My pastor won't marry us

[Shoshana]

puppylove:

Originally Posted by Shoshana

Puppylove,

I am not surprised you come from such a family. Your emotional reaction dictates this. You needn’t have even stated this as it was so obvious. Many people have responded on this thread from a background of alcoholism. It is not a pretty picture. Alcohol …

*And what kinds of family do you come from? Does your emotional reaction in this forum dictate your personality? You need not state your coldness and heartlessness, for it is very obvious. May God forgive you for being so remorseless and cruel to me in this post. *

*My whole intention was to give Supplex suport, love and compassion and it has turned in to a “devil” fight. *

Puppy

Puppylove,
If my words came across as that, please forgive me. I am not known to be such as you describe. I thoroughly understand the dymamincs going on, as many testify to this themselves. I have described to you my coming from an alcoholic background and my struggles with it. Our vision is cloudy because of it.

I will not continue to deliberate, as this will not do any good. Calling this a ‘devil’ fight is so far from the truth. But what can I say? Having been in an exorcism for five years I am much aware what a devil fight is. This is not the case, my friend. The internet is a difficult means of communication to come across with ideas. I try to improve my communication skills, but along with others here, I try to strive for the truth and I refuse to sugar things for others and myself. It is not the loving thing to do.

Blessings,
Shoshana

Have a good day. The only thing I feel bad about is you seeing my post as cold and heartless.

 

[darcee]

puppylove:

Darcee: When someone attacks me personally, yes I do take it personally, and I think you both owe me an apology.

What on earth do you think I should apologize for?Pointing out that you are not a cannon lawyer?
Pointing out that you are overly emotional on this topic?

I don’t think either of those are out of line. No one has attacked you. You are taking things personally that aren’t.

-D

 

[supplex]

Thank you for your prayers and replies. This has been most helpful to me. I recognize my husband has a problem with alcohol and if it were my choice, I would “put” him in AA today.

I also understand better my pastor’s reluctancy to bless our marriage. I’m not saying I agree, just that I understand why. I realize, based on my history, that he does not want me to make the same mistake. But we’ve been together 13 years. And in that time, our commitment has grown. We have seen it in each other and talked about it. It’s been tough, but by the grace of God…we both know God has had his hand in our relationship to help us work things out. Yes, the alcohol is still a problem, but it is not death and has not terminated this relationship.

I will continue to talk to my pastor and seek his advice. He also has a family history of alcoholism, so he speaks from experience.

 

[puppylove]

What on earth do you think I should apologize for?Pointing out that you are not a cannon lawyer?
Pointing out that you are overly emotional on this topic?

I don’t think either of those are out of line. No one has attacked you. You are taking things personally that aren’t.

-D

Sorry no apology necessary.