Masturbation without lust

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Ok, so fantasy or no fantasy, masturbation is always a mortal sin (as long as consent is given and knowledge is had)? I’m glad I’ve gotten that cleared up, as I won’t have loopholes now.

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It is always a sin. But as to mortal or veniel that is a judgement that is determined by many factors, one of which is “Do you know it to be wrong.”
 
It is always a sin. But as to mortal or veniel that is a judgement that is determined by many factors, one of which is “Do you know it to be wrong.”
Actually, that factor is more rightly phrased as “Do you know it is grave matter?” Masturbation is always grave matter. Mortal sin requires three conditions: Grave matter, full knowledge, and full consent of the will.
 
But the teaching itself is set in stone. Understanding it, or not understanding it, does not change it. The proscription is crystal clear. And thus the answer to the OP is crystal clear.
Saying that non-lustful masturbation is clearly against Catholic teaching does not answer his other question of degree. And the practice is not specifically contemplated by the Catechism, thus an explanation is clearly in order as to how it comes under the ban.
Moreover, you will not find a respected Catholic moral theologian who does not hold masturbation to be grave matter.
Where are you going with this? Do you find anything in my answer that would make you believe I would assert the contrary? After all, I did post earlier: “Non-lustful masturbation would likely still constitute grave matter, which if combined with full knowledge and full will, would make it mortally sinful.”
 
Saying that non-lustful masturbation is clearly against Catholic teaching does not answer his other question of degree.
It answers the question of whether it is grave matter.

The other issues - importantly consent - I have already discussed.
And the practice is not specifically contemplated by the Catechism, thus an explanation is clearly in order as to how it comes under the ban.
The catechism addresses all masturbation (“for whatever reason”); there is no need to treat specific cases. Though perhaps it is an interesting academic exercise.
Where are you going with this? Do you find anything in my answer that would make you believe I would assert the contrary? After all, I did post earlier: “Non-lustful masturbation would likely still constitute grave matter, which if combined with full knowledge and full will, would make it mortally sinful.”
Sorry if I misunderstood you.

Usually in posts such as this a claim like “sexual release is not the same as sexual pleasure” is made in an attempt to argue that some masturbation is not sinful. It seems clearer to me now, though, that you are not arguing this, but more trying to address the question of “why”. That’s a different matter and again sorry if I jumped to conclusions.
 
It answers the question of whether it is grave matter.
But recognizing it as grave matter does not answer the question of degree, unless you equate the moral degree of beating someone up with killing him.
The catechism addresses all masturbation (“for whatever reason”); there is no need to treat specific cases. Though perhaps it is an interesting academic exercise.
You might think there is no need to treat specific cases, but the OP thought his specific case was worth asking about despite knowing that the Church teaches that masturbation is always wrong. He was looking for a loophole, he said. Giving him the same answer that he already knew (the Church teaches masturbation is always wrong) just didn’t seem so helpful to his inquiry.
 
But recognizing it as grave matter does not answer the question of degree, unless you equate the moral degree of beating someone up with killing him.
Oh, fair enough, I see what you mean.

Yes, I agree with others that masturbation while thinking of or watching another person is worse than masturbation without such thoughts. Is that what you mean here?
You might think there is no need to treat specific cases, but the OP thought his specific case was worth asking about despite knowing that the Church teaches that masturbation is always wrong. He was looking for a loophole, he said. Giving him the same answer that he already knew (the Church teaches masturbation is always wrong) just didn’t seem so helpful to his inquiry.
The OP heard “someone said it was only a sin if there was fantasizing involved”. I believe that has been sufficiently corrected by the specific Church teaching and the OP seems to have accepted that.

If you want to talk about the “whys” of the specific case that’s fine and may help in further understanding the reasoning behind the teaching.
 
OP, just in reference to another comment you made - you said you intend to marry simply to procreate and you have no sexual attraction to women.

I think the vast majority of women wouldn’t be happy to know that their husband didn’t find them in the least bit attractive and simply wanted them to bear children. Mutual attraction is an important part of a healthy married relationship.
 
Wrong on so many levels.
  • All of us have pride, but that doesn’t mean pride isn’t a mortal sin.
  • Saying we all masturbate is wrong, speaking from personal experience. For what it’s worth, you’re slightly offending me (not that I profess much self-worth). But you dare to call the saints liars and hypocrites for allegedly avoiding this sin?
  • Supposing the possibility that you’re wrong, putting the Holy Spirit to the test to tell you as much when you appear too ____ to discover the truth using reason would seem to break the command of putting God to the test.
  • You fail to submit to the wisdom and teaching of the Magisterium, preferring to trust in your own wisdom. (This is different than the question of trusting in your own conscience, though that might be at fault too.)
  • No harm in masturbation? Tons of anecdotes out there to read, including how it affects wives/girlfriends… The call to be risk averse alone is probably strong enough to avoid the practice.
  • Masturbation enslaves, it does not ease one of a burden. Else, why the repetition?
  • Masturbation (almost always) encompasses lust, clearly forbidden by scripture. It usually has secondary effects of supporting a very insidious porn industry that debases and harms women, starting a sexual slave trade filled with evil.
I feel sorry for you for having let cynicism and slavery rule your heart. It breaks my heart, but you simply can’t make such posts which are blatantly disrespectful of the many heroic-in-virtue Catholic saints. Keep such ideas to yourself if you must have them.
That’s probably the most offensive, ungenerous, rude, pompous and obnoxious answer to any question that I have ever read. Congratulations. I have read many post while being here a short time and I can see why the great decline in the catholic church. I can also see the attitude that caused the church to dictate, persecute, torture and kill people when it had the power to do so. Thanks be to a loving god that he saw fit to down size the church so dramatically and I pray it never has that much power again.
 
I posted a thread similar to this, and unfortunately I still find myself looking for excuses.

I’ve struggled with masturbation for a little while now. I’ve given into temptation, gone to confession (I’ve gone so many times the priest must think there’s something wrong with me), held out for a month or so, then given in again. After almost giving into temptation again, I was pathetically looking for loopholes and I stumbled across something. Someone said it was only a sin if there was fantasizing involved. I am asexual (I hope that’s not a sin), and never fantasise at all. It never even occurs to me.

So my question is this: Is masturbation without fantasising truly a sin, and a mortal one at that?

Note: I am NOT trying to justify my disgusting actions, I just want to know if I fall to temptation while trying to ween off the habit if I have to worry about not making it to heaven if I die suddenly.
There is no such thing as masturbating without lust.
 
OP, just in reference to another comment you made - you said you intend to marry simply to procreate and you have no sexual attraction to women.

I think the vast majority of women wouldn’t be happy to know that their husband didn’t find them in the least bit attractive and simply wanted them to bear children. Mutual attraction is an important part of a healthy married relationship.
I find women attractive, I just don’t find them sexually attractive, meaning I don’t think about having sex with them. I definitely have the capacity and ability to love.
 
I’m not buying this masturbation Is sin stuff folks,
Sorry to hear that. However truth isn’t for sale.
to me its like saying its sinful to go in the woods unless you defecate to fertilize the forest. All guys masturbate,
Fasle.
so if its a mortal sin no man goes to heaven, the guys that say they don’t masturbate are lying, so they go to perdition as well. If I’m wrong may the Holy Sprit speak to me and will tell me its a wrong and a sin, a sin that could ruin ones chance to be in heaven. Because at this point I truly believe its not an act that hurts anyone,
Sin always hurts the sinner and by extention to the whole human family.
in fact it may keep you away from acts that are sinful, adultery, sex out of marriage as so forth. This sounds like a Pharisaic law to me, the letter of the law and not the spirit of the law, the law which Christ brought, love and understanding of the human condition. His law was to love thy neighbor as thy self, do good to all people in all situations, not find ways in which to condemn them, like committing a natural act as young males do, which is to ease them selves of a burden. If I’m wrong I’m sure the Holy Spirit will speak to my heart, but for now this is what the spirit and me own heart tells me. Hope I’m not offending anyone. Just stating my opinion.
Your opinion is contrary to Catholic teaching and is rightfully rejected.
 
Masturbation is gravely disordered (grave matter for mortal sin). Be it for alleged medical reasons etc. Be there thoughts or no thoughts.
 
Sorry to hear that. However truth isn’t for sale.

Fasle.

Sin always hurts the sinner and by extention to the whole human family.

Your opinion is contrary to Catholic teaching and is rightfully rejected.
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I’m not buying this masturbation Is sin stuff folks,

Sorry to hear that. However truth isn’t for sale.

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That’s right, “Truth” is free to those with ears and a heart to receive it.
 
That’s right, “Truth” is free to those with ears and a heart to receive it.
And as such the Teaching of the Church regarding the gravely disordered nature of this topic here (see Catechism and other documents of the Church etc)-- is yes free.
 
Masturbation is gravely disordered (grave matter for mortal sin). Be it for alleged medical reasons etc. Be there thoughts or no thoughts.
Yes, I can see that this is a rule set in stone as far as the catholic church is concerned. That is helpful in of its self, the fact that reconciliation seems to be there to counter this human condition speaks of forgiveness for being human, and yes human beings have their faults, I’m still not convinced that this is mortal sin and yet human beings do indeed have their faults, but for this reason we have been given a great sacrifice so we are able to reconcile to god. I believe this is a good message, but its also clear that’s not the message many here are attempting to lend. The message most are conveying is- The church said don’t do it, so if you do your doomed, and any other opinion will be met with verbal battle and hate! No counsel, no love, no understanding, just- Kneel or die dogs. Is that really the message so many are attempting to convey here? I’m not saying that about all the posters here, its very easy to see which posts I am referring to. That type of intolerant condemning attitude should be driven from the church as a plague of death.
 
That’s probably the most offensive, ungenerous, rude, pompous and obnoxious answer to any question that I have ever read. Congratulations. I have read many post while being here a short time and I can see why the great decline in the catholic church. I can also see the attitude that caused the church to dictate, persecute, torture and kill people when it had the power to do so. Thanks be to a loving god that he saw fit to down size the church so dramatically and I pray it never has that much power again.
So you don’t like being told you’re wrong. Fine, I suppose it’s not the most persuasive method around. Nevertheless, you came onto a Catholic forum, decrying Catholic teaching, and by claiming that a life devoid of masturbation was impossible, denying that God’s grace is sufficient to overcome the sin of masturbation, and mocking Catholic saints who have done so. Such an attitude warrants strong condemnation lest others be confused. I even suspect your earlier post violated the forum rules about respect due to the Catholic faith. I think it’s great that you’re on here searching for greater truths, but please be more respectful when making your inquiries.

But even assuming your moral superiority you claim is correct, let’s ignore the tone of my remarks, focusing instead on their substance. I and others have pointed out several substantive arguments as to why masturbation is wrong and your thought processes seem to be lacking in logic. Let’s see if we can have a fruitful conversation on these issues. Do you have any substantive replies to what I posted previously? I’ll try to help out if I am able.
 
Yes, I can see that this is a rule set in stone as far as the catholic church is concerned. That is helpful in of its self, the fact that reconciliation seems to be there to counter this human condition speaks of forgiveness for being human, and yes human beings have their faults, I’m still not convinced that this is mortal sin and yet human beings do indeed have their faults, but for this reason we have been given a great sacrifice so we are able to reconcile to god. I believe this is a good message, but its also clear that’s not the message many here are attempting to lend. The message most are conveying is- The church said don’t do it, so if you do your doomed, and any other opinion will be met with verbal battle and hate! No counsel, no love, no understanding, just- Kneel or die dogs. Is that really the message so many are attempting to convey here? I’m not saying that about all the posters here, its very easy to see which posts I am referring to. That type of intolerant condemning attitude should be driven from the church as a plague of death.
Tis not a question of rules. But of truth and love.

And this is not open to change - just as murder is not open to change. They are both gravely sinful actions.

Is it intolerant to inform a person who asks if murder is gravely sinful -that murder is indeed gravely sinful?

It would be contrary to love to say it is* not* gravely sinful.

One is not discussing here a fault but gravely sinful actions. Gravely harmful to the person who does them.

There is tons of counsel etc on these threads and on CA on this subject.
 
So you don’t like being told you’re wrong. Fine, I suppose it’s not the most persuasive method around. Nevertheless, you came onto a Catholic forum, decrying Catholic teaching, and by claiming that a life devoid of masturbation was impossible, denying that God’s grace is sufficient to overcome the sin of masturbation, and mocking Catholic saints who have done so. Such an attitude warrants strong condemnation lest others be confused. I even suspect your earlier post violated the forum rules about respect due to the Catholic faith. I think it’s great that you’re on here searching for greater truths, but please be more respectful when making your inquiries.

But even assuming your moral superiority you claim is correct, let’s ignore the tone of my remarks, focusing instead on their substance. I and others have pointed out several substantive arguments as to why masturbation is wrong and your thought processes seem to be lacking in logic. Let’s see if we can have a fruitful conversation on these issues. Do you have any substantive replies to what I posted previously? I’ll try to help out if I am able.
I suppose we could try, with the understanding that I don’t find you to be a generous or caring person and would not recommend you as a counselor or therapist at this point. No, being told I’m wrong is not offensive to me if its done with respect, you and I would have big problems face to face, although I doubt you would have the courage to speak to me like that face to face. People portray them selves differently in real time social encounters, much differently than they do while typing away at another post, this new communication devise many times causes a decided indifference or even rudeness when addressing others. Ok, back to the topic, the reason I believe masturbation is not some grave sin unto death as portrayed by many here is the act in its self does not hurt anyone if its done in the privacy of ones home, and I’m not speaking for the entire world, just for those having trouble with the issue. Fighting what appears to be a natural form of sexual release for those with no other form of sexual release could cause more severe problems, while engaging in this act as a natural release could indeed keep one from committing a notable sin, or even a crime. Say the crime of rape, I believe this issue is fully entangled with the very controversial celibacy issues the church must constantly deal with, if some one feels condemned no matter what they do it brings on a sense of helplessness and hopelessness which psychology teaches is the perfect storm setting for a violent reaction. Violence can be acted out in many ways, none of them good. So when making something as seemingly harmless as masturbation a sin, or a feeling of condemnation we are setting some one up for failure or worse. Wouldn’t you think?
 
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