I can understand where you’re coming from. In a way, it’s somewhat similar when you go to Mass at Christmas and Easter and you see many…“unfamiliar” faces going up to receive the Eucharist. Also, when you go to your parish’s designated Reconciliation period every week, you can see who goes often - and you think that even the “familiar” faces don’t go, so what is their current state?
Personally, I’ve decided to not be the “older brother” in the parable of the prodigal son. I still evangelize and catechize, and do so in method some describe as “relational ministry”. But those things happen before or after Mass, not during Mass. During Mass, I try to bring myself “back to the manger”, and keep things between myself and the Child Jesus.
Also, do you have a spiritual director? Finding one could be beneficial, although they are hard to find (I’m a month away from finishing a spiritual director course, and I already have people asking if we could set up recurring appointments. Supply and demand, I guess).