Opinions on veiling - Husbands

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I think it’s ridiculous and my wife would laugh at the idea of her doing so, not others doing so, but it would be so entirely unlike her in every way.
 
Lutheranteach said:
I think it’s ridiculous and can’t imagine my wife doing so under any circumstance.
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And why ridiculous? Even if you see no religious reason to do so, isn’t this word a bit harsh,as it has been a long cultural custom?

I am pretty sure a young Lady who was named von Bora before her marriage DID cover…
 
Well as my wife would say…she’s not wearing a dress and cooking dinner in high heels and pearls. If I wanted to marry June Cleaver and live in 1955 I married the wrong lady. And I can’t fathom that Mrs. Luther would wear a veil in 2010. That said, I should check myself. It would be ridiculous for my wife and those that do so don’t impress me in anyway. I mean, I don’t look at them and think…OH MY they’re so pious! If they feel it helps them in some way…go for it.
 
Lutheranteach said:
Well as my wife would say…she’s not wearing a dress and cooking dinner in high heels and pearls. If I wanted to marry June Cleaver and live in 1955 I married the wrong lady. And I can’t fathom that Mrs. Luther would wear a veil in 2010. That said, I should check myself. It would be ridiculous for my wife and those that do so don’t impress me in anyway. I mean, I don’t look at them and think…OH MY they’re so pious! If they feel it helps them in some way…go for it.
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I guess it says alot about your person and your attitude towards others - different tastes = ridiculous. But at least your honest about it. I don’t know why you’d think ladies who veil is trying to display their piety to others; they don’t do it for others; they do it for God. That said; putting a veil does not automatically makes a person pious; but laughing at those who do certainly isn’t a very neighborly thing to do.
 
I do not believe that the wearing of a veil is a sign of subjugation by men - that’s what radical feminists want people to believe.

I see veils in many places as denoting something important or sacred. We veil the tabernacle, sacred vessels, and so on. If anything, I think a veil is particularly appropriate to single women, as it is a visible reminder of the virginity of Mary, our blessed mother, the first tabernacle on earth, the ark of the new covenant of Jesus Christ.

If only people could see the true beauty in such an act, there would be thousands upon thousands more women doing it.
 
Cran said:
Ok, this is just another thread about headcovering 🙂

I am not married, but this week I was told by a (Catholic) man that he didn’t like my headcovering. It was partly due to the particular style, but this is a dislike he has in general, and that made me wonder:

Ladies, if you want to cover but your husband doesn’t like it, how would you proceed, as it is a private devotion and not covering is not a sin?
a) Cover anyway and explain him you feel God is calling you to do it.
b) Do not cover because you think this is a matter where the head of the family can have his say.
c) Nagg 😃
d) Something different.
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My Wife Veils in Church but not outside of Church. She doesnt look like she is in a Muslim Burka either. She likes fashionable Veils. She dresses modestly but she doesnt dress like an 80 year old either. I think many people think that because they want to dress modestly they have to dress in a drab colorless manner. That isnt the case. Perhaps you might ask your husband what it is he dislike about your style. It may not have as much to do with the Veil as it does with the entire ensemble.
 
doughnut said:
I guess it says alot about your person and your attitude towards others - different tastes = ridiculous. But at least your honest about it. I don’t know why you’d think ladies who veil is trying to display their piety to others; they don’t do it for others; they do it for God. That said; putting a veil does not automatically makes a person pious; but laughing at those who do certainly isn’t a very neighborly thing to do.
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You are not reading his post correctly. He knows his wife better than you. He said it would be ridiculous for his wife to suddenly start wearing a veil (since headcovering for women has not been a custum for nearly half a century.) He has no problem with others wearing a veil if they want to but it doesn’t impress him because he doesn’t understand their desire to do so. Your formula of "different tastes = ridiculous does not apply to him.
You can also look at it this way. There are different ways of covering the head and some of those ways have to do with cultural differences. The mantilla is more from the Spanish culture. The OP mentioned that she wore a snoop. I’m not sure what culture wears the snoop but I think my husband would think that I would look ridiculous if I suddenly started to wear a snoop, particularly one with closed end where the hair is stuffed inside. That doesn’t mean that all women look ridiculous in a snoop. Some women look beautiful in that kind of snoop and it is more to their culture. The open ended snoop, however, seems to be more adaptable I would think. Just like the mantilla was adapted years ago when head covering for women was required. But it is understandable, to me anyway, that some would feel that they would look ridiculous to suddenly start wearing a veil. I used to wear a head scarf to church as a child. And lately I have kind of wanted to wear a head scarf again, But I feel I would look ridiculous.🙂
 
Robert_Burns said:
My Wife Veils in Church but not outside of Church. She doesnt look like she is in a Muslim Burka either. She likes fashionable Veils. She dresses modestly but she doesnt dress like an 80 year old either. I think many people think that because they want to dress modestly they have to dress in a drab colorless manner. That isnt the case. Perhaps you might ask your husband what it is he dislike about your style. It may not have as much to do with the Veil as it does with the entire ensemble.
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The post that you quoted from stated that she was not married.
 
Robert_Burns said:
My Wife Veils in Church but not outside of Church. She doesnt look like she is in a Muslim Burka either. She likes fashionable Veils. She dresses modestly but she doesnt dress like an 80 year old either. I think many people think that because they want to dress modestly they have to dress in a drab colorless manner. That isnt the case. Perhaps you might ask your husband what it is he dislike about your style. It may not have as much to do with the Veil as it does with the entire ensemble.
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I think Muslim women in burkas look beautiful! But I would look ridiculous if I started to wear a burka.
 
zab said:
I think Muslim women in burkas look beautiful! But I would look ridiculous if I started to wear a burka.
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Are you sure you’re referring to a Burqa or a Hijab? Burqas cover the body completely with only a small “window” for their eyes. Hijabs on the other hand expose only the face, but keep the hair and neck covered.
 
hartleymartin said:
Are you sure you’re referring to a Burqa or a Hijab? Burqas cover the body completely with only a small “window” for their eyes. Hijabs on the other hand expose only the face, but keep the hair and neck covered.
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I’m mean burqa. But I also think women of other cultures look beautiful, too
 
JoanREDirector said:
The issue addressed in the quote from Corinthians would be the godly order that defines the relationship between men and women. So, would you agree that veiling is a sign of; one, respectful attire of women before the sacrifice of the Mass and two, a sign of her submission to men that flows from her submission to Christ?
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I think that veiling could have both or either of those meanings. In my reading, I have come across other possible meanings too. This is why I mentioned in an earlier post that the practice can carry different significance for different woman. In reference to the original question, if a woman wished to cover her head as a sign of submission to her husband, it would not make much sense for her to do so against his objections.
 
zab said:
You are not reading his post correctly. He knows his wife better than you. He said it would be ridiculous for his wife to suddenly start wearing a veil (since headcovering for women has not been a custum for nearly half a century.) He has no problem with others wearing a veil if they want to but it doesn’t impress him because he doesn’t understand their desire to do so. Your formula of "different tastes = ridiculous does not apply to him.
You can also look at it this way. There are different ways of covering the head and some of those ways have to do with cultural differences. The mantilla is more from the Spanish culture. The OP mentioned that she wore a snoop. I’m not sure what culture wears the snoop but I think my husband would think that I would look ridiculous if I suddenly started to wear a snoop, particularly one with closed end where the hair is stuffed inside. That doesn’t mean that all women look ridiculous in a snoop. Some women look beautiful in that kind of snoop and it is more to their culture. The open ended snoop, however, seems to be more adaptable I would think. Just like the mantilla was adapted years ago when head covering for women was required. But it is understandable, to me anyway, that some would feel that they would look ridiculous to suddenly start wearing a veil. I used to wear a head scarf to church as a child. And lately I have kind of wanted to wear a head scarf again, But I feel I would look ridiculous.🙂
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i was most likely influenced by his earlier post #44, prior to this one. I got the impression that he thought it’s ridiculous, and given that line of reasoning, his wife wouldn’t do it. That’s why I wonder…its ok if you’re not particularly awed, impressed or whatsoever. What strikes me as negative is the ‘ridiculous’ part. Is having a different opinion or ‘dress sense’ worthy of ridicule?
 
doughnut said:
i was most likely influenced by his earlier post #44, prior to this one. I got the impression that he thought it’s ridiculous, and given that line of reasoning, his wife wouldn’t do it. That’s why I wonder…its ok if you’re not particularly awed, impressed or whatsoever. What strikes me as negative is the ‘ridiculous’ part. Is having a different opinion or ‘dress sense’ worthy of ridicule?
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That was his first position, but he seems to have realized the problem with it and backed off from it in the later post. Even so, I too am left with impression that his “gut reaction” is to think it’s ridiculous even while he intellectually realizes that this is an unreasonable position.
 
zab said:
I think Muslim women in burkas look beautiful! But I would look ridiculous if I started to wear a burka.
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I agree. They make a statement with their dress. But it isnt for everyone nor is it required for morality sake.
 
If my wife wants to wear one she can fill her boots, it doesn’t matter to me either way. So if I had to use one word for this it would be;

Meh.
 
floresco said:
That was his first position, but he seems to have realized the problem with it and backed off from it in the later post. Even so, I too am left with impression that his “gut reaction” is to think it’s ridiculous even while he intellectually realizes that this is an unreasonable position.
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I think it is best not to read too much into it and just be concerned with what you think and do. It has been over 50 years since I wore a long head scarf and I, too, feel that I would look ridiculous if I suddenly started to wear one again. That doesn’t mean that I am against women who want to wear head covering or that I am jealous of them- maybe a little holy envy but certainly not sinful. I really wouldn’t mind wearing a scarf again, if a significant number of women in my parish started covering their heads again. But that is not the case in our parish yet. So if I would feel ridiculous, I can see why he would also think it is ridiculous . But that is nothing to get bothered about if one feels strongly about beginning this practice of covering their head.
 
As a converting to Catholic, I have noticed the head coverings once before in Mass, donned by the women of a visiting family. I thought they were beautiful and very respectful. I do believe that ‘to each her own’ most definitely applies in this situation.
That being said, the Mass I go to is practiced ‘ad deum’ (I believe that’s the right term) where Fr. Joe faces the ‘liturgical East’ when preparing the Eucharist and everything. I don’t know if I would wear a head covering to this, especially since it is a lot of younger folks (college students).
If I do decide to do so, where could I find such a head covering? Or does any scarf-like covering work? What are some guidelines?
 
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