the Bishops who validly gathered at the Second Vatican Council, you should volunteer to help out our already overburdened priests and deacons to teach the faith.
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I am becoming involved in volunteer work at my parish but what does that have to do with parents who do nothing about their children’s inappropriate and disruptive behavior during Mass and when out in public, in general?

How does one advise a parent to take Junior outside or do something about Junior’s behavior when they’re directly in front of you and he’s kneeling on the missle rack, leaning forward into the next pew ahead, with his dirty tennis shoes up on their pew, two feet away from me, while his mother is sitting next to him, sees this and doesn’t say a word to him about that nor even bother to give him a “get off the missle rack” kind of a look? In the scenario I’m describing, Junior is a hefty boy who, amazingly enough, didn’t break the rack.
Also, in this scenario, the mother and boy spent a good part of the Mass chattering about all sorts of topics but she didn’t say a word about him kneeling on the rack.
This is the same kid, incidentally, who tried to grab my hand during the Sign of Peace after he spent about 5 or 10 minutes making things out of his gum.

IME parents like that do not appreciate advice. They’ve always been rather testy to helpful advice or corrective criticism that I or others I’ve known have offered. 9 times out of 10 they firmly believe that Junior is funny, cute, adorable and fail to understand why others don’t share the same sentiment.:rolleyes:
 
Saint_Michael said:
What’s better let their two year old sit quietly in the aisle during the consecration, or scream at the top of their lungs during the consecration?
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The child in question plunked down in the aisle long before the consecration. So, in answer to your question, it would’ve been best for mom to have gotten up and picked him up as soon as he took off and sat down in the aisle. If he would have thrown a fit, she should take him out of the church. Better yet, if she knows Junior is just not going to have any part of this behaving thing, she could attend one of many Masses nearby where there is babysitting on the property. I think it’s free, too.
 
RCCDefender said:
Faith, you should be able to edit instead of posting another one. On a different note maybe you could do all those parents a favor and call Supernanny to come teach them how to parent.
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I probably should. If Supernanny could help, I know it would be a huge relief for a lot of people.
 
Cavaille-Coll said:
Here’s my list:
  1. Holding or raising hands during the Our Father.
5. Anytime the priest follows “and also with you” with "thank you."
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You still haven’t answered my question on why these two things would possibly bother you.
 
RCCDefender said:
Faith, I just love how you chose to ignore Jesus’ words and just pick mine to retort out of my post. How many children do you have anyway? Just the one? and how old is she now?
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I have one child, who’s 21 now. What does the number of children I’ve given birth to have to do with anything?
I was an only child, my mom came from a family of 10 and I grew up surrounded by really large families. What we were all taught about proper behavior was pretty much the same, regardless.
 
netmil(name removed by moderator) said:
Humans need to vent.
Better here than in the parish.
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Vent? A better word for “vent,” in reference to this thread, would be “judge,” or perhaps even “indulge.”

The source of so much of this “venting” is obviously from something internal, so placing the blame on external sources (i.e. other people) is wrong, both in, AND out of the parish.
 
One of the worst: Letting your child/children run wild during the Mass. The indifference of some people astounds me. I have seen kids escape to take over the priest’s seat before. Once during a Baptism, two or three of the baptized cousins were running around the entire church. The priest handled it well and said he felt as if he was surrounded by angels, but the people trying to film this special moment were rightly peeved.
Kinda makes me want to bring a dog-cather’s net with me. 😃 Free range children at Mass=BAD:
 
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