You still have plenty of time to find that Miss Right.
Of course! Wasn’t complaining anyway. I came very clearly to understand that a person’s taste in the opposite gender is part of his or her personality (and rarely an isolated single problem), so you can’t change it without changing the person’s personality and if matters are so, then it simply mean your personalities are not compatible… so move on. As I see it, some guys have a problem arriving here and I would very much like to help them get here because it really changes perspective and you don’t want to go back once you’re here. Besides, in my very own case, there’s a lot of reason why I’m where I am with such matters because I’m clearly work in progress.
Most women don’t look for violence. And bold is different from courageous.
Courage is when you can act despite fear (lack of fear being a different matter, usually a bad thing) - being bold has more to do with rashness or a form of audacity which goes against certain “taboos”. A “bold” man in the context of courting suggests a man that moves rather farther than he would be expected to. Not always a bad thing, but it has that connotation. By the way, it’s very much connected with risk-taking (it’s practically synonymous to it), which is a quality women seek in men, at least in so far as it concerns finding the mate with whom to have children (things possibly being different when it’s about bringing children up, though I don’t buy the theory of “biology” suggesting one man for begetting children and another for bringing them up).
Courage is when you know the risks and act in spite of the fear.
In some languages, there’s more than one word for courage and the word which literally translates as “manliness” is one of the words for courage. It’s like that in ancient Greek or in Polish and somewhat like that in Latin. Our ancestors were more up to the point and had less baggage of civilisation to affect their judgement of human nature, so I guess we can trust them on that one and derive some conclusions. In my opinion, just as men learn to differentiate silly bravado from courage, so do women switch from admiring the one to admiring the other. Again, no particular gripe here at all - we all have the right to grow up at our own pace.
Bold is acting sometimes even without thinking. The nuns never used “bold” in a good way when they accused someone of being “bold.”
Yeah, for example Charles the Bold, the last (guess why) duke of Burgundy.
But when nice guys ignore the nice girls (because the flashy girls are so much more appealing) then it leaves the nice girls available for the guy who knows just what to say and what to do to woo her.
Yes, but sometimes all men except the “bold” risk-takers are intimidated by a very attractive woman, the result being rather “improbable” pairings. I know that it works the other way, too, women being intimidated by men they think to be “not their league”, but I don’t know how often that happens.
By the way, in my impression, it doesn’t come down to manliness, because effeminate guys also have much luck. Now when the ladies grow up a bit, the aforementioned types get bloody slaughtered and the alpha geeks rule the field.
Just kidding.
I guess that’s it… being naive can leave you vulnerable to the “bad boy.”
And likewise the “bad girl”, though I’d say the “femme fatale” would probably be a bigger problem than the “bad girl” with guys. More destructive potential, too. In order to offer some balance, I’ve got to say you’re right on young men, on average - they will tend to go for the easier conquest (most of them) when they’re interested in “getting some action” (from kissing or holding hands to outright sexual intercourse) or chase the femme fatale because of the sick charm of it (or because of “saving the damsel” complex). Don’t know how it goes with flashy girls, but I guess they get a following when they show they’re available - the guys think they aren’t wasting their time because, well, she’s available, but end up outmanoeuvred and… having wasted a huge deal of time. Being young and naive hurts. This probably makes everyone ask why then those good guys and those good girls, who don’t get noticed, mutually notice themselves… but err… I don’t know.
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