It might be helpful to understand
the distinction between discipline and punishment? When your parents pulled two-year-old you away from the fire you so desperately wanted to touch, they did not stop loving you, no matter how much you kicked and screamed.
**That’s because love is so much more than merely being nice and supporting others in their pursuits. Love redirects when those pursuits are harmful or dangerous. **That’s not to say love is some perpetual killjoy – love
is joy, yes, such joy! But love is also suffering for the benefit of another. This is why men are called to love their wives as Christ loved the Church
and died for Her by ‘dying’ a bit each day (Eph. 5). That daily denial of self for another is love.
To put it simply, Love is not rainbows and unicorns (or tattoos and hiarspray, for that matter). Love is incalculably deeper.