NFP fully open to life?

[Seatuck]

Celeste88:

I have a problem understanding something here. NFP can only be used in regular cycles. What if the woman is getting 2 periods a month or none at all…what if you bleed for 3 weeks out of 4? This happens to women in perimenopause. How do you then have marital relations? Do you guess? Do you guess and then worry if you’re pregnant the rest of the month? What if the worry and stress of this is affecting your health? Does God want me to stress out over this? Does God want to add mental anguish to my life? What if you abosolutely have to avoid pregnancy for health reasons - say you have had a heart attack or stroke and can get another one during childbirth? Serious reasons, huh? Ok, so may you say abstinance…can you honestly say for a man to abstain from relations with his wife for years? That only leads to temptation and possible adultary or self abuse.

I would say if someone is in the condition of bleeding 3 weeks out of 4 they should get appropriate medical advice because something is seriously wrong. The Paul VI Institute may be of some help.
The other description you relate is indeed burdensome and a great trial but is part of life. God’s teaching is clear. We all have temptations and with God’s help we will perservere and conquer them. And if we fail then thank God we have healing in the sacrament of penance and we can start over. Some couples are indeed called to heroic virtue but God does not abandon them and leave them to do it on their own.

 

[Ferdinand_Mary]

I have permitted this discussion so far, but the tone is getting less and less charitable. Rather than allow further opportunity to deteriorate, I am closing the thread.

Thank you to all who participated. If further discussion of the morality of NFP is desired, please engage in discussion in the Moral Theology forum.

Mane Nobiscum Domine,
Ferdinand Mary