Opposite sex doctors?

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Jaded27:
I don’t think that signifies a messed up sense of priorities. Should woman be barefoot and pregnant at all times? It’s 2005!!
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Barefoot and pregnant as often as her and husband’s sanity and income permit, yes.
I’ll agree to disagree, because I do believe insisting on maintaining a career as a mother is a misplaced sense of priority to varying degrees depending upon motives, income, and many other factors.
 
I have no issue with doctors of the opposite sex (or the same sex.) The only issue I have with doctors are incompatant ones. When I was pregnant I had a female OB I didn’t really care for. She went on vacation and I had to schedule with another Dr. in the office. He was sooo much better I continued to schedule with him.

I’ve grown up in and out of hospitals and have seen many many doctors. As long as they are knowledgable, professional and have the ability to listen their patients that is all I care about.
 
I have had some VERY compassionate and competent opposite sex doctors that I felt greatly at ease with. But - I have a same sex doctor, and she is my preference - because as a rule I don’t trust opposite sex doctors.

As a pre-teen I was abused by an opposite sex dentist (not sexually) - but he roughed me up because I was so afraid, and I guess he got annoyed with me. On top of that I was afraid to tell my parents what happened, even though I left the office with bruises. Boy if that were to happen today, he would have been sued into orbit. I believe he has died, or is very old now.
Think I have issues with medical doctors and dentists in general? :ehh:
 
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Jaded27:
Wow, now that is a very broad statement. I think it’s necessary for almost every family to have two working parents in it. I love my career (most days. lol) and though I used to want to be strictly a stay-at-home mom I’m now thinking I’d like to find a way to hold onto my career when i do have kids because it’s nice and easier to have two incomes.

I don’t think that signifies a messed up sense of priorities. Should woman be barefoot and pregnant at all times? It’s 2005!!
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Nothing in the world could be as nice as knowing that I am the one taking care of my children. And easier? Not so sure… most working Moms I know put in 30-40 hours away from home & STILL do most of the other hosushold type stuff.

And… as I type this I am both barefoot and preganant AND very happy. :yup:

But to the original poster… it’s obviously just a matter of personal preference. I can see why ridesawhitehors would prefer a female doctor… to each his own.
 
This post reminds me of a comedy sketch once on SNL “Mel Gibson, Dream Gynocologist” 🙂
 
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CuriousInIL:
This is a spin-off of the thread discussing opposite sex friends for married folks. forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?p=1011311&posted=1#post1011311

How do we feel about opposite sex doctors of the personal probing type, e.g., internists, urologists, gynecologists, etc. for ourselves and our spouses?

Acceptable? Preferred? Does it matter if we are talking about male doctors for females or female doctors for males?
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Well IMHO I prefer male doctors (OB/GYN is male so is the dentist). But in reality I could care less what sex the Dr was as long as they are compentant!!!
 
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Jaded27:
Wow, now that is a very broad statement. I think it’s necessary for almost every family to have two working parents in it. I love my career (most days. lol) and though I used to want to be strictly a stay-at-home mom I’m now thinking I’d like to find a way to hold onto my career when i do have kids because it’s nice and easier to have two incomes.

I don’t think that signifies a messed up sense of priorities. Should woman be barefoot and pregnant at all times? It’s 2005!!
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Thats a broad statement too!! 🙂
Anyways, I do agree with vluvski, that it depends on each case, but I don’t really think that almost every family **needs ** to have 2 working parents. I think misplaced priorities may lead society to believe this, and bad financial habits may lead a family to this circumstance, but I don’t think **almost every ** family needs 2 working parents.
 
I go to a female nurse practioner and she’s wonderful. I think I would feel uncomfortable going to a male, but maybe not. My MIL has had the same male OB-GYN since my husband was born. I just feel a little weirded out at the idea of a male gynecologist, which probably isn’t very fair because I’m sure there are some great ones out there. As for regular doctors, I’ve always had a male doctor until just recently for primary care. Although, once I had to go to him for a UTI and it was pretty embarrassing, and that isn’t even a specifically female thing…oh well probably TMI, guys, sorry. 😃 Maybe I’m just embarrassed in front of doctors in general.
 
carol marie:
I think being a doctor (especially an OB) is very demanding time-wise. With women doctors I can’t help but wonder who is at home taking care of their kids? Maybe they don’t have any - fine - but if they do… where’s their Mom?

(now I’m going to take cover in case I get flamed for being sexist?)
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As well you should…why wouldn’t it even occur to you that there well might be a SAHD on duty? I don’t see anyone worried about who’s caring for the kids of the male docs.
 
Island Oak:
As well you should…why wouldn’t it even occur to you that there well might be a SAHD on duty? I don’t see anyone worried about who’s caring for the kids of the male docs.
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My female cardiologist’s husband is a SAHD.
 
Wow, where do you find all these OB-GYNs?? My regular doctor was just an internist, but she, uh specialized in women’s problems and had a thousand patients. She gave me really good care, but I’m ashamed to say that she used to be one of the big abortion doctors in town but I think she got out of it…she is a couple years younger than me but struggling with obesity and just recently got out of the business for the third or fourth time. I always thought she was much sicker than I ever was. I wondered often if her conscience was bothering her.

When I was younger I felt perfectly at ease with men doctors, but now it’s got to be a woman. There’s a shortage of women internists here…anyone who comes to practice here should have it made!
 
I just feel blessed to have a Catholic NFP only doctor my whole family can see who also does ob/gyn. I hated having pediatricians, ob/gyns, midwife, and a “regular” doctor–too confusing. Our dr knows us all and what’s going on in our lives and is better able to serve our needs. It doesn’t bother me in the least that he’s a man.

Jennifer
 
Island Oak:
As well you should…why wouldn’t it even occur to you that there well might be a SAHD on duty? I don’t see anyone worried about who’s caring for the kids of the male docs.
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I assume that the Mom is doing a wonderful job taking care of the kids of the male doctors. At least that’s my hope.

For the female doctors… maybe there is a SAHD on duty? But more often than not I’m sure that isn’t the case. It’s not like there are a huge percentage of SAHD’s. But if there IS a stay at home Dad - wonderful. But otherwise I think the Mom should be at home with her children. It’s best for the children.
 
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caroljm36:
When I was younger I felt perfectly at ease with men doctors, but now it’s got to be a woman. There’s a shortage of women internists here…anyone who comes to practice here should have it made!
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Yup MT has a shortage of everything…or at least it did when I lived there many moons ago:D
 
carol marie:
I assume that the Mom is doing a wonderful job taking care of the kids of the male doctors. At least that’s my hope.

For the female doctors… maybe there is a SAHD on duty? But more often than not I’m sure that isn’t the case. It’s not like there are a huge percentage of SAHD’s. But if there IS a stay at home Dad - wonderful. But otherwise I think the Mom should be at home with her children. It’s best for the children.
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What if the mom does not want to stay at home or if she feels her skills as a Dr. are too important not to share with her paitents? What if her husband also wants to work…to each their own…perhaps they need two incomes to survive !!! IMHO I could care less what my Dr. does outside of his office…as long as he or she is compatant in his or her field.
 
carol marie:
Nothing in the world could be as nice as knowing that I am the one taking care of my children. And easier? Not so sure… most working Moms I know put in 30-40 hours away from home & STILL do most of the other hosushold type stuff.

And… as I type this I am both barefoot and preganant AND very happy. :yup:

But to the original poster… it’s obviously just a matter of personal preference. I can see why ridesawhitehors would prefer a female doctor… to each his own.
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I meant it’s easier to have two incomes. Easier to pay bills. Money sucks. lol.

Nothing wrong with being “barefoot and pregnant”. Something wrong with people (male or female) thinking women should be that way all the time and as long as the CAN stay home they are REQUIRED to. No thanks.

But yes, to stay on topic - to each his own with the doctor thing. I just find male OBGYNs to be extremely creepy. To ME, not to others. It’s whatever works for you.
 
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Karin:
What if the mom does not want to stay at home or if she feels her skills as a Dr. are too important not to share with her paitents? What if her husband also wants to work…to each their own…perhaps they need two incomes to survive !!! IMHO I could care less what my Dr. does outside of his office…as long as he or she is compatant in his or her field.
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I think this could be the beginning of a new thread.
 
I don’t want a female doctor doing exams on me. Screening, meds, vitals, diagnosis are all fine. But I’ld have to say no to that prostate exam. Had one do a hurnia (sp?) check when I was younger and not married. She was very attractive. Led to an embarrassing situation.
 
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mjdonnelly:
I don’t want a female doctor doing exams on me. Screening, meds, vitals, diagnosis are all fine. But I’ld have to say no to that prostate exam. Had one do a hurnia (sp?) check when I was younger and not married. She was very attractive. Led to an embarrassing situation.
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I always wondered if that actually happened to guys in a situation like that. :hmmm:

I’d think a guy would be more weirded about a male doctor um… “getting personal” then a female one.

My hubby says male doctors are much rougher when it comes to that kind of stuff.
 
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