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TamaraSieja
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Wow, there were a lot of harsh replies on this thread! Not that it matters any more, I stand by my first opnion that you should take your oldest daughter at the very least. This thread wasn’t one bit about whether we-- total and complete strangers-- approve of how John & Jane behaved or whether they “deserve” a big fancy wedding. We can all say the “hind sight is 20/20” thing and yes I totally agree that a smaller wedding would be totally appropriate but we aren’t talking to Jane. We are talking to the Original Poster who is the mother of Jane’s god child. Jane is a role model for this young woman and her mother has ligitimate concerns.
We are supposed to be Catholic, people. What happened to “love the sinner but hate the sin?” It is not our place to judge! JBettin you know your children best. If you feel your younger children are not mature enough to understand that you disapprove of cohabitating before marriage, sex before marriage, etc. don’t take them. Your eldest needs to be there. Think about how Jane will feel since she’s still estranged from her family then if her own God-Child doesn’t come to what is supposed to be one of the happiest days of her life? Trust me, she already knows her mistake!
Don’t get me wrong, I totally agree with you that Jane should take their financial situation into stock when planning her wedding but it sounds as if that’s not going to happen. Perhaps you could get her a more useful wedding gift? Something that they will truly need in daily life? (If they’re desperate for baby things, you could do that but personally I’d try to keep the baby out of it. I’m thinking like household items.) It doesn’t need to be expensive, trust me even decent bath towels will be appreciated a year down the line.
Weddings nowadays seem to drive people wild! Girls in my generation and younger (I’m 28) have grown up with Barbie Princess and Dream Weddings. There’s Bridzillas, Platinum Weddings, A Wedding Story… the list goes on of all these Wedding’s-gone-wild type of thing. I’m not saying cut her some slack, just remember that she must have been a beautiful, lovely person for you to have chosen her to be your daughter’s God parent.
Love her. Love her husband and Love her child.
Hope that you’ve been able to make a decision that eases your mind & your soul!
We are supposed to be Catholic, people. What happened to “love the sinner but hate the sin?” It is not our place to judge! JBettin you know your children best. If you feel your younger children are not mature enough to understand that you disapprove of cohabitating before marriage, sex before marriage, etc. don’t take them. Your eldest needs to be there. Think about how Jane will feel since she’s still estranged from her family then if her own God-Child doesn’t come to what is supposed to be one of the happiest days of her life? Trust me, she already knows her mistake!
Don’t get me wrong, I totally agree with you that Jane should take their financial situation into stock when planning her wedding but it sounds as if that’s not going to happen. Perhaps you could get her a more useful wedding gift? Something that they will truly need in daily life? (If they’re desperate for baby things, you could do that but personally I’d try to keep the baby out of it. I’m thinking like household items.) It doesn’t need to be expensive, trust me even decent bath towels will be appreciated a year down the line.
Weddings nowadays seem to drive people wild! Girls in my generation and younger (I’m 28) have grown up with Barbie Princess and Dream Weddings. There’s Bridzillas, Platinum Weddings, A Wedding Story… the list goes on of all these Wedding’s-gone-wild type of thing. I’m not saying cut her some slack, just remember that she must have been a beautiful, lovely person for you to have chosen her to be your daughter’s God parent.
Love her. Love her husband and Love her child.
I think this is one of the best quotes that I have seen! Remember the type of parent you are. Your children are not Jane! They will grow up with your views, not Jane’s parents views.
Hope that you’ve been able to make a decision that eases your mind & your soul!