For me, there are three very, very common abuses -
- The stupid, childish rubbish of holding hands at the Our Father - ever look at the zig-zag lines of people leaning forward and backward to hold the hands of people in other pews? Besides that, it sort of makes the hand-shake at the Sign of Peace less than it should be, since holding hands is much more intimate than shaking hands.
- Both priests and lay people (readers) changing certain words, such as “man” and “mankind” to “people” or “human kind”.
and 3. Priests not wearing the Chasuble for weekday Mass - as if the weekday Mass was less important than Sunday Mass!
All three of these “get” me.
However, there are worse abuses - such as EMHC’s self-communicating; priests adlibbing prayers instead of reading the proper ones; absolute foolishness preached - whether by priests or lay-people (thank Heaven, I have only experienced a lay person preaching the homily once, and that when I was in another country!), etc.
There are so many abuses, that we have to “tolerate” the less horrendous ones and be thankful when there are only a few.
For a truly abuse free Mass, I love to be at a Mass celebrated by a priest of Opus Dei. You can see and feel the reverence. It’s just wonderful!