OK are there ANY single CHRISTIAN women left?!

[larsenl1]

Havard was totally right. It’s great being a Catholic guy. So many beautiful, classy, elegant ladies out there. We’re so lucky!

I met a great girl recently-she’s local too. Too bad she’s an hardcore athiest.

Please visit Des Moines, Iowa. We have great food, parks, theater, art, and single women who are Catholic. Lower cost of living and crime than in DC, too.

 

[Rascalking]

Please visit Des Moines, Iowa. We have great food, parks, theater, art, and single women who are Catholic. Lower cost of living and crime than in DC, too.

Well, I’d love to visit sometime, but from what I’ve heard, there are no mountains there. Rascalking couldn’t live without climbing mountains, and neither could his dogs.

God bless.

 

[Rascalking]

Please visit Des Moines, Iowa. We have great food, parks, theater, art, and single women who are Catholic. Lower cost of living and crime than in DC, too.

Well if things do work out with me and athiest girl, I might do that.

 

[chevalier]

You’re right, it’s not irrelevant. A lot of parishes and dioceses are stretched very thin in terms of manpower, but for the ones that aren’t, it is certainly a good area of ministry for them to expand. If they’re not doing so already, perhaps we should be the ones nudging them… start making calls people!

There are always the Catholic lawyer associations…

(“Let’s have a walk.”
“So move!”)

 

[Havard]

There are always the Catholic lawyer associations…

(“Let’s have a walk.”
“So move!”)

Now that you mention it, one of my single, female classmates just took a job with a firm in London… aren’t you in London? Hmm…

 

[chevalier]

Now that you mention it, one of my single, female classmates just took a job with a firm in London… aren’t you in London? Hmm…

I’m sure she would find me irresistible but is she Catholic?

 

[Jay82]

I’m finding it odd that people keep referring to grandparents and parents finding their spouse in church.

When I talk to elderly people or people older than me some of them found their spouse through parental friends, and most found them through their highschool or workplaces people went shortly after highschool. Some were neighbors, some went to class together in Jr. College. I’ve never heard a “well I looked at him across the pew, he saw me and we knew it was love”.

Same here. I haven’t heard of anyone meeting at church as well. Never the less, I think those who are single need to be more proactive.

I know a handful of good people who would make a good boyfriend/girlfriend, but they don’t ever get out to do things or meet any new people. They maybe go out and part take in a social function once a week or less. And when they do, its mostly with people they already know or those of the same gender. Then they complain that there are no ‘good’ guys or girls out there. They all don’t realize they are not making any effort to meet new people and try to find someone.

I’m single and I meet new people all the time through all the things I do on a regular basis. It isn’t easy to find someone you are compatible with, but the effort needs to be there. Believing that you’ll meet someone if you stay home all the time is wishful thinking. Sure it may happen, but the odds are pretty slim.

 

[Rascalking]

Same here. I haven’t heard of anyone meeting at church as well. Never the less, I think those who are single need to be more proactive.

I know a handful of good people who would make a good boyfriend/girlfriend, but they don’t ever get out to do things or meet any new people. They maybe go out and part take in a social function once a week or less. And when they do, its mostly with people they already know or those of the same gender. Then they complain that there are no ‘good’ guys or girls out there. They all don’t realize they are not making any effort to meet new people and try to find someone.

I’m single and I meet new people all the time through all the things I do on a regular basis. It isn’t easy to find someone you are compatible with, but the effort needs to be there. Believing that you’ll meet someone if you stay home all the time is wishful thinking. Sure it may happen, but the odds are pretty slim.

You hit it out of the park with this answer. Great job Jay.

 

[Katie966]

I agree- meeting a spouse in Church just doesn’t happen for most people. So the OP is going to be waiting around for a long time if he doesn’t want to look anywhere else.

OP, you made the assumption early on in this thread that singles aren’t going to church because the church doesn’t cater to them the way they do to families. I think you might have it backwards. Lots of young adults tend to fall away for awhile, and then their faith is reignited once they have families. It happens all the time. It is not the fault of the church if there is not much interest in starting a “singles” ministry of some kind.

If all these people you say are not attending church because the church doesn’t “cater” to them, is that really the kind of person you’d want to be with anyway? Someone who would “lose interest” so easily and for such a ridiculous reason? We don’t go to church to be coddled or to find a spouse. Wouldn’t you rather meet someone somewhere else who does attend Mass and is a good Catholic, rather than wait around for the church to decide it’s their responsibility to bring people to you?

 

[SeaShoreGirl]

I agree- meeting a spouse in Church just doesn’t happen for most people. So the OP is going to be waiting around for a long time if he doesn’t want to look anywhere else.

OP, you made the assumption early on in this thread that singles aren’t going to church because the church doesn’t cater to them the way they do to families. I think you might have it backwards. Lots of young adults tend to fall away for awhile, and then their faith is reignited once they have families. It happens all the time. It is not the fault of the church if there is not much interest in starting a “singles” ministry of some kind.

If all these people you say are not attending church because the church doesn’t “cater” to them, is that really the kind of person you’d want to be with anyway? Someone who would “lose interest” so easily and for such a ridiculous reason? We don’t go to church to be coddled or to find a spouse. Wouldn’t you rather meet someone somewhere else who does attend Mass and is a good Catholic, rather than wait around for the church to decide it’s their responsibility to bring people to you?

I’m with this. Singles should be interested in church and participate. THEN they can go and create a group. There are SO many ministries that the average catholic can participate in either at the parish or diocean level. a “singles” ministry should come second only to the support of the parish by people.

And again, there are a TON of parishes with different masses, and singles ministries that are intended to be singles ministires are often met with demise. It’s just the way it is.

 

[Bataar]

Same here. I haven’t heard of anyone meeting at church as well. Never the less, I think those who are single need to be more proactive.

I know a handful of good people who would make a good boyfriend/girlfriend, but they don’t ever get out to do things or meet any new people. They maybe go out and part take in a social function once a week or less. And when they do, its mostly with people they already know or those of the same gender. Then they complain that there are no ‘good’ guys or girls out there. They all don’t realize they are not making any effort to meet new people and try to find someone.

I’m single and I meet new people all the time through all the things I do on a regular basis. It isn’t easy to find someone you are compatible with, but the effort needs to be there. Believing that you’ll meet someone if you stay home all the time is wishful thinking. Sure it may happen, but the odds are pretty slim.

This is the hard part for me. In general, I absolutely hate the process of meeting people, but I like knowing people. Catch 22.

 

[Havard]

This is the hard part for me. In general, I absolutely hate the process of meeting people, but I like knowing people. Catch 22.

Well that’s a cross that must affect more than just your romantic life, I imagine.

 

[Jay82]

This is the hard part for me. In general, I absolutely hate the process of meeting people, but I like knowing people. Catch 22.

Maybe if you don’t like meeting people in big social situations you can have your existing friends bring out 1-2 new people at a time so that it is more managable and you’ll know the majority of people already. This way you meet new people in smaller settings in which you can get to know them and feel comfortable.

 

[Bataar]

Well that’s a cross that must affect more than just your romantic life, I imagine.

Definitely. I’m an activity centered person. Unless there some kind of activity that requires interacting with a specific person, I have a hard time doing so. Unless I have a need to talk to someone, I don’t talk to them because there isn’t a need.

 

[504Katrin]

This is the hard part for me. **In general, I absolutely hate the process of meeting people, **but I like knowing people. Catch 22.

Im serious, am not kidding or anything…you should come over to New Orleans. You will meet new people all day long and you will love it Take a vacation for a week or two and visit. When Im “back home” all I gotto do is leave the house and all kind of people stop me in the streets and invite me to barbeques and stuff. Once a tourist asked me how to get to the westbank and we ended up spending the entire afternoon downtown together. I have hugged TONS of strangers in the streets that I talked to for a couple of minutes only and that I left as a friend.
I have family in Seattle also. But no ties there at all.

 

[CountrySinger]

This fat and unattractive woman found someone (see signature). I met him on CAF, and we are getting married on May 7th! Of course, he is in Scotland and I’m currently living in the Seattle area, so I’m selling/packing/giving away everything and moving there.

Keep your chin up, the alcohol well stocked, and stay fun! I know how miserable it is to be single.

And now this smug coupled-up woman is leaving before I get flamed.

 

[kelvinf]

Ok, I’ve been single for just under three years and not for lack of trying. I live ina very very liberal area of the country. I cannot find any women who are my age (late 20’s) who have conservative views. I’ve prayed and prayed. I’m very lonely. I ask you all to pray for me that I very soon find a good Christian (preferably Catholic) woman who is ACTUALLY INTERESTED. Thank you.

Well, you have to be persistent with your prayers. Don’t give up.

LK 18:1-8

Then he told them a parable about the necessity for them to pray always without becoming weary. He said…

CCC 2613

…it is necessary to pray always without ceasing and with the patience of faith…

Rom 12:12

Rejoice in hope, endure in affliction, persevere in prayer.

and so on. IMO, you should focus on the Lord. You don’t need any creature to complete you. What you are looking for can be found in the Lord. Seek him with all your heart, mind, soul and with all your strength.

If Christ is yours, …; he satisfies all your wants. He will look after you, manage all your affairs for you most dutifully; you will need no human support to rely on …]. Put all your trust in God; center in him all your fear and all your love; he will make himself responsible for you, and all will go well as he sees best".

(“The Imitation of Christ”, 1, 2-3)

 

[Nec5]

And now this smug coupled-up woman is leaving before I get flamed.

You haven’t been forgotten, traitor. Never forget. Boo you.

On a more serious note, good luck and I wish you a happy marriage.

 

[Sierrah]

I think some of us are just doomed to singledom.

 

[trinichiqn]

A word that came to me and I am trying to practice is patience. God answers prayers in His timing which is the right timing. It is hard for me because I seriously lack patience but He is working on me to be the kind of wife my future husband needs and maybe He is working on my future husband to make him the kind of man I need. Since I want the best and to give my best I am trying not to rush. I hold out hope that there is someone out there for me.