My prenatal exam showed Trisomy 18 high risk

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Thank you very much for your kind post and for sharing your story. Even after the doctor said it looks good he still wanted me to see the genetics counselor. The truth is I don’t want to go back until it’s time for delivery. I’ve had 3 ultrasounds and they said maybe more to come. My mothers instinct is telling me if I never showed up again until delivery everything will be fine.
 
I understand…I hated going to the OB more than I needed too. I’m glad I didn’t know about my daughter’s condition when I was pregnant with her. It made it more enjoyable and less stressful. Go with your gut and if you can, find another doctor…one who can respect you 🙂
 
Wow, God bless your family. Thank you for sharing here and for your prayers.
 
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The truth is I don’t want to go back until it’s time for delivery. I’ve had 3 ultrasounds and they said maybe more to come. My mothers instinct is telling me if I never showed up again until delivery everything will be fine.
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It’s your choice. they cannot force you to do something.
Your mother instinct would be proven true or false, we cannot know of course. All you just to have I to have peace of mind and accept the possible consequences.

If one followed the medical path: perhaps more scary for him. And perhaps more certitude on a way to a diagnostic.
If not: not certitude, but perhaps a better peace of mind before the birth. The future will tell the rest.
 
I’m so glad your ultrasound came back clean! I understand being conflicted about more ultrasounds. I would give the doctor the chance to make his case, but I would make it 100% that there was not going to be an abortion, under any circumstances, and ask, given that information, what the point of the additional ultrasounds would be. It may be, in that case, that the doctor tells you there is no reason for more ultrasounds. It could also be that there are some concerns that might be addressed medically prior to birth, or immediately after.
 
Thank you Allegra for your advice and your prayers, I appreciate your encouragement very much!
 
I’m sorry for this upsetting news. Having gone through this myself at age 41, my baby was shown to have trisomy 21 and severe defects incompatible with life, I just wanted to share a couple things I learned (our baby did naturally die in utero at 20 weeks):
This is much more common than you would think. It’s great you are reaching out online to hear from other mothers.
Drs will suggest termination, but I found that when I said it was not an option they were respectful.
You should take the NIPT blood test. It is now main way of diagnosing common genetic problems.
Also there is now perinatal hospice if you are able to carry the baby , but is not expected to live.
Prayers to you & fam
 
Hi Liz, I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful angel. Thank you so much for sharing here and for your prayers which mean very much to me and my family. The doctors said the baby looks healthy but I still need to see a genetic counselor. God bless you
 
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MarthaSo said:
Thank you very much for your kind post and for sharing your story. Even after the doctor said it looks good he still wanted me to see the genetics counselor. The truth is I don’t want to go back until it’s time for delivery. I’ve had 3 ultrasounds and they said maybe more to come. My mothers instinct is telling me if I never showed up again until delivery everything will be fine.
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I’ve been silently following this thread and praying for you and your baby. I am so happy that the ultrasound turned out well for you.

I don’t know if anybody has mention this in the thread yet, but part of the formula for risk in the blood test is based on age. It can be misleading if you are older because it calculates your risk based solely on your age and combines them with the blood markers. Almost any woman in her forties will come back with results putting her at high risk because you are already at high risk.

But please be at peace. Either way, you love this baby and God loves this baby. His life will touch so many, no matter his condition. My prayers are with you.
 
Prayers

Hail Mary, full of grace,
The Lord is with Thee
Blessed art thou among women,
And blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
Pray for us sinners,
Now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Our Father,
who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy name
thy kingdom come
thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgive those who trespass against us
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
Amen.
 
I’m so happy for you! If the ultrasounds look good, I’m sure the baby is fine! Enjoy your pregnancy & baby!
 
So many stories here of healthy babies born after that darned genetic screen test gave high risk results. One more: the blood marker test said my daughter had high risk of Downs. It was presented to me as a near fait accompli. Genetic counselor was a young girl just out of grad school and was not helpful. I am PhD in biology and thankfully understood more about the testing process on my own. My daughter is perfectly healthy, except she had congenial torticollis due to a partially fibrous muscle in her neck and needed pt for the 1st year of her life. Compared to other health problems of other newborns, that was nothing. Still, knowing odds of this flawed testing metric were on our side, I spent most of the pregnancy overwhelmed and sad and anxious. I felt better after the 20 week ultrasound and was resolved to love and care for her no matter what.

These blood marker based risk tests are terrible. I can see them mandatory some day and if people refuse they will be dropped from insurance. Or, if test positive, and don’t terminate, will be dropped from insurance. Where is the study in how many babies with no genetic defects are aborted? Surely someone must know. If chances are 1in 10 of defect, that means 10 healthy babies are in danger of being killed. I fear rationed care (denial of care) is coming. Will be same with vaccinations.

Pray to St. Gregory…oops, I mean St Gerard!!! The prayers for motherhood.
 
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Dear Jesus, in Your name I ask for your continued help for Martha and Matthew and please make everything okay. Thank you in advance. Amen.

Holy Mother Mary, St. Joseph, St. Martha, St. Matthew, and St. GĂ©rard Majella, please intercede. Thank you. Amen.
 
Amen! It’s very scary to think what the future may hold with this. God bless you and your beautiful baby. Thank you so much for sharing!
 
Thank you so much TisBear for your prayer, so nice to hear from you, God bless you!
 
Still praying for your “thumbs-up” little guy Matthew.

Blessed Mother, please intercede for us.
Hold the sorrowful-
Mother and love the weary, abused, neglected
or forgotten among us-
Give your aid to all needing help or healing-
Assist those who are sick, in pain or suffering-
Be with those needing peace-
Console the lonely or brokenhearted-
Comfort the lost or hopeless-
Strengthen the fearful-
Guard the unborn-
Pray for those who are dying or who have died-
Soften those with hardened hearts-
Enlighten those who do not yet see truth-
Help us be brave enough to let our hurt and anger go-
Show us the way to do the right thing-
Protect those who are in danger, and
Guide us from every evil.
May all who keep your sacred commemoration
experience the might of your assistance.
Amen
 
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