All of these things are quite common among LGBT people. But the verbal abuse, insults, being made to feel embarrassed or guilty are usually a result of being gay or lesbian or transgender, not the cause. Verbal abuse and insults of LGBT people are also quite common here in CAF.
I agree. But I think they can also be a factor in
causing a fracturing of sexual identity - gay male grooming of children, cross dressing children, etc. Very often victims of child abuse become abusers, have lots of psychological issues. It would be kind of odd if it were otherwise, right? I mean dogs that have abusive owners become aggressive, frightened, have all sorts of issues. You have to rehabilitate them.
Not just LGBT either. Often you see heterosexual persons who were abused in some way as children, verbally, physically, not sexually. This abuse leads to very troubled adulthood behavior, right, alcoholism, drug abuse, anger, depression, abusive relationships (victim or aggressor).
I think many, many persons continue traumatic behavior into adulthood because they
cannot distinguish between healthy and painful, they tend to make unhealthy life choices, partly because that is all they know. (I once heard of a kid in Tennessee who grew up on junk food; he didn’t know what a tomato was; had never seen one; could not name it when it was put in front of him)
Back on topic, I also think continuing to self-traumatize in adulthood is also an attempt to fix the issue, to gain acceptance - if your mother wanted a girl and you are a boy, you act like a girl to get love all through your life; there is a void.
It is sad. I don’t think people who point this stuff out are necessarily always trying to tear people down. Sometimes yes, and that is reprehensible, but sometimes no.