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bella2005
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im 15 and i think its not that weird for 16 and 20 to date. its only a couple of years difference. but idk
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Irishmom2
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Well, sorry, that’s because you are only seeing this with a 15 year old brain.
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RolandThompsonGunner
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I guarantee, when you’re 20, you will find the idea of dating a 16 year old super weird and gross.im 15 and i think its not that weird for 16 and 20 to date. its only a couple of years difference. but idk
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redbetta
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It’s not so much the raw numbers as it is the experience/developmental gap. If they were both in their 20s, then I would agree, but he has been a legal adult for a few years now while she is still a minor. That’s a world of a difference right there in terms of maturity level, naïveté, perspective, etc.
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cjsm93
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First of all, you should be commended for your concern for your friend’s safety. If more people looked out for each other like that, this world would be a happier place.
Back to the main issue, she is a minor and he is not. This could lead to very serious and dangerous consequences for your friend, and criminal charges for him. How do we know he is even 20? He could be 40. You can be anything you want to be on the internet; and there are many child predators that use that anonymity to their advantage. I think you need to go right to her parents and tell them what’s going on, if they do not know already, which I am guessing they don’t. No 20 year old man should be searching for a young, teenaged girlfriend.
Please notify trusted adults about this situation. You’re a wonderful friend for trying to warn her about these dangers, but I feel like the next best step is not to try and convince her yourself, but to get her family involved.
There are so many sex offenders who are very persuasive and smooth in their manipulation of teenage girls. They convince them to have secret relationships, until they’re finally able to get them to meet in person.
I know there can also be truthful, successful relationships that begin online, and there’s no harm in that. But to me, a huge red flag is the very fact that a man his age finds a teen attractive. A four year age gap, where one of the individuals is a minor, makes a world of difference in maturity, among other things. His motivations definitely need to be questioned here.
Back to the main issue, she is a minor and he is not. This could lead to very serious and dangerous consequences for your friend, and criminal charges for him. How do we know he is even 20? He could be 40. You can be anything you want to be on the internet; and there are many child predators that use that anonymity to their advantage. I think you need to go right to her parents and tell them what’s going on, if they do not know already, which I am guessing they don’t. No 20 year old man should be searching for a young, teenaged girlfriend.
Please notify trusted adults about this situation. You’re a wonderful friend for trying to warn her about these dangers, but I feel like the next best step is not to try and convince her yourself, but to get her family involved.
There are so many sex offenders who are very persuasive and smooth in their manipulation of teenage girls. They convince them to have secret relationships, until they’re finally able to get them to meet in person.
I know there can also be truthful, successful relationships that begin online, and there’s no harm in that. But to me, a huge red flag is the very fact that a man his age finds a teen attractive. A four year age gap, where one of the individuals is a minor, makes a world of difference in maturity, among other things. His motivations definitely need to be questioned here.
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cjsm93
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It most certainly is illegal. If anything sexual ends up going on between the two of them, he faces imprisonment and life on the sex offender registry. I can almost guarantee that this so-called Catholic 20 year old man’s intentions are far from pure.I don’t see what’s illegal about it. It’s certainly weird and creepy for a 20 year to be trying to date a junior in high school, but it’s not illegal.
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