My Wife is VIRULENTLY Anti-Catholic

[tuscany]

Praying for peace in your family.

Blessed Mother, please intercede for us.
Hold the sorrowful-
Mother and love the weary, abused, neglected
or forgotten among us-
Give your aid to all needing help or healing-
Assist those who are sick, in pain or suffering-
Be with those needing peace-
Console the lonely or brokenhearted-
Comfort the lost or hopeless-
Strengthen the fearful-
Guard the unborn-
Pray for those who are dying or who have died-
Soften those with hardened hearts-
Enlighten those who do not yet see truth-
Help us be brave enough to let our hurt and anger go-
Show us the way to do the right thing-
Protect those who are in danger, and
Guide us from every evil.
May all who keep your sacred commemoration
experience the might of your assistance.
Amen

 

[Rasoleil]

Don’t feel alone. My wife is virulently Ant-Catholic as well, but I don’t take it personal. She was once Catholic. I have only myself to blame, which is ironic. I hope that God will forgive me.

 

[mwcampbell]

I’m so sorry to hear that. My wife has websites and videos from former Catholics so I understand. We can pray for each other. May God bless you and your wife.

 

[Rasoleil]

Thank you so much. I cannot lie, it does hurt when she attacks the church and even more so when she says I don’t know what I’m doing. She’s called the Catholic Church a cult and called me a robot for following everything the church says. I’m a rational human being and I do not follow blindly even what that catholic Church teaches. Yes, I have faith that Christ is God and the Messiah and the Church is the one true church established by Christ, but I’m a person who fully believes that faith and reason are compatible and complement one another. I’ll tell her that why I’m Catholic, and I cannot pick and choose my beliefs. I cannot pick a church or denomination simply because it conforms to my own personal belief system. Or that just because my rational and critical thinking can dissuade me from believing in the many mysteries of the Church and Christianity ( the Trinity, the Immaculate Conception, the Virgin Birth, Transubstantiation, why God made mosquitoes, the Resurrection, why I personally was created (I’m not worthy),how Christ could die for miserable me, and even the concept of the afterlife, eternity, no beginning and no end, and even a God. But I have faith in in what the Church teaches, the Bible, Tradition, and that God did create us for a reason and that He died for each and every one of us. I explain about doctrine and esp. dogma to my wife. And ironically, I attend most of her Lutheran divine services and she refuses to attend when I go to church. I’m a lector and EMHC and she even doesn’t like me doing that , but I still love her. I pray for her reversion and always try to be a good Catholic, to lead a good Christian Catholic lifestyle ( Which I sometimes fail at, but I am not perfect), and following the teachings of Christ.

 

[RKS89]

I’m in a similar boat. Its one thing to have your spouse not be of the same denomination, its another entirely to not feel they support you in your convictions. I’ve always encouraged and supported my wife to read her Bible, to go to studies, to pray daily. She’s so convinced I’m wrong that I don’t get the same courtesy, which makes it miserable at times.

Pray for her. And, at the end of the day, you’re acting according to your conscience and what you believe is God’s leading you. She doesn’t have to agree with you, but as the man she married she ought to be able to accept that 1) you’re not a complete knucklehead, you’ve given this appropriate thought and prayer and 2) you’re a person who values Truth and your relationship with God enough to make a comittment to something that you know could put strain on your marriage. I often tell my wife I would have much preferred my research and study to have led me to be convinced her version of Christianity was true; it would have been infintely easier on our family. My choice was a conscience and careful decision, the result of months of prayer and study. At the least a spouse should respect that you’ve made a decision of conscience.

Not many people are convinced by facts alone. I stayed far away from Christiantiy for years because the Christians I knew were pretty poor representatives. Once I met some good Christians and realized that there were some pretty brilliant ones that have come and gone I realized I was being a little to stubborn to discount it. So being a good witness for your wife is probably, in the end, more important than anything else. I would suggest praying that someone come into her life that she would respect and listen to. I can’t tell you how many theological debates my wife and I have been in where she defers to her pastor, only to find out he agreed with me (despite him also being pretty anti-Catholic). For whatever reason, when it comes to faith, it seems like my wife will listen to just about ayone EXCEPT me.

I’ll be praying for you. I have a lot of empathy and sympathy for you and your family.