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MGEISING
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Anyone care to share their expierence of their inlaws. And if you have a Monster Inlaw - how do you deal with it!
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sparkle
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Hey—funny----
Yes, I have one, my MIL for 17 years now. And I’d have to say I have learned from many trials to turn my hardness of heart into forgiveness and compassion. That’s how! Praise the Lord, for it’s only thru Him, and His divine Mercy.
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Friar_David_O.Carm
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I don’t think this is an appropriate topic for a Catholic Forum.
Maybe they aren’t Monster Inlaws, maybe its you that has the problem.
Maybe they aren’t Monster Inlaws, maybe its you that has the problem.
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MGEISING
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Hi ByzCath:
I am sorry that you found this thread offensive.
It truly was a vehicle to see how other people deal with difficult inlaws. The movie is such a hit … and so many people I know can relate one way or the other. It has been a great conversation starter.I think you also could have been a little more charitable with your reply.
Anyway, take care and many blessings to you.
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sparkle
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Yes, in a way I also agree. Perhaps this has no place here. God encourages us to have peace, but at least try to. We are all trying to do this. Why do you need to stir up strife? Do you have an issue friend? One we can help you with with Christ’s help and wisdom?
Or do you just want to discuss the movie? OK–that’s fine and well.
God Bless~
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MGEISING
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No issue at all! 
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MGEISING
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And just for your to know, David, my problem is that I am **CATHOLIC ** …They are fundamental Baptists. Very anti-catholic. So that is where my frustrations lie.
And although I might not care for my mother inlaw - both of my inlaws are fantastic grandparents and that is the biggest blessing.
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Scout
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I have a pretty good relationship with my in-laws. However, I’m not sure my husband would say the same. My mom’s okay, but he’s never actually met my father and we’ve been married for almost six years.
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Annunciata
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Happily, I can say that I was blessed w/ two wonderful mothers-in-law…
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contemplative
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ByzCath, This is a great one for marrieds.
My in-laws are very nice people…so nice - my husband and I made them our neighbors and when given the choice now they are making us their neighbors.
I know not all people are so blessed. I have heard some pretty terrible stories and sometimes it is therapeutic just to share.
My father’s in-laws (my grandparents) refused to ever be complimentary. No matter what good the old guy did his in-laws would never breath a positive note…sad.
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Lillith
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My DH sweet momma passed away before I ever got the chance to meet her…and I’m sorry for that, because she did an outstanding job with her son, and she must have been wonderful, and he loves her so much. Sometimes, I talk to her when I have trouble understanding her son! My husbands dad is really self involved, travels alot, but he’s really appreciative when he comes around.
My parents think My husband is the most incredible man on the Earth today…no problems there.
My parents think My husband is the most incredible man on the Earth today…no problems there.
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netmilsmom
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No, I’m sorry but some people cannot be blamed for the horrendous attitude of an in-law.
God may encourage us to have peace, but He also sends us people to humiliate us, in order to make us humble.
Just because someone has come to peace with a monster in-law, doesn’t make that person any better. And to state that the person who wrote this has a problem is not really not fair. Who says that this person stirred up strife?? That’s awfully bold of you to assume.
My hubby’s mother is so bad that even her own children have a problem with her.
I thought when I got married that if I treated this lady like I treated my dear departed mother, that she would be better. HA! My hubby and his siblings try not to do anything for this lady because when you do she gets hostile. The more I did the worse she treated me. In the end when she brought presents for 3 other children at my house at Christmas and forgot my 5 year old, I realized that one cannot change behavior.
Through prayer I realized that the both of us are better off not seeing each other. Jesus said turn the other cheek but never said to keep setting yourself up to be slapped. We get together for limited times. I love my FIL so I stick by him and my hubby stays by his mom. He also fronts for the kids so she doesn’t hurt them.
It has worked out.
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sparkle
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netmil(name removed by moderator):
See what you’re saying! Always someone in these forums takes what we all say the wrong way. Can’t be helped I suppose. Yes, the originator of this thread has a total right to air–why of course—I see where you are coming from too friend. I have been where you are, and know full well what you are talking about. I agree that just cuz we forgive, we do not need to put ourselves in situations to be abused. By all means no. Believe me I know what ya mean! And I agree. Still, I do believe somewhere in here–forgiveness and anger will turn to compassion. It has for me, I pray it will for you too! Still there is a much needed distance, and only prayer for my MIL.
God Bless~
Hi netmil(name removed by moderator):
See what you’re saying! Always someone in these forums takes what we all say the wrong way. Can’t be helped I suppose. Yes, the originator of this thread has a total right to air–why of course—I see where you are coming from too friend. I have been where you are, and know full well what you are talking about. I agree that just cuz we forgive, we do not need to put ourselves in situations to be abused. By all means no. Believe me I know what ya mean! And I agree. Still, I do believe somewhere in here–forgiveness and anger will turn to compassion. It has for me, I pray it will for you too! Still there is a much needed distance, and only prayer for my MIL.
God Bless~
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MGEISING
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If we all were more charitable and not read into things, I think it would be a much nicer and more comfortable place to visit … especially people looking in from the outside.
Have a great weekend.
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netmilsmom
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You are in my prayers as well. I have actually started praying to St. Michael the Archangel when I have to be near her. One day, heaven knows it will be out loud!
Take heart friend! Many abused daughters-in-law that I know have been the one MIL is begging for on her deathbed, to apologize and say that she was actually wonderful.
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Princess_Abby
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Personally I think this is a great thread with a humorous twist on a serious subject.
My in-laws are both…impossible. We haven’t seen them for almost two years. (On the advice of a Catholic therapist.)
One of the only ways I have begun to heal from this situation was to talk about it with others who understood and could relate to the situation.
Sometimes the self-righetous posts from those who clearly either can’t identify or simply don’t understand are perceived as very uncharitable and extremely unnecessary. The OP obviously was being light-hearted about a situation that plagues many young husbands and wives.
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My in-laws are both…impossible. We haven’t seen them for almost two years. (On the advice of a Catholic therapist.)
One of the only ways I have begun to heal from this situation was to talk about it with others who understood and could relate to the situation.
Sometimes the self-righetous posts from those who clearly either can’t identify or simply don’t understand are perceived as very uncharitable and extremely unnecessary. The OP obviously was being light-hearted about a situation that plagues many young husbands and wives.
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kamz
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My mother in law has 11 children, my husband is the baby of the family 
My mother in law had a husband who left her when my hubby was 3 years old
She worked hard, never took any welfare, etc. etc. of course, I’ve heard the story…get my drift?
So, yep, I love the woman and she is going to be 80 yrs old and she is wise and wonderful but somehow, I feel like I can never fully live up to her expectations, like I’m somehow, not good enough for her little boy, you know? But, thats my fears, she has never said anything…but…she does make comments such as…I never ever spanked my kids, never had to…well, gee, good for you.
Or, if I am getting after a child, she will step in, “oh, let them have it this one time” it totally undermines me…but, I have three sons and someday, I will probably have 3 daughter in laws, so I’m learning, I don’t ever want my daughter in laws to hate me, so I’m going to keep my mouth shut and try not to give out advice unless I’m asked and even then I’m going to be very careful.
My mother in law had a husband who left her when my hubby was 3 years old
She worked hard, never took any welfare, etc. etc. of course, I’ve heard the story…get my drift?
So, yep, I love the woman and she is going to be 80 yrs old and she is wise and wonderful but somehow, I feel like I can never fully live up to her expectations, like I’m somehow, not good enough for her little boy, you know? But, thats my fears, she has never said anything…but…she does make comments such as…I never ever spanked my kids, never had to…well, gee, good for you.
Or, if I am getting after a child, she will step in, “oh, let them have it this one time” it totally undermines me…but, I have three sons and someday, I will probably have 3 daughter in laws, so I’m learning, I don’t ever want my daughter in laws to hate me, so I’m going to keep my mouth shut and try not to give out advice unless I’m asked and even then I’m going to be very careful.
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DJgang
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Yes, I have one…that’s all I will say. :yup:
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CARose
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My daughter has only one living grandparent and that’s my dad, so, No I don’t have any monster-in-laws. My Father-in-law died before I met my husband, so I never had the opportunity to get to know him. I often wish I had, I think it would help to better understand my DH.
I did meet my MIL and she was nice enough. My husband knew my mom before she passed, and they got along great.
But I think this is a fine topic for a Catholic Forum. As has been stated by others here, we’re human, and we encounter difficult situations with other humans we interact with. Where better to share stories and perhaps learn better ways of working through things. Sometimes just laughing at a war story is the best medicine.
CARose
I did meet my MIL and she was nice enough. My husband knew my mom before she passed, and they got along great.
But I think this is a fine topic for a Catholic Forum. As has been stated by others here, we’re human, and we encounter difficult situations with other humans we interact with. Where better to share stories and perhaps learn better ways of working through things. Sometimes just laughing at a war story is the best medicine.
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LittleDeb
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For me too, this was a helpful thread. DH and I were just discussing his father last night. I was sad because our son won’t be able to know him, not because he’s deceased…but because he can be such a selfish jerk!
DH said, “Don’t worry about my dad. I forgave him and my mother divorced him! He’s not your problem.” I still have irrational fears that DH will turn out like him. He won’t. His mom raised him alone even though his parents were still married and lived in the same house!
DH loves my parents. They get along great. He’s very close to my dad. I love DH’s mom. She loves me and tells me so. She sent me flowers when I was feeling low recently. I was feeling like I was failing as a wife and mother and she really cheered me up. She said, “Darlin’, you can write your name on every piece of furniture in my house!” Her house is always neat and dusted so it made me laugh.
DH said, “Don’t worry about my dad. I forgave him and my mother divorced him! He’s not your problem.” I still have irrational fears that DH will turn out like him. He won’t. His mom raised him alone even though his parents were still married and lived in the same house!
DH loves my parents. They get along great. He’s very close to my dad. I love DH’s mom. She loves me and tells me so. She sent me flowers when I was feeling low recently. I was feeling like I was failing as a wife and mother and she really cheered me up. She said, “Darlin’, you can write your name on every piece of furniture in my house!” Her house is always neat and dusted so it made me laugh.
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