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As a priest, I pray the Liturgy of the Hours before the Blessed Sacrament. Some times from my breviary and sometimes using my iPhone, if I forgot my breviary.

I find beyond absurd this concept that praying cannot involve a book. Surely you attend Mass – and see the priest using a missal throughout?
I don’t want to contradict a priest. 😉 Using your breviary & iPhone sounds fine but actually this whole discussion started with people using phones at Mass & the phones ringing & disturbing the sacred atmosphere of the church.
 
I don’t want to contradict a priest. 😉 Using your breviary & iPhone sounds fine but actually this whole discussion started with people using phones at Mass & the phones ringing & disturbing the sacred atmosphere of the church.
It would be nice if the OP would actually clarify what happened. It seems there were two women involved one was “in the front” using the phone, and one was next to the OP when the phone rang and she “left flustered”, that would make me think this particular woman had honestly forgotten to turn the phone off or put it on “vibrate”, not arrogantly sitting there thinking “if the phone rings of course I’ll answer it, who cares if Jesus is watching?” Or was she expecting an important call such as how a family member was doing in the hospital?

The initial vague description makes me reluctant to condemn anyone here, and I certainly disagree with the idea that it is inherently “highly disrespectful to use phone technology in the Church”.
 
Stating a preference is okay, I get it.

It’s quite another thing to say standards, which means it is binding on others.

We do not have the authority to bind others to our own personal preferences.
I was agreeing with you. :confused:
 
So, is this “decorum” set by your standards only, or do you mean ‘objectively’ speaking?
Fair enough.

Yes, objectively speaking. Coming in with a drum set and banging the drum isn’t okay; because its a time of silence and meditation. Gregorian chant is proper in some settings, not here. As to devices, lets use some logic. A book is a data delivery device. So is a phone. If someone brings in a book I don’t get bugged. Ditto a device.

I feel like I’m dealing with my kids sometimes. ‘HE SMILED AT ME FUNNY!’ isn’t a valid complaint. You can ignore it.

Someone quietly using their phone is the same way. If you don’t like it, don’t look.
 
Fair enough.

Yes, objectively speaking. Coming in with a drum set and banging the drum isn’t okay; because its a time of silence and meditation. Gregorian chant is proper in some settings, not here. As to devices, lets use some logic. A book is a data delivery device. So is a phone. If someone brings in a book I don’t get bugged. Ditto a device.

I feel like I’m dealing with my kids sometimes. ‘HE SMILED AT ME FUNNY!’ isn’t a valid complaint. You can ignore it.

Someone quietly using their phone is the same way. If you don’t like it, don’t look.
It wasn’t quiet… the OP said it was ringing & disturbed people.
 
It wasn’t quiet… the OP said it was ringing & disturbed people.
Here is the original quote, I think this discussion is getting off track.

“I was at the adoration chapel after church. The person who sits for the “hour” had her cell phone on silent but was using it the whole time i was trying to pray. She was sitting near the front in a chair. I was deep in prayer and the women next to me her phone rang full blast and she left flustered!”

The OP wasn’t in church. They were in the adoration chapel.

Given that, I don’t think anyone should have anything that makes a ton of noise in the adoration chapel, as (at least in my parish) its a place of silent meditation. So that would mean no talking, crumpling papers, phones not on vibrate, etc.

But someone quietly doing something; be it reading, praying, staring at the Blessed Sacrament, etc. should be left alone.
 
I was at the adoration chapel after church. The person who sits for the “hour” had her cell phone on silent but was using it the whole time i was trying to pray. She was sitting near the front in a chair. I was deep in prayer and the women next to me her phone rang full blast and she left flustered! I mean is this really real?! Jesus comes to earth to save all humanity is born from a virgin, dies a horrible death, is humble enough to be brought to us through the bread and wine bringing his body, soul, and divinity… and really?! People can just sit there in front of Him and text? Let their phones ring? I mean I leave my phone in the car out of reverence and to make sure it doesnt go off. Anyways, Im thinking of calling the church office so that maybe they can hang a sign on the adoration chapel NO CELL PHONES!!

ok there, I feel better.
My cell phone contains the Breviary, the Bible, and a prayer site. I use it at Mass on Sundays to pray before Mass and I use it to follow the readings during Mass–it’s easier to use than our missal. I sure hate to think what you’d be thinking about me. When I pray my eye’s are usually closed (unless I’m praying one of the hours in which case they’re focused on my phone praying the prayer or reading the reading)–so I am not sure I would have noticed the person was on their phone, but if I did I would give them the benefit of the doubt as to how they were using it. Hey the ringing thing happens to people occasionally (we are all human and sometimes we miss doing something or think we’ve done something we haven’t) --in those situations I try to be understanding and forgiving–and I hope people are that way when I do something unintended.

When you read the Bible–who did Jesus reach out to? Who did he call to dine with him, to follow him? Who complained about those people he called to dine with him and to follow him? At Mass or at adoration I tend to look at those around me as called there by Jesus, as responding to some grace that he gave them–I’m happy to see them there regardless of where they are on their faith journey because so many people don’t respond to the call and I think it is my duty to make sure they feel welcome and that my interaction with them should hopefully draw them closer to Christ and not drive them away. If he called them there --and if I drove them away by a look or by an action–I can’t believe that would bode well for me on judgment day. I mean I know I am not anymore worthy to sit there in front of Christ than anyone else–if I remember that I’m not to bothered by those around me. Jesus, son of God, have mercy on me a sinner. That is what has helped me to focus on Jesus and not be bothered by those around me–I pray that you find something that works for you and that you can find peace.

The peace of Christ,
Mark
 
Hi, I agree with you. 🙂 When in Church, people need to get their phones put on silent or have them turned off. It might have been a mistake though, with the phone ringing, if it just happened this once, with this person.

In terms of the person using their phone the whole time - what did people do before technology. They managed. Tapping and fiddling is off-putting. Ultimately, all one can do is bring it up with the priest. Up to you if you do or not. But it is in his hands then. I sympathise. When one is in Church, one is there to pray. Period. Of course, they could have been using it to pray a long set of prayers, or something, but I still think there is something highly disrespectful about using phone technology in the Church.
Books were once the new technology–oh how distracting all that page turning and flipping must have been. Do you think people once found using the missals highly disrespectful? I’ve been to adoration chapels that have books there for people to use to aid their prayer time, but I don’t usually see threads about how distracting it is for people to be turning those pages or flipping through the book looking for a meditation. Is page turning and flipping really that much less off putting than scrolling on a phone–you don’t really hear the tapping and scrolling–it’s a lot more silent than page turning. Are we just assuming the worst about people simply because they might chose to use their phone for their meditation/prayer as opposed to a prayer book?

The peace of Christ,
Mark
 
Books were once the new technology–oh how distracting all that page turning and flipping must have been. Do you think people once found using the missals highly disrespectful? I’ve been to adoration chapels that have books there for people to use to aid their prayer time, but I don’t usually see threads about how distracting it is for people to be turning those pages or flipping through the book looking for a meditation. Is page turning and flipping really that much less off putting than scrolling on a phone–you don’t really hear the tapping and scrolling–it’s a lot more silent than page turning. Are we just assuming the worst about people simply because they might chose to use their phone for their meditation/prayer as opposed to a prayer book?

The peace of Christ,
Mark
Adoration is Adoration.

My argument isn’t about books, it is about technology in Church, especially at Adoration.
 
When you read the Bible–who did Jesus reach out to? Who did he call to dine with him, to follow him? Who complained about those people he called to dine with him and to follow him? At Mass or at adoration I tend to look at those around me as called there by Jesus, as responding to some grace that he gave them
Exactly: called to see Him.
I’m happy to see them there regardless of where they are on their faith journey because so many people don’t respond to the call
That’s a nice perspective only I think God calls us in a different way than to be conversing by phone especially during Adoration. In fact, I think the act of responding to God alone, would be be held in higher regard as the greater “call”.
…and I think it is my duty to make sure they feel welcome and that my interaction with them should hopefully draw them closer to Christ and not drive them away.
Do people who can’t be bothered to check their phone usage in Church also draw people closer to God?
If he called them there --and if I drove them away by a look or by an action–I can’t believe that would bode well for me on judgment day.
Actually, gentle correction can often be a duty - a work of mercy. Obviously, individual circumstances take discernment.

The duty is the onus of the person who is not respecting Church as the House of God to think more carefully about those alongside them who hopefully are doing what they are meant to be doing in Church, which is praying.
I mean I know I am not anymore worthy to sit there in front of Christ than anyone else–if I remember that I’m not to bothered by those around me.
So, if someone is bothered, it is their fault, but the person who is not respectful is doing nothing wrong. This counter-argument is back-to-front.
Jesus, son of God, have mercy on me a sinner. That is what has helped me to focus on Jesus and not be bothered by those around me–I pray that you find something that works for you and that you can find peace.
The fact that we are all sinners does not stop people from being able to show annoyance in the correct way. If it is annoyance motivated simply from having had our own ways of doing things interrupted, then the annoyance would not be justified, but if this annoyance is for the sake of God, then this is righteous, as is it driven by the clear awareness of the difference between what is good and what is not.
 
So, if someone is bothered, it is their fault, but** the person who is not respectful** is doing nothing wrong. This counter-argument is back-to-front.
Can you even consider that your judgment of someone “not being respectful” might, in fact, be only your opinion, rather than fact?

You have determined that someone using a phone or device in adoration is being disrespectful.

🤷

So does that mean that those of us who disagree with you are ignorant? Bad Catholics?
 
Adoration is Adoration.

My argument isn’t about books, it is about technology in Church, especially at Adoration.
Books can be classed as technology - just not of a.computing or electronic sort.

And I dare you to explain why there is any meaningful difference between me reading scripture on my phone - provided it is set to silent - and reading scripture from a printed Bible. Both are surely equally acceptable activities in adoration.
 
Exactly: called to see Him.

That’s a nice perspective only I think God calls us in a different way than to be conversing by phone especially during Adoration. In fact, I think the act of responding to God alone, would be be held in higher regard as the greater “call”.

Do people who can’t be bothered to check their phone usage in Church also draw people closer to God?

Actually, gentle correction can often be a duty - a work of mercy. Obviously, individual circumstances take discernment.

The duty is the onus of the person who is not respecting Church as the House of God to think more carefully about those alongside them who hopefully are doing what they are meant to be doing in Church, which is praying.

So, if someone is bothered, it is their fault, but the person who is not respectful is doing nothing wrong. This counter-argument is back-to-front.

The fact that we are all sinners does not stop people from being able to show annoyance in the correct way. If it is annoyance motivated simply from having had our own ways of doing things interrupted, then the annoyance would not be justified, but if this annoyance is for the sake of God, then this is righteous, as is it driven by the clear awareness of the difference between what is good and what is not.
I’m sorry, but NO ONE in the OP’s example was conversing in Church that we know of. One was silently using their phone - most likely to do some laudable activity like read prayers, scripture or spiritual reading - and while the other had their phone ring, there is zero indication that they answered it or used it to converse with anyone.

Please don’t read more - or worse - into the OP than they actually said.
 
Can you even consider that your judgment of someone “not being respectful” might, in fact, be only your opinion, rather than fact?
This is a bit relativist. Or stemming from it.
You have determined that someone using a phone or device in adoration is being disrespectful.
Obviously, the ways described as the reason for the thread, do demonstrate this.
So does that mean that those of us who disagree with you are ignorant? Bad Catholics?
I don’t answer areas of posts where people put words in my mouth.
 
I’m sorry, but NO ONE in the OP’s example was conversing in Church that we know of. One was silently using their phone - most likely to do some laudable activity like read prayers, scripture or spiritual reading - and while the other had their phone ring, there is zero indication that they answered it or used it to converse with anyone.

Please don’t read more - or worse - into the OP than they actually said.
We’re allowed our opinions even if you don’t like it. And I hold to them.
 
We’re allowed our opinions even if you don’t like it. And I hold to them.
But your opinions are not based on facts, but on your feelings.

The OP stated that someone was using their phone at adoration. He did not state how, just that they were using their phone. As you have been told, many people, including priests, use their phones to pray. Nothing at all wrong with it. If you don’t like it, don’t do it, but don’t tell me that I can’t.

As far as the woman who’s phone rang- I am sorry that that happened, but people make mistakes. The OP said she left the chapel flustered. I would have been too. It would never be my intention to intentionally disrupt someone’s prayer, but stuff happens.

To be honest, I find the lack of Christian charity on this thread to be appalling. :mad:
With attitudes like many shown here, it is no surprise that people are leaving the Church. 😦
 
But your opinions are not based on facts, but on your feelings.

The OP stated that someone was using their phone at adoration. He did not state how, just that they were using their phone. As you have been told, many people, including priests, use their phones to pray. Nothing at all wrong with it. If you don’t like it, don’t do it, but don’t tell me that I can’t.

As far as the woman who’s phone rang- I am sorry that that happened, but people make mistakes. The OP said she left the chapel flustered. I would have been too. It would never be my intention to intentionally disrupt someone’s prayer, but stuff happens.

To be honest, I find the lack of Christian charity on this thread to be appalling. :mad:
With attitudes like many shown here, it is no surprise that people are leaving the Church. 😦
I find the misused phraseology ‘lack of charity’ quite astounding on this thread.

No, I am not talking ‘subjectively’, so it is you who is being ‘judgmental’ - another term frequently misused.

For you to ‘assume’ that I am posting ‘subjectively’, would mean that you know for sure that I get annoyed at Church when these things happen…so, do you know me and are you with me when I am at Church?

‘Objectively’, not ‘subjectively’ - two terms confused on this thread - Church is for worship, prayer and adoration.

‘Objectively’, phones ought to be turned OFF in Church.
 
Adoration is Adoration.

My argument isn’t about books, it is about technology in Church, especially at Adoration.
So, are you saying that if both of us are in the adoration chapel; and I am reading the breviary on my phone, and you are reading the breviary in book form, and we are both quietly praying and contemplating God, am I less respectful than you because I am using a phone?
 
“‘Objectively’, phones ought to be turned OFF in Church.”

In Church, during public prayer like the Mass, I would agree. But people also shouldn’t be saying the rosary or reading the missal instead of attending the Mass.

‘Objectively’, phones ought to be turned OFF in Church.

For adoration, why? From what I can tell you have stated they aren’t respectful; and don’t draw people closer to God. I apologize if I have misread that. But I haven’t seen a ‘Why’.
Further, I’ve seen people, including priests, use phones in a respectful, functional way. So again, why?
 
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