Mom In Adulterous Relationship

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Loud-living-dogma said:
No reason the son can’t invite her to dinner and have her know her grandchildren at his house. Or at the zoo, parks, etc.
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Exactly!

Say the grandma’s love interest was another female wouldn’t the same rule of thumb apply (‘let them be, one day you can teach your children that God wants this over that; mean while just be happy you have two moms and your children two grandmas’); God did not set limitations to hurt man; God set limitations to Guide man.

Maran atha!

Angel
 
Dacinom said:
Children have a hard time processing that sex is sacred, when they are constantly exposed to someone they are supposed to look up to living in an adulterous trial marriage. Just my two cents.
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Exactly!

People keep wanting to undo damage after the fact. The old axiom is right on the money (an ounce of prevention); when we teach children through example to do or accept sin, it takes a huge amount of prayer and correction to show them the Word of God is against sin.

Remember that old song, “if you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with?” That’s how this “feel good” theology is; it distorts the Truth, packages lies as nectar, and removes responsibility and accountability from our lives… a free ticket to hell wrapped in “good feel!”

Maran atha!

Angel
 
JimG said:
Kids can pick up on things pretty easily. I hope this never happens but I can envision a child someday moving in with a boyfriend or girlfriend, and when parents object, saying something like, “Oh really, it’s no big deal. Even Grandma did it.”
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Jim, that’s hollowood’s parenting… if you watch any movie/show it comes down to that… when there’s a serious issue that needs to be handled it is always resolved with one/both parents alluding to how they did that or worse when they were growing up (this has filtered into all sorts of levels including police drama where the iconic cops/dets raised hell on earth before becoming the model citizens that they are–yeah, right!).

My brother was determine to preach the Gospel to anyone and everyone, including his tenants; one day I met one of them in a grocery store… he had long moved away from the neighborhood, yet, he clearly remembered my bother’s preaching… you know what else he remembered? “He cursed so much!” Yeah, they will remember what seems to be a hypocrisy: “do as I say (command), not as I/so and so does!.”

Maran atha!

Angel

Maran atha
 
Norseman82 said:
are you as tough on your father for walking out on your mother
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No. He could not control what his father did. The question is, if his father is in an adulterous relationship, is he as concerned to keep his children away from such unrighteous example?

Maran atha!

Angel
 
TheLittleLady said:
Does anyone here think for one moment that the grandmother in question is not aware of the condemnation of living together?
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I’m sure she probably does realize that what she is doing is wrong. But I wonder if she has forgotten that it is also wrong to enable other’s wrongdoing by giving bad example.
 
on_the_hill said:
It’s also an opportunity for the children to see that not everyone lives according to their parents’ behaviors. That’s the whole purpose of wanting to shield them from it, isn’t it? So that they don’t get the wrong ideas?
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The whole purpose of wanting to shield them from it?

So sin is no longer sin, right?

Maran atha!

Angel
 
TheLittleLady said:
Does anyone here think for one moment that the grandmother in question is not aware of the condemnation of living together?
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From the OP it seems that she has long put that away–she does not believe she is wrong to do her will.

Maran atha!

Angel
 
Catholic_Guy1 said:
My Dad left my Mom after 33 years of marriage and 4 kids about 8 years ago. It has been devastating to our family.
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And now you and the grandkids are going to walk out, too? My guess is that it will once again prove to be devastating.
 
You’re not your mother’s moral police officer. She’s your mother, man. Your mother.
 
Catholic_Guy1 said:
My Dad left my Mom after 33 years of marriage and 4 kids about 8 years ago. It has been devastating to our family.
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Are you also avoiding your father since he left your mom? I’m sticking with my earlier answer, but just wanted to throw this out there. Seems like it would be hypocritical if you don’t also avoid your father based on his actions…
 
Yes, they are both wrong. That’s Catholics for ya.

Divorce is ugly. Befriending a person guilty of sin isn’t the problem. The problem is when we do not have any lines between mortal sin and our friendship with neighbors.

Whoever bears the name Christian, is accountable to the Sacraments. Marriage was discussed in depth, in Scripture. Whether honoring or dishonoring, bound by God or free to Marry in the Lord.

Some Catholics like to imagine that no divorce is a terrible sin, but only remarriage. Yet we know that although some divorces are necessary because of rights of safety and health, in no way does that apply to all divorces.
 
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on_the_hill:
It’s also an opportunity for the children to see that not everyone lives according to their parents’ behaviors. That’s the whole purpose of wanting to shield them from it, isn’t it? So that they don’t get the wrong ideas?
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The whole purpose of wanting to shield them from it?

So sin is no longer sin, right?
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No, that’s not at all the point I made. We want to protect our children from sin. However, we can’t pretend that sin doesn’t exist. Sin won’t go away if we pretend it’s not there.
 
jcrichton said:
I may be wrong, but aren’t you suggesting that “grandma is just doing her” and the son should not just love her but just reach out and bring his children into the environment (sleepovers)?
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Just doing her . . . what? I don’t understand what you’re saying. I never denied grandma is sinning.
jcrichton said:
Keeping his children from the effect of immoral union is ostracizing?
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The effect? What is the effect?
 
If the mom share her bed with another man who is living with her, she is living in adultery if she is still sacramentally married.

Having full sexual intercourse or not, it’s going to far for a brother and sister’s live!
Of course, it is unchaste, and a sin. And as the person is not an engaged Catholic, she may don’t care at all, and don’t see it as a sin.

Some persons assume the contrary, but it is a way to avoid to deal with a difficult reality.
 
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Now obviously I don’t know anything about your mother’s boyfriend, but I would caution you against ever leaving your children alone with him. Perhaps I’m paranoid, but I’ve just heard way too many stories about “mum’s boyfriend” or “grandma’s boyfriend” ending up being a child molester.
 
Personally I’d avoid it. However I think it would be okay for your mother and her boyfriend to visit your family for dinner (without staying the night).
 
Hey, it happens. Plenty of validly married people share the same bed with very little…action…
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