Non-Catholics don't get it!

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 I have to agree with RobNY. It may be best to compromise, and attend Mass on Saturday, but insist on your Adoration time.
She may not like the Wednesday thing, but does she absolutely forbid you to go? Would she have the same attitude if you were going out on a date?
It is important for your mother to see how important it is to you. Do you realize that your mother may be testing your
resolve in this? I ask you this because my husband watched me
for years before he realized that I had something he needed too.
It gradually became overwhelming to him.Your faithfulness to the
Lord is preaching the Gospel without words. Show her that wild
horses will not keep you from your devotion to Him. Then, offer up
any restrictions they place on you for the conversion of your parents.You will be amply rewarded, and amazed at the graces you will receive, I promise you. Bless you.
 
Paris,

I have not read all of the posts, so I apologize if this has already been said. I all you have is one semester, and your Mom supports you financially, then you might consider her concerns. Is this still your decision, or is she adament about you not going so often? I it is your decision, then I might just go, and not bring it up again. There is no reason to descuss the details of everything you do if it causes trouble.

You will soon graduate, and then you will not have to be as concerned with what she thinks. I know it is difficult, but you will be on your own soon, and will do as you please. Remember, God also commands us to obey our parents. (yes I know you are an adult, but they still support you.) Doing what your mother requires of you is not contrary to serving God. Spend some extra time praying the Rosary at home, or doing some inspirational reading, or other form of prayer. Persevere through the next few months.
 
But I know my parents are good Christians though I do not know HOW MUCH zeal they have for their Protestant faith. They tell me they do but I can’t judge that and I don’t want to. The reason why I’m saying that is that maybe they can’t see how much zeal I have for the CC and therefore, if they had as much zeal as I did (not saying that don’t), they might encourage me to go to Mass no matter what. See where I’m going? If let’s say they had no zeal for their own faith, how much more are they going to encourage others in other faiths?
 
Here are my thoughts Paris, for what they’re worth.

A) Walking 2 miles (4 miles roundtrip)is great exersise and by no means an unreasonable distance.

B) Riding a bike 2 miles (4 miles roundtrip) is even less of a burden and also good exersise.

C) Why are you discussing how often you go to confession with your parents anyways?

D) If they are paying, they have a right to comment and a right to say how they want their money spent

E) This all sounds like typical young adult stuff. You are wanting your independence but still want them to pay. I think your idea of getting a job is a good idea. 3 of my adult children are in college and they also have jobs. Time to grow up Paris.

F) If going to Mass, and going to confession are as important to you as you say, then walk, bike, or take a bus and quit complaining about your parents.
 
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Here are my thoughts Paris, for what they’re worth.
A) Walking 2 miles (4 miles roundtrip)is great exersise and by no means an unreasonable distance.
Well, it feels MORE than 2 miles because I have to drive though neigborhoods and go to all these corners.
C) Why are you discussing how often you go to confession with your parents anyways?
Well, for your info, I am very close to my parents. But I guess I should shut my yap about it to them.
D) If they are paying, they have a right to comment and a right to say how they want their money spent
Yeah they do. BUT they also, should at least TRY to be a little bit understanding of my new Faith.
E) This all sounds like typical young adult stuff. You are wanting your independence but still want them to pay. I think your idea of getting a job is a good idea. 3 of my adult children are in college and they also have jobs. Time to grow up Paris.
Well, this is easy for you to say. Look, I have a learning disability for your info again and I cannot work AND go to college at the same time. If I did both, I would either get fired or fail in college. I even TOLD my parents that and they told me, “No, you’re homework and college comes FIRST before you get a job! We’ll support you but make sure you get that homework done and good grades”. Though you’re right, I DO need a job but it’s either one or the other. BTW, I was almost a 4.0 student last semester! ALMOST made it!
F) If going to Mass, and going to confession are as important to you as you say, then walk, bike, or take a bus and quit complaining about your parents.
I’m not complaining. I was telling them my schedule. But now I will keep my mouth shut.
 
Okay, I see now. First of all, Congrats on the GPA!

With your learning disability, your parents are probably used to seeing you struggle through school. And are just a little worried when anything, Church, guys, partying would interfere with that. Obviously they would prefer you to be going to church than say partying, but from a learning point of view, both could sink your grades.

A way to make this a little better is to not only share about the last Mass you went to, but make sure to talk about the good grades you got on such and such assignment, or the really interesting research you just finished for this project.

With your joy in becoming Catholic, probably most of you talk and enthusiasm has been centered here. Your parents probably just need to hear more of school to see the balance in your life, that you already have since you got such a great GPA.

Don’t necessarily think you can’t share the “Catholic” stuff with them, just make sure to also share the school stuff too. And maybe for a while, share the school stuff more than the Catholic.

God Bless,
Maria
 
Paris, I left the Catholic church for 3 years, do you think my parents were happy? Um, no, and if I would have said, gee, I just love the Lutheran faith so much, I think I’ll go this and this many times each week, well, being they are Very strong Catholics, they would have said…Well, since you opened up your mouth and put it in our face, we are not cool with this and don’t care to hear about it, we love you and always will but we are not excited about your being a lutheran) Anyways, thank God, I found my way back 6 years ago but do you see what I mean? Your parents don’t at this time want to be Catholic and even though you know it is the one true church, they don’t feel that way, my mother in law is Lutheran and I promise you, she will Never be anything but Lutheran and if I push my faith on her even though I may not think I am, she would get a little irritated also.
Of course your excited, you know that truth of the Catholic faith and I know how exciting that is and you just want to burst to all those around you and shout it from rooftops, believe me, I know that feeling, but…your parents are not feeling it and they may never feel it and you need to really understanding of that right now, they love you and will always love and support you but that doesn’t mean that they will easily accept you being a Catholic and secretly deep down, they may even hope you will one day leave the Catholic faith. My advice, only tell them what they need to hear right now, don’t lie but only tell if you are directly asked, if you folks don’t say “so, you going to mass so and so many days” why tell them? I see both sides and really, they need time to get used to this and it is Never easy for ones child to leave the faith that you raised them in, my mom knows, my sister left the Catholic church 13 years ago when she married her husband who is a presbyterian and it has been very hard but…mom loves my sis and even though they have to agree to disagree in this area, both are careful not to overstep and make it a hot button issue, of course we all pray that my sis and her husband may oneday know the truth in the Catholic church but we don’t push, we pray for them and just lead by example, your parents will know your Catholic faith just by seeing how you live your life.
Give them time, this is new for them. 🙂
 
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