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Caprotodox
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I’m a mix of emotions right now. At times, I feel fine, then I just break down. I called my church nearly immediately after it happened. Unfortunately, my priest is out of town but will be back tomorrow. I’ve called and spoke to my dad, which helped.
My wife and I got into an argument earlier in the month, with the main issue being that she felt that I did not support her enough in her career, and I felt that she was prioritizing her career over me/us. We got into, and I said, “It seems like we want two different things, what are we going to do about it?” This hurt her a lot, and I said, “I don’t want a divorce, I don’t know what to do”.
She ended up leaving initially to meet up with a friend, which ended up turning into her dad flying down a renting a hotel where she stayed with him for a few days, until we spoke. She didn’t want to speak with me as she wanted “space”.
We patched things up (or so I thought), and we’ve gotten along really good since, even up until an hour before our argument we were a normal couple.
She ended up going a happy hour with her co-workers last night after a completion of a big project, I started to get irritated when I hadn’t heard from in a while, and at 10 PM, I finally texted her to sarcastically ask if she was coming home. She ends up coming at 11PM and I’m pretty irritated and as she got into the house, I told her, “This is unacceptable, I feel really disrespected, this is unacceptable for you to be out so late and to not let me know what was going on.” This set her off, where she said she was leaving. She left and stayed the night at her friends house.
I realized that I had over-reacted, and apologized to her for my overreacting, and I could understand that I was in the wrong.
She comes home this afternoon, with her friend. She goes upstairs, and starts grabbing her clothes and makeup. I ask her are you moving? She said that she is. I told her, that I want to work this out, and talk this through. That I love her, and that we should work this out as a couple. She says that she is unhappy, and that she shouldn’t have to deal with being unhappy. She keeps repeatedly saying “I’m sorry”. I ask her if she loves me, and she says, she does. I then tell her, then lets fight through, this lets do this together, lets go to a marriage counselor. She said she will think about it, and that she wants space. She says she isn’t sure that working together and that we want different things.
This goes on for about 15 minutes and she leaves.
I’m not sure what to do now. How do I fight for a marriage if she won’t even sit to talk or agree to marriage counseling? I thought our marriage is for forever, that means we both fight to make it work. I feel like she is just giving up, and not giving us a chance to fight through it.
I’m sorry for the long winded message. But I could really use your help and prayers.
I’m at a total loss of what to do.
My wife and I got into an argument earlier in the month, with the main issue being that she felt that I did not support her enough in her career, and I felt that she was prioritizing her career over me/us. We got into, and I said, “It seems like we want two different things, what are we going to do about it?” This hurt her a lot, and I said, “I don’t want a divorce, I don’t know what to do”.
She ended up leaving initially to meet up with a friend, which ended up turning into her dad flying down a renting a hotel where she stayed with him for a few days, until we spoke. She didn’t want to speak with me as she wanted “space”.
We patched things up (or so I thought), and we’ve gotten along really good since, even up until an hour before our argument we were a normal couple.
She ended up going a happy hour with her co-workers last night after a completion of a big project, I started to get irritated when I hadn’t heard from in a while, and at 10 PM, I finally texted her to sarcastically ask if she was coming home. She ends up coming at 11PM and I’m pretty irritated and as she got into the house, I told her, “This is unacceptable, I feel really disrespected, this is unacceptable for you to be out so late and to not let me know what was going on.” This set her off, where she said she was leaving. She left and stayed the night at her friends house.
I realized that I had over-reacted, and apologized to her for my overreacting, and I could understand that I was in the wrong.
She comes home this afternoon, with her friend. She goes upstairs, and starts grabbing her clothes and makeup. I ask her are you moving? She said that she is. I told her, that I want to work this out, and talk this through. That I love her, and that we should work this out as a couple. She says that she is unhappy, and that she shouldn’t have to deal with being unhappy. She keeps repeatedly saying “I’m sorry”. I ask her if she loves me, and she says, she does. I then tell her, then lets fight through, this lets do this together, lets go to a marriage counselor. She said she will think about it, and that she wants space. She says she isn’t sure that working together and that we want different things.
This goes on for about 15 minutes and she leaves.
I’m not sure what to do now. How do I fight for a marriage if she won’t even sit to talk or agree to marriage counseling? I thought our marriage is for forever, that means we both fight to make it work. I feel like she is just giving up, and not giving us a chance to fight through it.
I’m sorry for the long winded message. But I could really use your help and prayers.
I’m at a total loss of what to do.