Onanism

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when the wife had surgery, for example, and it is painful to have vaginal penentration
If that is the case, then why have sex, considering onanism requires you to actually be having sex? If you are going to have sex anyway, then there is no difference (in regards to pain) in ejaculating within the woman or outside. It is going to hurt either way.
 
It seems your definition of onanism differs from everyone else’s. Onanism implies that vaginal penetration has already occurred. Are you talking about masturbation?
Masturbation means there is one person present. Onanism doesn’t necessarily mean vaginal penetration has occured, at least in use here
 
Masturbation means there is one person present. Onanism doesn’t necessarily mean vaginal penetration has occured, at least in use here
I don’t want to be disrespectful or crude, but it seems that you, not the Church, are in need of more precise definition of terms. Just come out and say what act you’re talking about. We’re all adults.
 
In our culture, a lot of women don’t always want their men to ejaculate in them. If they latter become Catholic, they have those habits and desires. This is a pastoral question that needs to be addressed, but the phrases and thoughts which I’ve seen so far from the CHurch have not directly settled this for us
 
Masturbation means there is one person present. Onanism doesn’t necessarily mean vaginal penetration has occured, at least in use here
Colloquially, onanism is called “pulling out”. So, yes, it does imply penetration. Otherwise it is called either masturbation (if done to self), or mutual stimulation/masturbation, if a partner is involved in the stimulation.
 
Colloquially, onanism is called “pulling out”. So, yes, it does imply penetration. Otherwise it is called either masturbation (if done to self), or mutual stimulation/masturbation, if a partner is involved in the stimulation.
well I included “onanism” in “mutual stimulation” I see, but that’s just semantics. In use nowadays, masturbation ALWAYS implies “doing it to yourself”
 
In use nowadays, masturbation ALWAYS implies “doing it to yourself”
I’d say the word masturbation is used to also mean stimulation by means other than penetration, usually done by oneself. So, it seems that definitions have been off.

So, the real question becomes, “Is contraception okay when the female is infertile?”
Or, more specifically, “Is mutual stimulation okay when it is painful for the woman to have sex?”

Though, I think part of this has to do with the doctor’s orders. I’m sure a doctor would not permit sex soon after a surgery. Now, I guess there are some cases when a surgery was not done well, and so it leaves the woman with pain during sex even after everything has healed.

However, I still think it would be immoral in the Church’s eyes.

Have you asked this question in the Ask an Apologist forum? Or maybe call into CAL during a Q&A Open Forum day.
 
I’ve never discussed this with anyone before. It just came up on this thread, and I pointed out, after looking at the Church statements, that there reallys seems to be a need for clarification on this issue.
 
I’ve never discussed this with anyone before. It just came up on this thread, and I pointed out, after looking at the Church statements, that there reallys seems to be a need for clarification on this issue.
I agree that clarification is needed. Let’s bring it to the Vatican! lol
 
paragraph 2352 doesn’t really define masturbation: By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. That could apply to marital intercourse! Again, masturbation has always meant “by oneself” are far as I know
 
The part that follows the definition: “The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, **outside of marriage **is essentially contrary to its purpose.” : this shows this paragraph is not talking about sex acts in marriage
 
I think paragraph 2352 of the Catechism of the Catholic Church is pretty clear.
I agree with that too, but it might not be clear to all.
CCC 2352:
By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. “Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action.” “The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose.” For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of “the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved.”
When talking about masturbation here, it references it in regards to being outside of marriage. The Church seems to allow for masturbation (or rather mutual stimulation) when used as foreplay that ends in intercourse. If there is this kind of exemption, then it shows that more clarification is needed for some.

I still think the Church’s view is that it is sinful, but if one person can question it in light of other Church teaching on a similar matter, then an official statement that can be referenced could help others who might share the same confusion.
 
paragraph 2352 doesn’t really define masturbation: By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. That could apply to marital intercourse! Again, masturbation has always meant “by oneself” are far as I know
Read the document referenced in the footnote.

"The traditional Catholic doctrine that masturbation constitutes a grave moral disorder is often called into doubt or expressly denied today. It is said that psychology and sociology show that it is a normal phenomenon of sexual development, especially among the young. It is stated that there is real and serious fault only in the measure that the subject deliberately indulges in solitary pleasure closed in on self (“ipsation”), because in this case the act would indeed be radically opposed to the loving communion between persons of different sex which some hold is what is principally sought in the use of the sexual faculty.

This opinion is contradictory to the teaching and pastoral practice of the Catholic Church. Whatever the force of certain arguments of a biological and philosophical nature, which have sometimes been used by theologians, in fact both the Magisterium of the Church - in the course of a constant tradition - and the moral sense of the faithful have declared without hesitation that masturbation is an intrinsically and seriously disordered act.[19] The main reason is that, whatever the motive for acting this way, the deliberate use of the sexual faculty outside normal conjugal relations essentially contradicts the finality of the faculty. For it lacks the sexual relationship called for by the moral order, namely the relationship which realizes “the full sense of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love.”[20] All deliberate exercise of sexuality must be reserved to this regular relationship. Even if it cannot be proved that Scripture condemns this sin by name, the tradition of the Church has rightly understood it to be condemned in the New Testament when the latter speaks of “impurity,” “unchasteness” and other vices contrary to chastity and continence."
 
CCC 2352 is unfortunate in another regard:
By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate **stimulation **of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure.

By this definition, “doing it” to give a sample to a doctor may be ok, which is NOT true. Masturbation is inherently disordered regardless of intention
 
CCC quoting Casti Connubii: This particular doctrine, expounded on numerous occasions by the Magisterium, is based on the inseparable connection, established by God, which man on his own initiative may not break, between the unitive significance and the procreative significance which are both inherent to the marriage act
 
CCC quoting Casti Connubii: This particular doctrine, expounded on numerous occasions by the Magisterium, is based on the inseparable connection, established by God, which man on his own initiative may not break, between the unitive significance and the procreative significance which are both inherent to the marriage act
The OP seems to be suggesting that the procreative significance is irrelevant if the woman is infertile/sterile.
 
The OP seems to be suggesting that the procreative significance is irrelevant if the woman is infertile/sterile.
A lot of people suggest that, that’s why I’ve suggestive that the speeches/documents/etc. were framed in the context of couples that can procreate, and the rest added later. Furthermore, when the original “rules” on the matter was formulated, it was not possible to determine if a couple was/was not procreative, unlike in modern times. The problems with applying “procreative” in the context of objectively sterile couples should be obvious.
 
Well, while talking about Onanism I have a question that comes from reading Gen. 38: 7-10. I added (9.1), … numbers.

(7) But Er, Judah’s firstborn, was evil in the sight of the Lord, so the Lord took his life.
(8) Then Judah said to Onan, “Go in to your brother’s wife, and perform your duty as a brother-in-law to her, and raise up offspring for your brother.”
(9)(9.1) Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; (9.2) so when he went in to his brother’s wife, (9.3) he wasted his seed on the ground (9.4) in order not to give offspring to his brother.
(10) But what he did was displeasing in the sight of the Lord; so He took his life also.

(7) is an introduction of circumstances, Onan’s brother is dead. (8) is a direct order from Judah to Onan what to do. (9.1) is more explanation what happens to children, introducing Onan’s thinking. (9.2) Onan went to have sex. (9.3) is how he prevented a conception. (9.4) is why he did it. (10) Onan is dead “what he did was displeasing in the sight of the Lord;”.

The issue is to identify what “was displeasing in the sight of the Lord;” so He took his life.
After explaining the circumstances, what was happening, why it was happening we are supposed to believe that “what was displeasing” is how Onan did it? And not WHAT and WHY he disobeyed his father but HOW? Really?
Does it mean that what Onan did and why he did it is OK and the only displeasing thing is how? Does it really make sense?
Why was all the stuff (what and why) even mentioned if it was not important? Why the scripture did not go straight to saying “wasting of the seed” is going to be punished by death?

Please, can anybody explain to me what’s going on here?
Thanks,
Jano
 
This is actually correct, and part of the confusion on the matter. IMHO, and my interpretation, the theory was formulated with the thought of fertile couples in mind, and the rest added later as these questions arose.

However, the Church has been clear on how the couple finishes the act, regardless of the confusing reasoning to get there. Various papal encyclicals and speeches have confirmed this.
Regardless of what various papal encyclicals and speeches have confirmed, there comes a time when, not only is the woman infertile, but the man has trouble finishing…no matter how Catholic his intentions are. Take it from someone who is almost there. I dare anyone to tell me where the Church say’s I shouldn’t have started because I may not be able to finish. People seem to be hung up on the source of a statement…show me!!

There seems to be volumes printed for those who are entering, or in their productive years, what about us old folks? Where is Church teaching for us? And I reject the statement that age makes no difference because it does before puberty…now tell me about the other end. Am I supposed to look at my wife and say that’s it Hon, we’re done here???
 
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