Do you remember the negotiations with Snowe, Grassley, and Enzi that turned sour when FOX News & Republicans basically shuttled conservative “activists” to town hall meetings to shout down lawmakers over a health care bill that didn’t even exist yet? Grassley came out while in negotiations talking about how we were instituting “death panels.” Then, FOX News basically provided free advertising for the Tea Party movement, giving free information on the air on where you could find your local Tea Party/Republican meeting site. All still while there was no health care bill.
How much does that sound like “negotiation” vs. “stalling to try to drive down public opinion?” Ultimately, only Snowe agreed to actually work on the bill with any form of intent, being the only Republican to ever vote for the bill in committee, and by that point Democrats realized they had no hope of actually compromising with Republicans and that they had to write the bill themselves.
The Democrats made a good bill with lots of bad parts, yes. But it was the responsibility of Republicans to actually work to take out the bad parts in exchange for votes, and they completely floundered that responsibility in order to maximize 2010 anger for political gain.
Edit: As for the Stupak Amendment, because of the election of Scott Brown, Democrats could not pass anything through the Senate that was not budget-related. That is why the Democrats had to first pass a completely different health care bill in the House, then pass adjustments, while Democrats had to pass a reconcilation bill that could only adjust budgetary issues in the health care bill in the Senate. If they had tried to pass the Stupak Amendment in the Senate, it would have failed, because Republicans would have never helped them pass the health care bill, even if it meant giving up the pro-life issue.