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Carol;

Condoms don’t prevent AIDS.

If people are doing the sort of activities that require them to wear condoms, then they are already well outside of the Church’s teachings, long since. Why do they suddenly now care what the Church thinks?

They didn’t care what the Church thought of their adulterous affairs or their bestial and/or homosexual activities. But now that they have AIDS, it’s suddenly this great big deal that the Church forbids condoms?

What’s wrong with this picture?
Condoms are one of the most unreliable methods of preventing pregnancy. If the failure rate is that high for preventing pregnancy, it would be high for preventing STD’s too. After all, one can get an STD at any time, but pregnancy can only occur during a few days of a given month. The Church is right in promoting chastity, which is the only 100% effective method in preventing STD’s.
 
Condoms are one of the most unreliable methods of preventing pregnancy. If the failure rate is that high for preventing pregnancy, it would be high for preventing STD’s too. After all, one can get an STD at any time, but pregnancy can only occur during a few days of a given month. The Church is right in promoting chastity, which is the only 100% effective method in preventing STD’s.
You’re misinformed and also missing the point - not to mention making a straw man argument.
 
Such un-Christian behavior is so depressing. No wonder non-Catholics come here and get even more confused! The facts of the faith may be presented, but even if the facts are correct I wouldn’t trust a denomination that spawns such hatred towards those who aren’t perfect in their faith(as if anyone is!) I have NEVER seen such awful behavior from so-called Christians before. Shame shame! How dare we take it on ourselves to lead others to what we think is right! How dare we assume our way of thinking and doing things is the only way(meaning an individual does things one way, and thinks one way, and therefore thinks everyone else should do the same or they are in error) How disgusting that someone would be so cruel to someone who is merely trying to understand a faith they want to be a part of. Thank God I was not treated in this manner when I first started looking into the Catholic Church. Thank God not all Catholics are so uncharitable. I pray the non-Catholics who read this realize that. I’m just in shock at this thread.
Bless you dear. You have said so passionately what many of us on both sides, I am sure, have been feeling. There is a deep, deep wound that seems to refuse to heal, that is inherently infected and resistant to any balm. I have trouble understanding why this should be so, and am sorry for the anger and querulousness to which I have contributed.

That being said, your posting is like a bright candle at the end of a long, dark and dangerous tunnel, and I thank you for it.

Peace be with you, and His blessings,

With love from Carol
 
jmcrae - yes they do :rolleyes:
Only if one partner already has AIDS - which is why I say that, once we are talking about condoms, the barn door is already long since open, and the horse is already long gone.

If neither partner has AIDS, and if both are faithful to each other in the covenant of marriage, then condoms aren’t going to do anything other than get in the way. They certainly aren’t going to prevent AIDS. Faithfulness and continence are the only things that will do that.

My Bishop has, by an interesting coincidence, just posted something on his web site about this:

On Condoms and Vaccinations
 
You’re misinformed and also missing the point - not to mention making a straw man argument.
How is it a “straw man argument?” If condoms don’t reliably prevent pregnancy, then how are they likely to prevent the transmission of disease any more reliably?
 
Bless you dear. You have said so passionately what many of us on both sides, I am sure, have been feeling. There is a deep, deep wound that seems to refuse to heal, that is inherently infected and resistant to any balm. I have trouble understanding why this should be so, and am sorry for the anger and querulousness to which I have contributed.

That being said, your posting is like a bright candle at the end of a long, dark and dangerous tunnel, and I thank you for it.

Peace be with you, and His blessings,

With love from Carol
I second that!👍
 
How is it a “straw man argument?” If condoms don’t reliably prevent pregnancy, then how are they likely to prevent the transmission of disease any more reliably?
The straw man argument is implying that promoting condoms is at the exclusion of promoting chastity
 
Then come and watch the people die. Over two million in South Africa alone, population 50 m… Watch the burials - mortuaries and cemeteries full to overflowing, families impoverished by the cost of funerals, children caring for and burying each parent, and wrapping around them the last blanket they own - just before the cold season. Come and see the children who are not in school or church, who are not being socialised, who have no one to teach them the values that we apply so easily to our lives.

Carol,

Just one more example where your beliefs are very different than the RCC.

Best,

Iowa Mike
 
Only if one partner already has AIDS - which is why I say that, once we are talking about condoms, the barn door is already long since open, and the horse is already long gone.

If neither partner has AIDS, and if both are faithful to each other in the covenant of marriage, then condoms aren’t going to do anything other than get in the way. They certainly aren’t going to prevent AIDS. Faithfulness and continence are the only things that will do that.

My Bishop has, by an interesting coincidence, just posted something on his web site about this:

On Condoms and Vaccinations
what anyone says on this site with all the misinformation that has been fed to them isn’t going to chnage the scientific fact that condoms prevent HIV
it is self-evident that HIV can only pass from someone with HIV to someone without, so I’m not sure what your point is:confused:
you probably don’t realise that even when the two partners are both HIV positive condoms should be used - is that a circumstance you have considered?
 
You suggested that the church needed modernization, recognition and acceptance of the reformation more graciously, and adapt itself to the social gospel more appropriately. For that reason, it does seem that you wanted the Church to “evolve”. I suggested that the Keating letter pointed to proposals made by liberal clergy and laypeople of RCC in USA (I assume). This is not my idea: it is the idea of RCC people. I have also said - as have many others in many books - that all great religions must grow or die, and that applies to Christianity, Hinduism, Islam etc. If the Church stands still, it will surely decline, and the Vatican is surely aware of that: Pope Benedict’s first episcopal letter was about ‘love’.

You also vigorously opposed the Church’s notion that it is the sole and authoritative deposit of faith. You frequently championed the the insightes of the reformers, and commended their work to the Catholic Church. I have no reason to assume that RCC is the owner of all truth about faith globally. It is not the sole and authoritative deposit of, for examples, faiths other than Christianity. Within our faith, the RCC has indeed, since Christ’s era, been the keeper of the records, the library, the mind, the repository of all we know about the faith. No other Church can do that, or claim that it can. That is one reason I rely on RCC.

However, in terms of values, morals, practice, I continue to have questions. And yes, of course, I ask what would have happened to RCC if not for the reformers? It often happens that a challenge from outside creates a focus inside - and that is what happened, for the good of the Church. If Luther had not been …? I do not think that I explicitly recommended the reformers’ insights to the Church (although it is clear they helped somewhat). What you and I both agreed was that those of us coming out of a reformed church background have very deeply rooted beliefs in individual inspiration, direct access to God and scripture, and that it is very hard to give this up in favour of the tabula rasa model - my mind is a blank, come fill it up with your screed.

Can you understand these are questions I raise? They are not attacks, they are not challenges, but they are a wake up call to think outside your box for a while - and help me come to a difficult decision to give myself up, not to the love of Christ, but to the authority of the Church of Rome. I am aware there is a difference.

Your opinions come across sounding like you believe the Roman Church needs to change, to evolve, to reform. As noted above, and as indicated from the Keating letter ‘projects’.

This word “should” that appears in your posts is a red flag for judgemental thinking. It indicates that you are putting your expectations upon others of what you think is right and proper. I have had to be authoritative in a world of professional males; I have had to make inroads on an international crisis which we do not yet understand after 30 years. I have shouted shoulds for years, and yet 70 million+ people are dead, and perhaps I feel responsible for many of them. I should have shouted should louder. By the way, I made the point elsewhere: writing authoritatively and with care is sometimes taken as being confrontation, and I regret that, but I will not change. It is not only a habit of my long career; it also signifies the importance I attach to my soul, my God and good debate about it.

You come across sounding as if others ought to conform to your standards. When you tell another poster “you should be ashamed of yourself” you are applying your standards of proper behavior, as well as finding them deficient in them. That is absolutely correct. Others have had no compunction about telling people where to go; why should I apply a different standard to myself. I know, one wrong does not deserve another, so should I apologise? Or should I say in a different way that it *is *essential that we have standards of discourse appropriate to our common Christianity?

Continued 2…
 
jmcrae - yes they do :rolleyes:

why do people here refuse to face the scientific facts?
Carol is an expert in the field, examining and exploring an organisation which she knows has some deep-rooted opposition to her work - shouldn’t that be respected? doesn’t that mean something?:confused:
Condoms have been shown to have manufacturing defects (holes) which are large enough for HIV to pass through.

There is no reason for the Church to pass out condoms. This is an absurdity. The Church frankly teaches that sex outside of marriage is sinful and that within marriage, every sexual act must be open to the possibility of procreation. To ask the Church to pass out condoms is to ask it to hypocritically deny its own teaching. I wouldn’t trust an organization that did that.

If you think condoms are the right way to go, then you give them out. Start a foundation or something. But don’t demand that organizations which plainly disagree with your stance do so in spite of their beliefs.
 
what anyone says on this site with all the misinformation that has been fed to them isn’t going to chnage the scientific fact that condoms prevent HIV
it is self-evident that HIV can only pass from someone with HIV to someone without, so I’m not sure what your point is:confused:
That they were breaking Church laws already - way bigger ones than the law against condoms.

If they didn’t care about the Church’s teachings about chastity before they got AIDS, why are they up in arms about the Church’s teachings suddenly now? Why obsess about the Church’s teachings about condoms, when they don’t care about the Church’s teachings on chastity?

If the Church’s teachings on chastity aren’t going to prevent someone from having sex with every prostitute in the brothel, then I don’t understand how the Church’s teachings on condoms is going to stop him from using condoms.

It just seems very double-minded, to me, to say, “Well, I don’t mind breaking the Church’s laws of chastity, but boy, they better change that rule about the condoms, or else I’m going to die of AIDS!! Because, gosh darn it, I wouldn’t want to break the law against condoms!!”
 
Carol;

Condoms don’t prevent AIDS. Of course they do. Go back to the internet and learn.

If people are doing the sort of activities that require them to wear condoms, then they are already well outside of the Church’s teachings, long since. Why do they suddenly now care what the Church thinks? **This question has no significance for rural African communities which have lived for centuries in survival mode which is very different from beautiful downtown wherever. **Many many women here are the most faithful of Christians - and the African RCC is the fastest growing in the world. Are they ‘doing the sort of activities’ that would demand they die? Let’s look at your next comment!

They didn’t care what the Church thought of their adulterous affairs or their bestial and/or homosexual activities. **This is a disgusting point of view, really. **But now that they have AIDS, it’s suddenly this great big deal that the Church forbids condoms?

What’s wrong with this picture?
What’s wrong with this picture is your total ignorance of the HIV scene outside your own community. I really do not know how to answer this ‘insight’ which is not an insight but a reflection of your complete lack of knowledge. I do so wish you would learn something before you put your foot in your mouth.

I have explained elsewhere, that we in Africa live in a cultural environment that is completely different from yours. Some children, because of cultural beliefs about playing pretend life copy cows and dogs and chickens all around them - and so are sexually active from the age of four (ovaHerero, ovaHimba, Namibia). Because of the male dominance theme in many African societies, gang rapes are prevalent in cities. Because many children have no parents, no money, no food, no homes, no education because they have been orphaned by AIDS, they are forced to offer their bodies - their only resource - to get money to live. Very young girls are raped because men believe they can cure themselves of AIDS this way. Women do not have the right to refuse to have sexual relations with their husbands, although they know their husbands have been with prostitutes likely to be infected. They are desperate because they must live to care for their children: a feminine condom has been invented and is being distributed, so a woman can make her own choice.

I bought my boys their first condoms in London England when they were in their teens, and we constantly discussed the spread of HIV and concomitant death of millions as I have seen it worldwide. I know that all kids worldwide need protection: the world is not a safe place any more, and that may not have anything to do with the morality of the victim, as we all know. Both my sons are in long-term partnerships - and used condoms until they were sure that they wanted to commit and then they and their partners had HIV tests. Get real: this is the choice our children in N America must make. Can you imagine at all the choices - or lack of choices - that African children and women must make?

What are catechism classes telling kids about HIV? Here in Pretoria, absolutely nothing, after 30 years of knowing about the epidemic and its consequences. Do white people get infected? Yes, of course! Anyone can get infected. And all ethnic groups are represented in our catechism classes. Is it right that these children should be ignorant about their choices? No. Would you want your child *not to know *that there is death out there, and it is completely possible that it will stalk them if they continue to be as ignorant as they are now.

From what I have told you about Africa, is their behaviour bestial? Are they homosexual monsters? How can you say these things? As I said to Janet S: come and watch our people die, and then say to me that our women are bestial, immoral, adulterous and heathen. Come and watch them die. And try not to be angry.

RCC here is slowly changing its practices on condoms, as are governments and non-government organisations. They have realised that, along with treatment of other sexually transmitted diseases, condom use can reduce infection rates by almost 50 per cent.

Please. Please. You have a good mind. Use it. You are in such a tunnel of bias and lack of compassion and religious bigotry that my heart bleeds for you.

You can see articles on HIV impact on Google: Carol Coombe or Michael J Kelly SJ and I recommend that you seek them out.
 
Carol Coombe;2091982:
Then come and watch the people die. Over two million in South Africa alone, population 50 m… Watch the burials - mortuaries and cemeteries full to overflowing, families impoverished by the cost of funerals, children caring for and burying each parent, and wrapping around them the last blanket they own - just before the cold season. Come and see the children who are not in school or church, who are not being socialised, who have no one to teach them the values that we apply so easily to our lives.
Carol,

Just one more example where your beliefs are very different than the RCC.

Best,

Iowa Mike

I would be most grateful - note how polite I am being regardless - if you would tell me, oh kind sir, how this is an example of where my beliefs are very different from RCC - or perhaps from yours, if that is what you mean in effect?
 
I’m sorry, but what in the world is a chaste person going to do with a condom? :confused:
I have explained it is not a question of chastity - read my lips. Children are hungry and sell their bodies to get food to live. Girls are raped. Women are forced to have sex whether or not they want it. African cultural patterns are not ours. Chastity is valued, very greatly, and there have been in the past significant sanctions in traditional communities against sex before marriage - among Zulu, Xhosa, Bemba, Tonga etc.

But this is Africa now - in crisis because of the spread of HIV, the opportunistic diseases that go with it, and now the fast spread of a virulent drug resistent form of TB, which is virtually 100 per cent fatal.

Do you think people like to live like this? Do you think churches are not doing their best, in most cases except the Catholic churches - although St John Fisher is feeding 150 children weekly in one of the townships. Without this support the children would die.

You just make we want to cry: this is why I burned out four years ago, why I came to the Church for release and blessing, why I have tried to hold my passion at bay. And even here I find ignorance and a stunning lack of compassion. And so instead of crying, I am just totally angry.
 
I have explained elsewhere, that we in Africa live in a cultural environment that is completely different from yours. Some children, because of cultural beliefs about playing pretend life copy cows and dogs and chickens all around them - and so are sexually active from the age of four (ovaHerero, ovaHimba, Namibia). Because of the male dominance theme in many African societies, gang rapes are prevalent in cities. Because many children have no parents, no money, no food, no homes, no education because they have been orphaned by AIDS, they are forced to offer their bodies - their only resource - to get money to live. Very young girls are raped because men believe they can cure themselves of AIDS this way. Women do not have the right to refuse to have sexual relations with their husbands, although they know their husbands have been with prostitutes likely to be infected. They are desperate because they must live to care for their children: a feminine condom has been invented and is being distributed, so a woman can make her own choice.
The long-term solution to this problem is NOT handing out condoms. If society is educated about chastity, there would be a permanent solution to the problem. Catholic missionaries need to educate families and children about chastity, as well as helping people with other things such as job training.
 
jmcrae - yes they do :rolleyes:

why do people here refuse to face the scientific facts?
Carol is an expert in the field, examining and exploring an organisation which she knows has some deep-rooted opposition to her work - shouldn’t that be respected? doesn’t that mean something?:confused:
Condoms create a false sense of security:

Related articles:

“Condom Errors are Common”
findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1608/is_2_19/ai_96621171

“Do Condoms Leak HIV?”
righto.com/theories/condoms.html

“Birth Control Guide”
fda.gov/Fdac/features/1997/babytabl.html
The first statistic says that the expected annual pregnancy failure rate per 100 women for condoms is 11. Then the chart claims that condoms are the best protection against STD’s. But aren’t 11 women out of 100 potentially exposed to an STD? After all, the semen obviously came out of the condom, ergo, any viruses or bacteria in it did as well.
 
The long-term solution to this problem is NOT handing out condoms. If society is educated about chastity, there would be a permanent solution to the problem. Catholic missionaries need to educate families and children about chastity, as well as helping people with other things such as job training.
AMEN, you took the words right out of my mouth.

Communities that emphasize chastity are winning the battle against AIDS - and not only AIDS but every other sexually transmitted disease, and they are seeing reductions in the numbers of divorces, meaning more fathers at home to help raise and guide their kids, and fewer sons joining gangs, etc, and fewer daughters getting involved in prostitution.
 
What’s wrong with this picture is your total ignorance of the HIV scene outside your own community. I really do not know how to answer this ‘insight’ which is not an insight but a reflection of your complete lack of knowledge. I do so wish you would learn something before you put your foot in your mouth.

I have explained elsewhere, that we in Africa live in a cultural environment that is completely different from yours. Some children, because of cultural beliefs about playing pretend life copy cows and dogs and chickens all around them - and so are sexually active from the age of four (ovaHerero, ovaHimba, Namibia). Because of the male dominance theme in many African societies, gang rapes are prevalent in cities. Because many children have no parents, no money, no food, no homes, no education because they have been orphaned by AIDS, they are forced to offer their bodies - their only resource - to get money to live. Very young girls are raped because men believe they can cure themselves of AIDS this way. Women do not have the right to refuse to have sexual relations with their husbands, although they know their husbands have been with prostitutes likely to be infected. They are desperate because they must live to care for their children: a feminine condom has been invented and is being distributed, so a woman can make her own choice.

I bought my boys their first condoms in London England when they were in their teens, and we constantly discussed the spread of HIV and concomitant death of millions as I have seen it worldwide. I know that all kids worldwide need protection: the world is not a safe place any more, and that may not have anything to do with the morality of the victim, as we all know. Both my sons are in long-term partnerships - and used condoms until they were sure that they wanted to commit and then they and their partners had HIV tests. Get real: this is the choice our children in N America must make. Can you imagine at all the choices - or lack of choices - that African children and women must make?

What are catechism classes telling kids about HIV? Here in Pretoria, absolutely nothing, after 30 years of knowing about the epidemic and its consequences. Do white people get infected? Yes, of course! Anyone can get infected. And all ethnic groups are represented in our catechism classes. Is it right that these children should be ignorant about their choices? No. Would you want your child *not to know *that there is death out there, and it is completely possible that it will stalk them if they continue to be as ignorant as they are now.

From what I have told you about Africa, is their behaviour bestial? Are they homosexual monsters? How can you say these things? As I said to Janet S: come and watch our people die, and then say to me that our women are bestial, immoral, adulterous and heathen. Come and watch them die. And try not to be angry.

RCC here is slowly changing its practices on condoms, as are governments and non-government organisations. They have realised that, along with treatment of other sexually transmitted diseases, condom use can reduce infection rates by almost 50 per cent.

Please. Please. You have a good mind. Use it. You are in such a tunnel of bias and lack of compassion and religious bigotry that my heart bleeds for you.

You can see articles on HIV impact on Google: Carol Coombe or Michael J Kelly SJ and I recommend that you seek them out.
Your solution to the problem is a condom? That is the panecea? Your own words refute your argument. I see nothing in your post that would change things for the better, in fact, the condom would only increase and further cheapen life. Thanks for reinforcing my understanding of the situation.
 
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