Nice girls move to the end of the line?

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whatevergirl said:
Let me just say, I don’t want to come across as being cold. I know that some here have had a tough time of the dating scene. I am very sorry to hear of some of the stories, and I don’t mean to make light of any of it. In college days, I viewed dating differently than some of you–not right or wrong, but I didn’t have a lot of expectations when dating. And not that expectations are wrong all the time, but no one has a right to expect commitment, after a few dates. On the same token, don’t be foolish either, and keep chasing someone who is obviously not into you. I think most importantly, if you ask for God’s will to be done…,then there will be no worries. Maybe I just have a different perspective of dating…seems like it’s gotten a whole lot harder or something since my college days. 😊
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Dating needs to be light hearted or else it never progresses. There should be no mention of any future plans involving marriage or any sexual innuendos or hints (this happened to me, true story I almost slapped him). A guy shouldn’t try kissing a girl before the 5th date, and it should only be on the cheek at first. I agree, there shouldn’t be any rush whatsoever.

Dude Where’s My Car? IS CLASSIC!
no and then
and then?
no, no and then
and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then
I love the take out lady 🙂
 
CountrySinger said:
I am serious! I couldn’t have anyone’s name on me. Imagines being married and having husband see a tattoo of some other man’s name AWKWARD :eek::eek::eek::eek:
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ROFL…My life consists of awkward moments, but at least I don’t INVITE them! :eek:
 
kelleyclip said:
Dating needs to be light hearted or else it never progresses. There should be no mention of any future plans involving marriage or any sexual innuendos or hints (this happened to me, true story I almost slapped him). A guy shouldn’t try kissing a girl before the 5th date, and it should only be on the cheek at first. I agree, there shouldn’t be any rush whatsoever.
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We-ell, actually you should have slapped him, babydoll, (“Officer, I was defending the lady’s honor”) but almost slapping him is almost as good. Sometimes shock takes over and we can’t really think. :o
 
whatevergirl said:
*No, I agree there. Someone sending you mixed feelings is a bad thing to do. But, part of dating is having fun, and getting to know someone…I think we might have different opinions about the definition of carefree. I am not saying to ‘‘not care,’’ but what I am saying is to not build a situation up in one’s mind, that is based more on fantasy than reality. If a girl really likes a guy after a few dates…it will be obvious. She will take calls, return them relatively promptly, and will show enthusiasm when speaking to him again and again. It is that simple. If the girl flirts and shows positive energy on a date towards a guy, but after two or three dates, he never hears from her again…perhaps, she wasn’t ready…perhaps, she didn’t like him…perhaps, she feared commitment. It’s hard to say, but I will say that if a girl likes a guy…and she is ready for something more than idle chit chat on a date…then, she will show that. *

Dating is not an exact science, at all. Two people…come together…sometimes, from different cultures…different schools of thought…different backgrounds, and upbringings…and the date will bring them together–in hopes of a possible connection. That is all that dating is and ever will be. Some can find a connection after one date, some after years of dating…but, dating is nothing more or less than an opportunity to see if two people would be good together…for marriage. If someone sends mixed signals, consider it a blessing that you find out sooner than later, is my bit of encouragement. :o
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Well, my point was that when one knows it won’t go anywhere one shouldn’t flirt or encourage flirting by the other person.
Havard said:
That’s odd, I’ve seen flirting convey many different messages. :confused:
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Yes, pretty much every flirt presents its own different message. What’s common, however, is that it’s an allusion at something being between the two people. It expresses some form of (mutual) magnetism and it basically amounts to leading on when there’s no such substance.
whatevergirl said:
*Thing is, in all seriousness, if someone, girl or guy, shows that type of interest on a first/second date…it strikes me as the person is in love with the idea of being in love…and not necessarily you. :o If I were single, that type of attention would make me run for the hills…because I wouldn’t feel special, I would feel like the guy doesn’t need to know a girl for very long before saying things that should only be uttered after both have known each other for at least …TWO dates. 😛 That type of attention on a first date is too much and does more harm than good. I don’t believe in playing games, but I don’t believe in becoming too serious, too quickly…before you have ample time to get to know someone. *
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Lots of point there, I guess, I’d normally agree, but then you need to note that people generally *kiss *from at least second date onward and that is more than telling someone he/she has made an impression on you, you enjoy the time spent together and look forward to more or something of the kind. Besides, either in this or some other thread, I pointed out the “oops busted, you fell!” mechanics, whereby dating often turns into the game of who falls last or doesn’t at all. That kind of thing is madness. In your example, if a girl started demanding strong commitment from me after a second date, it wouldn’t happen unless I felt the same way (in which case it *would *happen, but I would still take time to learn about her). However, if she merely confessed to being smitten or made it obvious in some other way, the I wouldn’t drop her like a hot potato. It’s kinda normal in human beings that processes take different times in different systems. At this day and age people generally expect dispassion and lukewarmness from the other person, probably in no small amount due to fear of commitment and/or suffering harm because of being attached. As if marrying a man who’s less into a woman–or vice versa–is better because the risk of hurt were he/she to turn bad is smaller. That’s a bit like buying a worse item for more money with the stipulation that it’s easier to return or won’t make you miss it if it breaks.
kelleyclip said:
Dating needs to be light hearted or else it never progresses. There should be no mention of any future plans involving marriage or any sexual innuendos or hints (this happened to me, true story I almost slapped him). A guy shouldn’t try kissing a girl before the 5th date, and it should only be on the cheek at first. I agree, there shouldn’t be any rush whatsoever.
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I agree but the guy will get friended.
 
kelleyclip said:
Dating needs to be light hearted or else it never progresses. There should be no mention of any future plans involving marriage or any sexual innuendos or hints (this happened to me, true story I almost slapped him). A guy shouldn’t try kissing a girl before the 5th date, and it should only be on the cheek at first. I agree, there shouldn’t be any rush whatsoever.

Dude Where’s My Car? IS CLASSIC!
no and then
and then?
no, no and then
and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then and then
I love the take out lady 🙂
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Okay I am so lost now:confused:…never saw this movie apparently…🙂
 
LilyElain said:
Okay I am so lost now:confused:…never saw this movie apparently…🙂
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It’s about two intellectually challenged young men who… well, the plot itself is basically a joke. The film is more a string of gags and silly dialogue than a story. I’d give it a C- overall, but a few scenes were funny enough to be memorable.
 
Havard said:
It’s about two intellectually challenged young men who… well, the plot itself is basically a joke. The film is more a string of gags and silly dialogue than a story. I’d give it a C- overall, but a few scenes were funny enough to be memorable.
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It’s my one of my brother’s favorite movies. He will send me an e-mail that just says “And Then?”. :eek:
 
Something tells me Lily might enjoy Death at a Funeral (the original British version) more. 😃
 
Havard said:
Something tells me Lily might enjoy Death at a Funeral (the original British version) more. 😃
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Hee.

To bring it to the subject of the the thread, well, nice people do finish first in the movie? 😃
 
Side note: I just took the time to read all the posts in this thread, and I must say I like the camaraderie! 👍

I know I’m still a young woman, just finishing my undergraduate degree, but somehow I find myself 96% surrounded by couples, particularly the married Catholic kind (5 weddings last year, 2 this year :eek: ). They’re everywhere, it seems: at work, at school, in social settings, in volunteer work, etc. I know a grand total of 3 single people: two girls each two provinces away in either direction, and my best guy friend who’s agnostic. That means no single female friends to just hang out with, and since everyone’s so crazy busy, it’s hard to get any friends to visit without their significant other (“Oh but can’t he/she come too? I’m so busy I barely get to see him/her!”). It’s a struggle to keep Satan from getting the ol’ “Oh, but you ARE alone” foothold, but the sense of community here sure helps keep that down. 🙂

As far as “Nice girls/guys finish last”, I haven’t found that to be true. Almost all the nice guys and girls I know are married or in long-term-potentially-marriage-bound relationships. The ones that aren’t are on one mission or another. The stories I’ve heard from people seem to be very pro-nice-guy/girl.
 
leitis said:
Side note: I just took the time to read all the posts in this thread, and I must say I like the camaraderie! 👍

I know I’m still a young woman, just finishing my undergraduate degree, but somehow I find myself 96% surrounded by couples, particularly the married Catholic kind (5 weddings last year, 2 this year :eek: ). They’re everywhere, it seems: at work, at school, in social settings, in volunteer work, etc. I know a grand total of 3 single people: two girls each two provinces away in either direction, and my best guy friend who’s agnostic. That means no single female friends to just hang out with, and since everyone’s so crazy busy, it’s hard to get any friends to visit without their significant other (“Oh but can’t he/she come too? I’m so busy I barely get to see him/her!”). It’s a struggle to keep Satan from getting the ol’ “Oh, but you ARE alone” foothold, but the sense of community here sure helps keep that down. 🙂

As far as “Nice girls/guys finish last”, I haven’t found that to be true. Almost all the nice guys and girls I know are married or in long-term-potentially-marriage-bound relationships. The ones that aren’t are on one mission or another. The stories I’ve heard from people seem to be very pro-nice-guy/girl.
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Let me guess…Canada? I’ve heard scary stories from the Canadians out there re: the single population. 😦
Myself, I just don’t care anymore. Giving up boys for Lent has given me some serious clarity. I plan on moving to Siberia where there are no men. I will live in a hut and eat snowshoe hares to survive. 🤷
 
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