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I will guarantee, if gay marriage become law, some gay couples will sue churches and some judges will rule favorably for these lawsuits. When that happens, I wonder what the justification of certain individuals will be?
On what grounds? I am kind of curious as to why you think that will happen, and what someone would sue for?

As far as I know, you can’t successfully sue a church to get it to change its doctrine in the US. You can sometimes do so in places where there is a state supported religion. One more reason to keep religious beliefs out of civil law.
 
Exactly. I cringe when I see so many Catholics shrug off same-sex marriage as if there’s no harm that such a small minority wants to marry and be happy. How in the world does that affect me they say! They forget how powerful the radical element of this movement truly is. Just do a simple google search and see how persecution of priests and indeed our Church are already underway in many places in the world. And most frightening just to our north in Canada. What will these "sympathetic" Catholics response be when Christ’s Church is under siege on all fronts by the militant elements of this movement?
Fewer than 50% of people over the age of 18 in the US are choosing to marry. I don’t think that fewer than 50% of the people over 18 in the US are choosing not to have sexual relations. So, in the minds of many, this question just comes down to one of having sex, and whether one also chooses to marry for a variety of reasons. Marriage is not seen as a sacrament by many. Sex is not seen as being related to marriage. Combine the two ideas, and then suddenly same sex marriage is justified.

As I have pointed out before, this is also a predictable consequence of the women’s rights movement in the area of sexuality and marriage. If you follow the trajectory from the start, you end up at the logical point that gender roles no longer exist legally in marriage. If gender roles in marriage no longer have definition, then it makes no sense to discriminate based on gender as to who may marry.

The weight behind the momentum of this trend is too massive to stop socially or legally. I believe that the Church would be wise to worry more about protecting itself, than in wasting resources pretending that it can influence things much in the social and legal arena.
 
Fewer than 50% of people over the age of 18 in the US are choosing to marry. I don’t think that fewer than 50% of the people over 18 in the US are choosing not to have sexual relations. So, in the minds of many, this question just comes down to one of having sex, and whether one also chooses to marry for a variety of reasons. Marriage is not seen as a sacrament by many. Sex is not seen as being related to marriage. Combine the two ideas, and then suddenly same sex marriage is justified.

As I have pointed out before, this is also a predictable consequence of the women’s rights movement in the area of sexuality and marriage. If you follow the trajectory from the start, you end up at the logical point that gender roles no longer exist legally in marriage. If gender roles in marriage no longer have definition, then it makes no sense to discriminate based on gender as to who may marry.

The weight behind the momentum of this trend is too massive to stop socially or legally. I believe that the Church would be wise to worry more about protecting itself, than in wasting resources pretending that it can influence things much in the social and legal arena.
It has been observered that in countries where marriage has been redefined, the overall marriage rate declines
Anthropologist Stanley Kurtz writes,“When we look at Nordland and Nord-Troendelag — the Vermont and Massachusetts of Norway — we are peering as far as we can into the future of marriage in a world where gay marriage is almost totally accepted. What we see is a place where marriage itself has almost totally disappeared.” He asserts that “Scandinavian gay marriage has driven home the message that marriage itself is outdated, and that virtually any family form, including out-of-wedlock parenthood, is acceptable.” But it’s not just Norway. Blankenhorn reports this same trend in other countries. International surveys show that same-sex marriage and the erosion of traditional marriage tend to go together. Traditional marriage is weakest and illegitimacy strongest wherever same-sex marriage is legal.
townhall.com/columnists/frankturek/2008/05/26/gay_marriage_even_liberals_know_its_bad/page/full

Traditional marriage needs to be strengthened not further damanged by redefining marriage which will lead to a decline in marriage
 
It has been observered that in countries where marriage has been redefined, the overall marriage rate declines

townhall.com/columnists/frankturek/2008/05/26/gay_marriage_even_liberals_know_its_bad/page/full

Traditional marriage needs to be strengthened not further damanged by redefining marriage which will lead to a decline in marriage
Ah, watching people say this sort of thing is like looking back in time at myself months ago, not on web forums but trying to take the argument to every channel and every ear I thought might help.

You guys are all saying the same sorts of stuff my esteemed colleagues and I said, and it availed us nothing.

I honestly empathise with how you will feel when it happens anyway - it’s a hell of a gut punch.
 
So…we should let one evil slide because another evil happens? Gay marriage is something that is a current fight. Divorce was a previous fight…that apparently was lost a long time ago. (Prior to no fault divorce, there was still a divorce rate of around 20%)

No one has the threat of discrimination suits or job loss or vandalism or violence against them if they speak out against divorce. Because frankly no one, but a minority of Catholics, seems to care what the Church’s position is on divorce. There is no threat of there being legislation to change it any time soon.

And divorce is loosing it’s impact on society with the ever increasing amount of people skipping marriage completely. It’s already to the point that people already see marriage as “nothing but a piece of paper”. What’s the point of getting married if it doesn’t mean anything?
No, I definitely don’t think we should ignore gay marriage. I just think we’d have more credibility in our argument if we stood firm on what a real marriage constitutes. It’s hard to say that gay marriage is going to destroy the institution of marriage and the fabric of America when so many Christians have tossed their vows to the wind and pursued second, third and fourth “marriages” with kids from multiple dads and moms. I don’t know. I just think we fixate on same sex marriage when there is such a hideous and massive problem with even normal marriages being so temporary. I would like to see the outrage over divorce that I see over gay marriage.
 
Fewer than 50% of people over the age of 18 in the US are choosing to marry. I don’t think that fewer than 50% of the people over 18 in the US are choosing not to have sexual relations. So, in the minds of many, this question just comes down to one of having sex, and whether one also chooses to marry for a variety of reasons. Marriage is not seen as a sacrament by many. Sex is not seen as being related to marriage. Combine the two ideas, and then suddenly same sex marriage is justified.

As I have pointed out before, this is also a predictable consequence of the women’s rights movement in the area of sexuality and marriage. If you follow the trajectory from the start, you end up at the logical point that gender roles no longer exist legally in marriage. If gender roles in marriage no longer have definition, then it makes no sense to discriminate based on gender as to who may marry.

The weight behind the momentum of this trend is too massive to stop socially or legally. I believe that the Church would be wise to worry more about protecting itself, than in wasting resources pretending that it can influence things much in the social and legal arena.
And what would you say to the Bishop of Calgary?
The Roman Catholic bishop of Calgary, Alberta, Fred Henry, was threatened with litigation and charged with a human-rights violation*** after he wrote a letter to local churches outlining standard Catholic teaching on marriage.*** He is hardly a reactionary — he used to be known as “Red Fred” because of his support for the labor movement — but the archdiocese eventually had to settle with the complainants to avoid an embarrassing and expensive trial.
Oh I know, something like…“Stop preaching from the pulpit on the evils of gay marriage and get with the program!” :rolleyes:
 
No, I definitely don’t think we should ignore gay marriage. I just think we’d have more credibility in our argument if we stood firm on what a real marriage constitutes. It’s hard to say that gay marriage is going to destroy the institution of marriage and the fabric of America when so many Christians have tossed their vows to the wind and pursued second, third and fourth “marriages” with kids from multiple dads and moms. I don’t know. I just think we fixate on same sex marriage when there is such a hideous and massive problem with even normal marriages being so temporary. I would like to see the outrage over divorce that I see over gay marriage.
You don’t have to hold protests to stand up for real marriage. There are groups cropping up all over the place that are working to strengthen marriages and quietly work to make marriage meaningful. But, it is very much an uphill battle, much like the fight against ABC and abortion.

The reason people are up in arms is because SSM is so radically opposite of what marriage is considered. It’s an all or nothing type situation. And it’s being played out NOW. Hard to win the battle if you don’t show up to the field.

I think it’s one of those things that if SSM goes through everywhere, you won’t have to worry about divorce any longer, because civil marriage will be dead.
 
It has been observered that in countries where marriage has been redefined, the overall marriage rate declines

townhall.com/columnists/frankturek/2008/05/26/gay_marriage_even_liberals_know_its_bad/page/full

Traditional marriage needs to be strengthened not further damanged by redefining marriage which will lead to a decline in marriage
My point is not about validity of the message. My point is that nobody is listening. Not even Catholics. Spain is more than 80% Catholic.
 
Church Attending, Once a week Catholics though surely support Traditional Marriage. I would make the distinction.
 
Secular relevance under the false premise of God.

It being promoted in this time in history as it was promoted in Rome at their time in history. How did it work out?

Where does this reside in Gods teaching within the NT and historically? It doesn’t, for it is a passing temporal vanity as it was in Rome.

“Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew

The Union of One flesh =Life. Was this way from the beginning no? One Flesh exemplifies the life giving Trinity through His love. Union of Man+Woman= Life, a very triune model given as a gift from the creator.
Seeker1961 already explained to you how the US is made up of many different people of different faiths and beliefs and how this must be taken into consideration as we go about the formation of secular *civil *law. There are as well others of no belief in God. It’s not without good reason that the US is known as a melting pot of people.

Yes I’ve read it. I’ve also read how Christians of a more liberal persuasion who support SS marriage, SS union blessings, or civil unions have come over the course of time and history to understand and interpret Scripture in regard to homosexuality differently than you and others do. BTW they believe in God and while you may believe they act under a false premise of God, they would not agree with your assessment of them nor of their beliefs. I thought Catholics were to be respectful of other faiths on this forum. Anyway I once posted an explanation of their faith beliefs and understanding of Scripture as it relates to homosexuality on the non Catholic subforum. So I won’t bother to do so here lest I be accused of trying to lead Catholics astray.

And again as Seeker said, you’re not going to change your opinion. Yet regardless of how the SS marriage issue eventually plays out in civil law, neither will you be forced to marry a gay person.
 
I’m a Catholic who believes same-sex marriage is not God’s plan for families. Having said that - very few people are gay, and even fewer of those are seeking to marry. Frankly, I do not see how them doing so seriously affects me, what I teach my kids, our household, or our faith. I am concerned for those people, and I do not think their kids have ideal family situations - but ultimately this affects a very small percentage of the population. A percentage that was living together and sexually active anyway. Nothing will change except the paperwork.

Now - let’s talk about divorce. Over half of marriages end in it. Many divorcees go on to remarry and create second families. It is not unusual for kids to grow up in a “yours, mine and ours” household, on both sides, being shuttled to and from and knowing that they really belong nowhere because mom and dad have new honeys and new babies that are the permenant factor in the home. It is considered normal for kids to have step parents and step siblings, as well as half siblings and “my former step mom’s new baby with her third husband” siblings, etc. it is normal for children to live in a world where they know the likelihood is that their family will cease to exist at some point. Divorce rips actual families apart. It destroys children. And very, very few people who divorce follow Catholic teaching about no dating or remarriage. This is why, more than homosexuality, Jesus preached against it. It is a massive, destructive problem!

But, we all accept that divorce is common and here to stay. I don’t see Catholics outside of the courthouse protesting divorces, or publicly denouncing second marriages. I don’t see the outrage and the indignation that seems to accompany “gay marriage” arguments, and I wonder why. I think divorce is FAR more harmful to individuals, kids and society. It is FAR more rampant. It is FAR more costly. It is FAR more “in your face.” And it is FAR more difficult to avoid. Where is the outrage when we see a TV character date after a divorce that we show when we see a woman kiss another woman? Where is the shunning of divorced family memers that we see happen to gay ones? Where is the panic about our kids being “exposed” to divorced people? Where are the anti-divorce bumper stickers? Where are the CAF threads on how we can stop divorce once and for all?

Frankly, it is easier to pretend our biggest problem is the 2-3% of the population that is gay, and the even smaller number of that group that may want to marry - when in fact the undoing of the American family and the real-time destruction of children happens thousands of times every day, in all of our neighborhoods and all of our families. When we, as Catholics, have the courage to take up the cause of divorce, then maybe I can get on board with the hysteria over gay marriage. For now, I think we have a much bigger and more insidious problem on our hands.
Right. The relatively small percentage of the population that is gay is not going to bring down civilization and the family. And if people think 2 gays getting married is going to harm their own marriages, their marriage must have deeper problems. Also the many more who are heterosexual will continue to reproduce. Their marriages will remain intact as long as they don’t divorce. And SS marriage does not affect what will continue to be called sacramental marriage in the Catholic Church. I’m not on board with the hysteria either.
 
This doesn’t change Church teaching.

As a Christian this is a no brainer in the Catholic and all the Apostolic Church’s and most of those who trace their roots to Christianity.and believe in the seven ecumenical councils. Even if one is to say I don’t believe in the Latin Church. Surely you also can’t ignore the others. Why is there a Christian who can rationalize all this Biblically elsewhere?

Lets face it your either really believe or you really don’t would be my general response.
Nope. But again the US is not under Catholic teaching. There is a difference between civil law and Catholic Church law. There are Christians in other traditions who have different interpretations. That’s why. And no they really believe what they believe. Just as you believe what you believe.
 
… the many more who are heterosexual will continue to reproduce…
I believe the evidence says otherwise. Please read the following link and let me know why you think the world’s population is about to peak and then start it’s decline.

slate.com/articles/technology/future_tense/2013/01/world_population_may_actually_start_declining_not_exploding.single.html

I believe it is as a direct result of the world- wide acceptance, especially in Western society, of contraception. The contraceptive mentality has led to an abnormally high percentage of either childless, or below replacement level child rearing in the world. And with the fact that heterosexual couples have the ability to have a childless marriage if they so chose, they see it as unfair to stop homosexual couples from having that same benefit.

Homosexual marriage is a contradiction in terms. By definition, a marriage is to be fruitful…But alas, with the proliferation of contraception, we have gotten to the point in society where the fruitfulness of a marriage is not necessary, but sadly only optional.
 
Please read the following link and let me know why you think the world’s population is about to peak and then start it’s decline.
About to peak and start to decline does not equate with the end of heterosexuals reproducing and the end of civilization and the family. And I see it says “on the order of centuries—we could be looking at the literal extinction of humanity”. Jesus could return by then.
 
I believe the evidence says otherwise. Please read the following link and let me know why you think the world’s population is about to peak and then start it’s decline.

slate.com/articles/technology/future_tense/2013/01/world_population_may_actually_start_declining_not_exploding.single.html

I believe it is as a direct result of the world- wide acceptance, especially in Western society, of contraception. The contraceptive mentality has led to an abnormally high percentage of either childless, or below replacement level child rearing in the world. And with the fact that heterosexual couples have the ability to have a childless marriage if they so chose, they see it as unfair to stop homosexual couples from having that same benefit.

Homosexual marriage is a contradiction in terms. By definition, a marriage is to be fruitful…But alas, with the proliferation of contraception, we have gotten to the point in society where the fruitfulness of a marriage is not necessary, but sadly only optional.
Maybe we have come to a point in civilization where woman can have a voice in what they are “required” to produce. You appear to be saying that the reason for gays to seek equal protection under the law is a direct result of contraception. Am I correct in making that deduction?
 
Maybe we have come to a point in civilization where woman can have a voice in what they are “required” to produce. You appear to be saying that the reason for gays to seek equal protection under the law is a direct result of contraception. Am I correct in making that deduction?
Yes.

Follow the sequence of events from Supreme Court rulings related to the right of privacy.

In the 1960’s the Supreme Court ruled that laws banning contraception were illegal. Then that right to privacy was expanded to a woman’s right to chose abortion in 1973. Then the recent ruling on anti-sodomy laws. It all points back to that first ruling of Griswald vs. Connecticut back in the 1960’s.
 
Yes.

Follow the sequence of events from Supreme Court rulings related to the right of privacy.

In the 1960’s the Supreme Court ruled that laws banning contraception were illegal. Then that right to privacy was expanded to a woman’s right to chose abortion in 1973. Then the recent ruling on anti-sodomy laws. It all points back to that first ruling of Griswald vs. Connecticut back in the 1960’s.
OK then. Thanks for your (name removed by moderator)ut.
 
On what grounds? I am kind of curious as to why you think that will happen, and what someone would sue for?

As far as I know, you can’t successfully sue a church to get it to change its doctrine in the US. You can sometimes do so in places where there is a state supported religion. One more reason to keep religious beliefs out of civil law.
Yet!
 
Seeker1961 already explained to you how the US is made up of many different people of different faiths and beliefs and how this must be taken into consideration as we go about the formation of secular *civil *law. There are as well others of no belief in God. It’s not without good reason that the US is known as a melting pot of people.

Yes I’ve read it. I’ve also read how Christians of a more liberal persuasion who support SS marriage, SS union blessings, or civil unions have come over the course of time and history to understand and interpret Scripture in regard to homosexuality differently than you and others do. BTW they believe in God and while you may believe they act under a false premise of God, they would not agree with your assessment of them nor of their beliefs. I thought Catholics were to be respectful of other faiths on this forum. Anyway I once posted an explanation of their faith beliefs and understanding of Scripture as it relates to homosexuality on the non Catholic subforum. So I won’t bother to do so here lest I be accused of trying to lead Catholics astray.

And again as Seeker said, you’re not going to change your opinion. Yet regardless of how the SS marriage issue eventually plays out in civil law, neither will you be forced to marry a gay person.
Very good you explained as Seeker did the US is made up of many different people. Good information. :rolleyes: We are talking “Christian” since that is what the conversation turned to in case you missed that post by Seeker and I on AMERICAN LAW.

My opinion as you say is the… Church opinion, the Word of God…Biblical, Historical, your opinion is just a…a fleeting idea that NEVER worked in history. In your opinion which we so highly value in Gods Kingdom, why will it work now? That’s another unanswered repeated question avoided. Truth is you would have to concede you do not know, nor can you prove through history.

And, oh, another very old defensive response to confrontation, Catholics are respectful and charitable. But they are not ignorant, nor does respectful or charitable equate to not confronting the difficult topics.

What in the world are you talking about with Christians, what Christians? Those who follow Rome, The Apostolic Church’s throughout the world? Mainline Protestant? Those who hold to the 7 ecumenical councils? No none of those agree with this misguided idea thrown under the title of “modern thinking”, Some who claim to be of these Faiths inject their own thinking into the Truth which has been passed down to us by Christ in His Church, which are worldwide. That’s not Gods Word, that’s their word. 😉

Seeker said something that we need repeat his name now twice by you? I let the conversation go for the simple fact as this is not a forum for my practice nor does it have the capacity to deal with it, but to shut is down. This is not a therapeutic probe. And if you bothered to read carefully you will find I left the confrontation with two critical unanswered questions, not responded to, nothing else remained to be said by me. That was me being Catholic, respectful, and charitable out of love and concern for my brother, who I do believe I understand and care about. And I also ignored your Seeker comment last post, nothing there to respond to. Was there a specific point you would like to discuss? How about being direct instead of evasive.

So no there has been no foul, its just you feeling uncomfortable and for good reason. Btw do you have a web-sight for this Christian community you follow I’m interested in understanding it. Who are “they” you keep referring to? I already responded above about “they” who do not teach, accept, or cooperated with SS in the Universal Church. Who is this illusive “they” you refer to.

And in your usual diversion of btw “‘they’ DO believe in God” who is “they”? I never said anyone didn’t believe in God [SHOW ME THE POST]. or it should be known you are wrong. 🤷

I said you cannot prove SS marriage in Christian History nor from Scripture it doesn’t exist and has “never, ever” been taught, and I actually mention those or the “they” you speak of, to support my claim unlike you.

But yes if I were you I would have avoided that confrontation also. Its a point you either have to concede, or avoid, or use a defense to misdirect as you chose to do, and by sweeping “Catholics” with a broad brush stroke in an attempt for them to back off, with the “I thought Catholic’s were suppose to be” comment. When the truth is no-one here fell into the suggest category you mentioned for “Catholics” by your thinking of “I THOUGHT Catholics were suppose to be” 🤷 Why do feel Catholics are being as you suggested here? Please point out where, be happy to discuss. Do you have a issue with Catholics? Why do you have an issue with Catholics? Do you think you should remind them of how they are suppose to act? Personally I find that comment to be unfounded, and uncalled for… But thanks for the concern

There’s really no other point for me to make, but to correct your distraction. From here I would only be Re-Evangelizing. And that would be by effectively showing you exactly how you arrived at where you are. Its not a secret.

Now if you would like to take this thread to another point I would be glad to participate. We know how the law was established in America its already covered, and not secular as you suggested. Just to correct you there also, or defend your position with a source.

Or we can continue to discuss American Law, Christianity in America, and its relevance to SS and how we arrived at where we are. What “point” would you prefer to discuss?
 
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