My prenatal exam showed Trisomy 18 high risk

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Yes that is what I was talking about. Before my two living babies, I had several miscarriages and still births. It was always suspected to be chromosomal and assumed I would not have living biological children. Even with all that, my two girls are perfectly healthy, no anomalies, and have never been sick. I had 13 losses as a young lady. And in my old age I have two healthy girls. It makes no logical sense. There is always hope, and it is a blessing to be able to prepare if things look to be not what we had hoped. Yes, love your baby. Name him. Bond with him. Pray to his guardian angel. I will as well. I promise you, even if he is only with you for a short time on earth, he will be with you for eternity in heaven.
 
Oh my gosh thank you so much. Thank you especially for reminding me to pray to his guardian angel and for your encouragement.
 
There are some conditions that can be treated in the womb and others that the baby’s best chance of survival is for the hospital to know as much about their medical condition as possible prior to birth. My cousin’s daughter had some of her internal organs protruding from her body prior to birth, but the hospital was ready to get her into surgery the moment she was born and now she’s a healthy, typical child. These tests aren’t a “bad thing”. They are being used for eugenic purposes by terribly misguided people.
 
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My wife and I are both older and my wife’s pregnancies were considered “high risk” because of her age. Our 4 years old daughter showed the (borderline) soft markers for Downs but was clear during genetic testing (non Amnio). Our almost 2 years old son’s genetic testing (non Amnio) came back with with a "positive’ for Trisomy 18. We also declined the Amnio because of the possible risk. In both cases, we too were asked (several times) about terminating and we declined.
It will be stressful until you “know” know instead of “think” know. For us knowing that there may be an “problem” helped us prepare, mentally and spiritually, although to be honest with you, I don’t think you will ever be prepared. We also understood that the test we took was accurate, it wasn’t 100%. Personally, we think that one of us may have a genetic marker that might “confuse” the test.

Neither of our kids have shown any physical/health signs of problems and developmentally they are both on track.

With all that being said, you will be in our prayers.

Vivat Jesus…JM
 
Praying for you Martha and your baby. Trust in God and never give up hope. Just know that whatever you must endure along the path Gods plan always works out for the good!
 
MarthaSo said:
The doctor said I should in case I want to terminate
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By the way, this must be said, thank you for choosing life!

I know you didn’t consider abortion despite your doctor, but it took an act of the will to say that yes to life. Thank you! ❤️
 
Thank you for your kind words. I’ll never forget his words, when he said them, he didn’t say it as someone having to say something by law in a regretful manner. May the Lord forgive me if I misjudge, and I say it because it’s still so fresh in my mind—the horror of those words, but the way he said it—I felt like I was talking to the ancient enemy himself, he was so cool and calculated and (I’ve no idea how my disposition was calm my husband actually conmented on it, he was on the line with me) after he said that I peacefully responded to the doctor that the common discrepancy between the 2 tests wasn’t worth the risk of pursuing further anyway. But the “real” me would have shown him anger at the suggestion. It was such a strange conversation I felt like God guided my words and manner, and I’m not sure why but my calm response made him uneasy in the way he spoke afterwards. Strange! After we hung up my husband called me back he was upset too at his flippant way and said he wondered whatever happened to the doctors hippocratic oath of “first do no harm.”
Thank you again, God bless you.
 
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Amen. Thank you so very much for your words of encouragement. God bless you
 
Thank you for your prayers and for sharing your story. God bless your precious family.
 
MarthaSo said:
I wasn’t told the test was optional I would not have taken it.
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We are not from the same country, but I don’t see why a prenatal test (whatever form) can be an absolute mandate. (Can a mother risk a trial if she refused something?)

All is optional and at the choice, or consent to the mother.
It’s really personal, and myself, I have declined a lot of tests in my pregnancies, or have negociate the conditions.
 
It’s interesting because there were two particular tests that I did know to decline. The doctor showed he wasn’t happy that I declined and tried to push it (no idea why it bothered him) but I do remember him saying, after I asked him what to expect my first visit (my last prenatal was 16 years prior so it was all new to me again) and he said blood tests which I thought was standard. I told him I just wanted the basics. Things have changed quite a bit since 16 years ago. Thank you for sharing
 
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Yes, things in prenatal testings changed really quickly, for having more tests with “better” results.
Things have change too, for my first pregnancy in 2015/2016 and for my now pregnancy. (for eg the new blood tests for detecting trisomies a a first step before an amniocentesis, that is becoming to be introduced slowly in my country)

Many tests are completely optionnal, but presented as a routine by doctors.
I suppose that your doctor was not happy with your refusal, because:
1/ if no test is done, no diagnostic can be made. No cure, no “solution”. So he is helpless as a doctor.
2/ legal risk: if not all pregnancy tests are done, a special need child are more likely to be born. And if, the parents can attack the doctors/hospitals for seeking finacial compensation because they cannot choose an abortion.

When I refused an ultrasound (presented as a mandatory) for my first baby, the doctor made me a moral lesson, and frighten me of administrative problems. It was the first time a patient refuse that. For my second pregnancy, my wishes are known and respect.
You are right to change of doctors if you want.
 
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Unfortunately the pro-choice agenda has a strong hold on society. When you hear in the news or from organizations that birth defects have decreased they don’t mention one factor in the reduction is due to the response that Martha received. The doctors have the upper hand when speaking to the parents…they know what is coming. The parents are hit with unexpected news and while their heads are spinning they are usually offered “an appointment to take care of this.” Martha, you and your husband a truly amazing that you handled the situation as you did. Most doctors if asked why they handled things the way they did…it’s because it’s the standard practice.

I’ll continue to pray for you and will have a candle lit at the Shrine of the Divine Mercy. I am a Circle of Light member and my donation includes a candle lit every week. I will have a candle lit for the week of Nov 15-21. Prayers will also be prayed by the priests, Marians of the Immaculate Conception, as well as a prayer minister. My candles are lit in the Immaculate Conception Candle Shrine. If you want more info check out www.marian.org.

Don’t give up. Matthew has a message and you are his courier.

Jean
 
Dearest sweet mother, I would like to share with you my experiences. In 1980 I gave birth to my son Michael Jude. Because two years before his birth I was put on 2 anti-seizure medications (1 that I did not need) my son was born a hydantoin syndrome baby. We knew nothing about the chances of him being born with anything wrong with him. The day Michael was born, my pediatrician walked into my room with his hand extended (I thought to congratulate me). Up to that point I knew nothing about the condition of my son except that they whisked him away immediately after birth. When I asked my Dr if my son would kive he said very coldly “Perhaps it’s better if he doesn’t.”. I think I must have gone numb with shock. Michael spent most of his life in the NICU and on the Critical Pediatrics floor. He died in my arms at 5 1/2 months. But I always felt blessed to have him and I became so much closer to Jesus and the Blessed Mother.
My second experience was with my first granddaughter. My daughter had called me hysterical because she had just given birth to a baby girl who only weighed 2 lbs. After our short conversation, I immediately put my head in my hands. I was filled with so much fear I couldn’t pray then I heard a voice in my head say “All that comes to you comes from My hands first.”
May you and your husband be filled with God’s peace and His presence in this time of unknowing. You are surrounded by love and so many wonderful praying people. Please keep us updated as your pregnancy progresses.
 
My wife and I talked about a large family even before we were married…after we wed, we tried for many years, but were unsuccessful…know that you are blessed, and know that both you and Matthew are in our prayers.
 
Wow, thank you so much. So many prayers you have offered for us and your kindness. Thank you Lord for tears of joy as well. God bless you JK61.
 
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