My feeling is that we should pray for understanding and conversion if it is possible. A few years back, an older friend to my young daughter told her that she was gay. My daughter was very sad as was I. I knew the young woman’s parents and I felt very sad for the pain their daughter and they would endure in their lives. Rather than pass judgement – I prayed for them. I asked that they find understanding and the Truth. I know what I believe to be the Truth – but I also knew that had this been my daughter telling me this news, I would have been frightened – for her health and soul. I also would have loved her and continued being her mother the best I could. I would not have lectured her or disowned her. I would have loved her and prayed for her,. For her safety, health and for the protection of her soul. But i NEVER would attack! I love her.
My daughter’s friend got married a year ago – seven years after she told her parents she was gay. She later told my daughter that she was confused and truly felt attraction to some women. Perhaps she mixed up the love of friendship with the love a man and a woman feel – I don’t know. She said she found the man who was her “soul mate” and for the first time, she knew what she was feeling before was loneliness. My daughter believes her friend is bi-sexual – but she said with the connection with her husband, she found the happiness she desired most.
I don’t know that I understand all of this – but I do know, that judgment is the wrong approach. Love and prayer will set them and us free of the pain. Whether they later change their opinions about who they are is less important than we allow God and the Holy Spirit to guide them to the Truth.
Jesus asks us to love – not to hate!