The seminary where we are having the 4 pm wedding mass runs a tight ship. We are allowed to be there 3:30 until 5:30pm. The next wedding (if one is scheduled) will be at 6 pm. And there is a 2 pm slot before us. So there is no dilly dallying around.
Thank you! We are excited. My daughter is marrying a wonderful Catholic guy. And that’s the most important thing…the wedding is one day, the marriage is a lifetime.But I’m glad you were able to find another church nearby which offered the 4p.m. mass and able to have your parish priest. Congratulations to your family and your daughter. This time between the wedding day and now is going to fly.
Yep… I thought you were from the same area I’m from. I’m in the Philadelphia area and in NYC every week and I’d say almost every old church down here and up there have those kinds of “accommodations”. It’s actually very nice to have an upper and lower church.
This is true. You do need at least an hour between weddings or masses.
For many of the church weddings I’ve sung at, including in our Cathedral (they do 85-100/year), photographs are not permitted before or after the wedding – inside or in front of the church. This is so that the weddings after the last one won’t start late and also so by the time the 3:00 wedding is done, guests will be out of the parking lot before the 5:00 mass. Although, when they do permit a wedding at the same time as the mass, it’s a fairly crowded parking lot. I don’t know if they ask the bridal couple to provide parking for their guests somewhere else like they do for the Friday evening weddings.
As parents, it is our duty to instruct our children in the Faith. This includes teaching them the facts of Catholic Marriage. Use those teachable moments - when a TV wedding takes place on a beach or where ever, point out what is wrong with this picture, what we are required to observe, etc.
Yes, I totally agree with this. I remember as a very little girl, I would see these lovely garden weddings around my area. I just thought they were so “pretty”. (When I look back, this was during the 80s and those gowns and hairdos were the creampuff, over-the-top, sugary details that many little girls drool over. My 5 year-old-neice right now is like that – the gawdier the better. Ha! Ha!) One day, as we drove by a wedding taking place in a garden, I turned to my very devout grandmother and said, “When I grow up, I want to have a garden wedding.” I still remember this look of concern on her face and saying to me, “Oh, no, you can’t get married in a garden. Catholics must be married in a church to celebrate the sacrament of marriage.” And, like most 6-year-olds, I asked, “Why?” So she went into child detail as to the importance of a sacrament and why it had to be in a sacred place. It was a great teaching moment for her and for me.
You make perfect sense. I agree with you.I think the problem lays with the couple getting married. They, like more and more people these days, do not have God and the church at the “CORE” of themselves. My wife and I have God and the church at our core. Thus having our wedding the way we did, in the church, was the only option.
It revolves back to how the children were raised and what is important. Not wanting a wedding in the church and having it on some sandy beach tells me they don’t have the church in their core.
It is sad really, but the question is how do we change that. Start with your own children.
The church needs to get away from far left liberal thinking and needs to get more traditional and quit white washing everything.
I am sorry, but what I feel today is people goto church hear a few readings, a gospel, shake hands and hug, get communion and go home. (Please I am not saying everyone is like that.) There has to be a much deeper meaning than just going through the motions and when there is a much deeper meaning to our faith, Then everything else will fall into place. Baptisms, marriages, 1st communions, etc.
If our faith is in a persons core, then having a wedding outside the church would never cross their mind.
I hope I am making sense.
Your wedding ceremony is so beautiful:thumbsup:
Dh didn’t really either even if slightly better informed than I, we were married in a nonCatholic ceremony because we were lapsed & while it was “nice” it lacked so much because it was not the Sacrament of Matrimony in the Church. We have since gone through the convalidation process which was beautiful but not the same as if we had done it “right” the first time. It’s by knowing those who did understand the Sacraments & the Church that we came home. SO seeing such beautiful Catholic weddings makes me both sad but very happy! I pray for all those who have yet to understand the beauty of faith
Thanks for the compliments.Your wedding ceremony is so beautiful:thumbsup:
I am so sad because I didn’t understand anything about my faith
I know I will not make the mistake of leaving my children to figure out the Sacraments or the Catholic faith on their own, they need parents to really teach them what it means. Even though we have good parents they just assumed we would learn the faith from others, they were more private about the faith.
Because Canon Law says it is a problem. Catholics must follow the Catholic form of marriage, and currently that form requires the wedding to take place in a Catholic Church. One can apply for a dispensation from this form, but the Bishop can deny it.
Not without a dispensation from your Bishop.
And, not one thing would change if you had your wedding elsewhere. The mass is the mass. I do not see this as a relevant reason to petition for your wedding to take place elsewhere.
I didn’t think you did.
No, it cannot. That is the entire point of this thread.
No way can it be taught in CCD alone, however, the CCD instructors HAVE to touch each subject as some parents are lax in their duty to instruct children in the Faith.