My Abusive Dad

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Yes. It’s sad how life isn’t the way most people wish ir were.
 
You are in all of our prayers. You sound like a remarkable young man; congratulations on becoming Catholic.
The safety of your family is the first consideration. Everything else comes second: hurt feelings, pride, family cohesion. It’s true that if you get involved with social agencies they may stay involved a long time, but there are some caring people who work for them. They can help. No one should be abused; there is no excuse.

I feel for your mother. I was an abused wife. I just didn’t get it, that I could leave. It never entered my head. It might be that way for your mother. It didn’t occur to me, until a counsellor asked me why I stayed in the situation, that I could leave, indeed that I had a responsibility to protect myself and my children.

It was so wonderful to be free of fear… It took years to reclaim my self confidence, but it can be done.

Will be praying for your family.
 
Just a suggestion. Bruises and scrapes and cuts looks at their worse about 24 to 48 hours AFTER they happen. Pictures should be taken then as well, to show the progression of the damage and to illustrate the injuries when they look the worst and most extensive.
 
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Just a suggestion. Bruises and scrapes and cuts looks at their worse about 24 to 48 hours AFTER they happen. Pictures should be taken then as well, to show the progression of the damage and to illustrate the injuries when they look the worst and most extensive.
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EXCELLENT advice…and it is important to keep a journal. Keeping track of how such an atmosphere affects your sleep habits, your thought processes and the eating habits of those around you can help when you talk to your school officials and to future counselors. It can also help once the abusing parent gets into counselling and it is time to start working (if it is possible) towards unification of the family. Many times, the family starts to downplay what happenned…it’s a natural defense mechanism that God gave us to protect us from bad memories and horrors. Writing down how you feel NOW will help you when it’s time to go over with the abuser what it felt like to go through the rages and attacks so that THEY will not be able to talk themselves or their victims into thinking it wasn’t all that bad.
 
By all means, call the childline number. Don’t wait; they are the experts & will be able to discuss your options.

You are a terrific young man, & you & your family are in my prayers. God bless.
 
Jesus Loves You And So Do I
Do Not Let Anyone Pull You Down
Stay Close To Your Siblings Tell Them You Love Them
Be Strong In Heart
Forgive Him
Know God Forgives < It Will Help You To
Hold Your Mother< Show Her That She Is Beautiful
 
How are you doing? Did you call childline? If not, don’t hesitate! What your father is doing sounds very dangerous. Someone could be killed. You are doing the right thing by protecting your siblings. Please don’t listen to those who assume you are lying or exaggerating, they are not in a position to judge your actions. Those of us who take what you say at face value agree about what you should do. God, too, knows your intentions, and if you act only to protect your family from a real danger, you are doing the right thing.
 
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