No such thing as the perfect woman

[bones_IV]

Ok, so why not move? You’re 29 years old, after all. Central Ohio is a problem for young Catholics because the very, very agressive fundamentalist evangalization pulls most faith-minded Catholics out of the Church before they turn 18. (Yes, “most” is the correct word here…I witnessed it with my own eyes…) This makes churches into seas of gray hair…not a good environment for a 29-year-old.

So? You’re not my mother or father so pretend to be.

 

[Jay2]

Well if a woman who:
Is 2" taller,
Has slightly crooked teeth
Was practically blind (before Lasik)
Laughs like “Betty Rubble”
Thinks her hindquarters are too big
Thinks her uh,mmm are too uh (you get it)
Is a wonderful mother
Is a darling wife/companion
Is a devoted Catholic
Isn’t “high-maintenance”
Puts up with my shenanigans
Has a great career
Is a good cook
Knows how to sew
Can play piano

Isn’t perfect, then I married the wrong woman 18 years ago!

Move to WI or MN - there’s lots of good farm-girls left up here!

 

[Reepicheep]

I’ve accepted the fact that there’s no such thing as the perfect woman.

Bones my friend, if you met the perfect woman, she’d be looking for a better man than you or me.

 

[dulcissima]

Someday you’ll meet the perfect woman…and you’ll realize how her imperfections make her even more perfect…because they make her real…

Seriously, would you even want to hang out with someone who was perfect?

 

[bones_IV]

Bones my friend, if you met the perfect woman, she’d be looking for a better man than you or me.

That’s what I was trying to say. I like Central Ohio and love talking about the faith w/ the fundamentalists. I’ve actually gained the respect of evangelical christians cause they know I’m very strong in the Catholic faith and can defend it.

 

[BLB_Oregon]

That’s what I was trying to say. I like Central Ohio and love talking about the faith w/ the fundamentalists. I’ve actually gained the respect of evangelical christians cause they know I’m very strong in the Catholic faith and can defend it.

If God has a woman in mind for you, then I think there is a woman in Ohio who is perfect for you.

After all, you only have to find one. (Finding more than that would be its own problem, wouldn’t it? )

 

[StephanieC]

Bones, if you’ve carefully discerned that your vocation is to marriage, then surely there is a woman who is perfect for you. Not necessarily perfect, but the one who’ll help get you to heaven.

The cool thing about marriage is that we bring the very best selves we can into the marriage, and then the sanctification process* really* begins.

As a side note, have you considered www.AveMariaSingles.com?

 

[Dale_M]

Don’t worry about finding the perfect woman.

concentrate on being the perfect man.

then you’ll see through faults and find perfection isn’t what you think it is.

Excellent advice!
Tantum ergo:

But I’m not looking for ‘the perfect Catholic man’ anymore either. I’m looking for the Christ in all I meet.

Yes, this gets to the heart of the matter. The process of looking for Christ in one another helps to make ourselves more Christ-like (which, of course, relates to first quote).

Well! This was a profitable thread to read. If nothing else, we know that Pennsylvania is brimming with perfect women. (As if I ever had doubts.)

 

[ack]

You started this thread to complain about how the young Catholic women near you aren’t holy enough. Why get defensive when offered possible reasons or solutions? What’s the point of posting here, anyway?

So? You’re not my mother or father so pretend to be.

 

[Katie1723]

… I’ve actually gained the respect of evangelical christians cause they know I’m very strong in the Catholic faith and can defend it.

Being able to defend your faith, does not necessarily a good Catholic make. And because someone is a “virgin” does not necessarily a good person make. Judging someone based on the fact they are a virgin or not, indicates shallowness from my point of view.
Even Jesus gave the prostitute a chance.

Kathy

 

[bones_IV]

Being able to defend your faith, does not necessarily a good Catholic make. And because someone is a “virgin” does not necessarily a good person make. Judging someone based on the fact they are a virgin or not, indicates shallowness from my point of view.
Even Jesus gave the prostitute a chance.

Kathy

I know.

 

[bones_IV]

You started this thread to complain about how the young Catholic women near you aren’t holy enough. Why get defensive when offered possible reasons or solutions? What’s the point of posting here, anyway?

I actually like where I’m living now that I think about it.

 

[bones_IV]

Ack, look, I want don’t to sound rude, but why did you even say “Hmmm, Delphos, OH, I used to live down RT-30 from you”? What does this got to do with me? You embarrased me with the phrase I qouted.

 

[unworthy]

Hi there,
you sound a lot like my brother. You mention that in your experience, the non-denominational Christian women you’ve met seem to have more love of God than the Catholic women you’ve met; what’s funny is that my bro says that there are no perfect Christian women (Catholic or other), period. I believe and know he is looking in the wrong places for his “perfect” women, and as well, he is not very religious himself; sometimes I wonder why he looks for a Christian woman. I’m not saying that you’re my brother. In fact, both of your perspectives about Christian women are inconsistent, which leads me to conclude that one’s view of “good Christian woman” is relative to one’s place and different according to one’s experience. Hence, perhaps you are not looking in the right place?

Look, coming from a woman who always encounters good devout Catholic women–and I tell my brother this–there are plenty of good women out there, one’s who are really in love with Our Lord!. Not just the wiser Catholic women, but ones who are in their 20s. That is evidence enough that you do not have to worry so much about looking for the perfect someone, but keep your heart open.

I know you’re not expecting a “perfect” woman (in the real sense of the word “perfect”), but yes it may be getting harder to find a suitable woman to be your wife. However, perhaps you are not looking in the right place? I dunno, something to ponder. In any case, don’t worry bones.

I used to think when I was in highschool that there weren’t any good guys; now, God has been bringing such men of faith to me to show me how wrong I am. I am not intending to date until after university, but it feels good to know that such holy people exist in the world! Just like I have encountered, don’t worry, you will encounter the same; in the right place. I have plenty PLENTY of REALLY sweet, loving and devout Catholic women friends to testify to the fact that good Catholic women exist! Don’t you worry bones. All women are sinners, but great Catholic women exist, and they are sinners striving for holiness.

-unworthy

 

[ack]

Hey bones…sorry , I was just trying to say that I “feel your pain”. I used to live in the same part of Ohio as you, and I’m glad I don’t live there anymore, because finding a woman in that part of Ohio is not easy.

If moving from that part of the state was a positive change for me, I thought maybe it would be a positive change for you.

Ack, look, I want don’t to sound rude, but why did you even say “Hmmm, Delphos, OH, I used to live down RT-30 from you”? What does this got to do with me? You embarrased me with the phrase I qouted.

 

[bones_IV]

Hey bones…sorry , I was just trying to say that I “feel your pain”. I used to live in the same part of Ohio as you, and I’m glad I don’t live there anymore, because finding a woman in that part of Ohio is not easy.

If moving from that part of the state was a positive change for me, I thought maybe it would be a positive change for you.

There’s nothing for me in Washington D.C. Why do I want to leave Central Ohio for? Why are you glad you left Ohio for? I don’t get it. You don’t even know me. And it sure didn’t sound like you were ‘feeling my pain’ whatever that means.

 

[gmarie21]

There’s nothing for me in Washington D.C. Why do I want to leave Central Ohio for? Why are you glad you left Ohio for? I don’t get it. You don’t even know me. And it sure didn’t sound like you were ‘feeling my pain’ whatever that means.

Bones, I don’t think he was suggesting going to DC, just going to a different location (even in Ohio). What about Columbus, Toledo, Cleveland, Steubenville (now there’s somewhere you’ll find a good, Catholic woman), Youngstown, Cincinatti, Dayton, Ohio has more bigger cities than PA or a lot of other states (like my state of IL)? The point is, sometimes if there is something you want, you may need to make a little bit of effort. If you like where you are, fine, but is the closest small city within an hour drive? If so, why not look for a woman there (an hour drive is no big deal). Also, how about the kind little old ladies at church? Tell them you’re looking for a good Catholic woman. You’d be amazed at the matchmaking they can do.

Just from reading your responses, it seems as if you’re the one making excuses on why you can’t find a good Catholic woman, as if you’re purposely setting yourself up for failure (or trying to prove a point). Do you really feel called to marriage? If you did, you’d do more than just complain.

 

[Katie1723]

Some people are happiest when they are complaining. Bones sounds like one of them.

Kathy

 

[bones_IV]

Some people are happiest when they are complaining. Bones sounds like one of them.

Kathy

You’re probably right. “Bones you know this is illegal”, Captain Kirk. “I only use it for medicinal purposes now don’t be afraid”, Dr. McCoy.

 

[BLB_Oregon]

You’re probably right. “Bones you know this is illegal”, Captain Kirk. “I only use it for medicinal purposes now don’t be afraid”, Dr. McCoy.

Oh, well. There’s not a scraggly horse in this world that you can’t find a scraggly bush to tie it to.

Good luck to you. Here’s a prayer that you won’t always have this to complain about, and that when you complain about the answer to the prayer, you won’t ever really mean it.