Overcome masturbation by reducing sexual desire?

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Isn’t it funny that it’s about men who “ejaculate” more vs those who do so less?
If one isn’t married, he shouldn’t be doing this at all unless he has nightly emissions, which should be rare.
 
So, no one knows any way to reduce (or eliminate) sexual desire? No food, or medicine, or anything else?
 
Try fasting. Go without food and drink from sunrise to sunset. It has helped me considerably. When your mind is focused on hunger pains, it’s much more difficult to fall into masturbation. We get these questions on a weekly basis and my answer has always been the same. Fasting is a gift from God. Give it a try, brother.
 
keep your thoughts and eyes on good wholesome things and people.

Being ‘cool’ to the world’s definition or being quirkly sexy is not wholesomeness to Catholicism. Such images and persons can leave little ‘images’ in your mind to ponder upon while doing the deed.

Have you ever wondered why those ‘images’ of persons and/or things you’ve seen on T.V. or elsewhere are seen in your mind without you having to use any energy to bring them into your mind’s memory? They just kind of ‘appear’ from nowhere. If you’ve watched any porno, then your mind will play those videos in your mind all by itself. Right?

So the problem isn’t so much ‘not watching’ them anymore, although that would help. But another ‘problem’ is to get all the past ‘little images’ in your mind taken out of your mind’s memory factories.
 
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Following “my” (much is from saints’ advice) advice should lead to a much decreased desire for any sexual deviance.
 
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someone429 said:
So, no one knows any way to reduce (or eliminate) sexual desire? No food, or medicine, or anything else?
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I think it isn’t so much that there isn’t anything, but that there are much more effective ways of stopping—and you CAN do it. Your question would be a good one for a medical professional. Your doctor might be a good place to start.
 
I have always found this council a little odd, though advice given by fathers of the Church. If fasting is a remedy against impurity, then one should fast constantly without interruption, because that is when you stop your fast, that temptation may arise
And finally personally, fasting never prevented me from having unclean thoughts, maybe it works for some one, but for my case it never worked
 
Just to reiterate, this is a terrible idea. There are no free rides in nature, and if you take something to mess with your hormones (which no responsible medical professional will prescribe you) you’re going to screw up your health. Let this idea go.
 
Reduce your triggers. Pornography, or anything that sets you of on the path. That is what will reduce your desire. You are looking for an easy way out, a pill, or change in diet. You need to change the way you think, not your biology.
 
There is no instant way to get rid of this problem. One of my best friend was addicted to porn for his entire high school, but he does everything he can to not fall into this sin again. I frequently remind him at night to go to sleep and not to do such thing. I suggest you avoid anything that can arouse you, do some workout at the gym, and most importantly pray for your purity. Tell Jesus that you want to get out of this “prison”, tell Him you want to be a free man, a man that is not controlled by his own desires.
I found a good prayer for purity, hope it can help! Also check out the porn effect by Matt Fradd, he’s a guy who’ve successfully overcome his addiction to porn.
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  • We, catholics are not allow to mutilate our own body (castration) in ordor to ovoid sexual sins. It was a question who rose in the first centuries of Christianity.
  • to chemicaly or medicaly “cut off” our sexual drive could be morally problematic, if we are healthy men or women.
But I don’t know exactly the position of catholic church on this better to ask advice on a priest. But I never ear of someone like that as a “solution”.

Sure, they have herbs, food who could be onsidered to help reduce libido (which is not certain…)in traditional medecine (such as Hildegard von Bingen).

-Finally, I am not convince that who could find a single doctor who would accept to help you to reduce your drive… I think they would on contrary to convince you on the helath benefit on sexuality or masturbation…Unfortunately…
 
the help I see :
  • It is a battle who could be win in prayer. Pray regulary, go to communion, confession, if you sin, don’t be discourage if you sin. Catholic actor/producer Eduardo Verastegui have testify on the power of prayer to be faithfully chaste.
  • It requierre a strong motivation and commitment. Will is necessaru, and compagnion of prayer. If you will, you can.
With prayer and determination I have myself win a battle over sexual immorality (not the same as you…)

-helathy life in all aspect (physical activty, enough quality sleep, regular hours and so much) is a whole, and hep to ovoid tentation.

-keep busy, avoid inactivity. Help others, take news to friends, family, practice charity…

-Be positive. You wll probably win. But, It can be long, perhaps years.
  • You are young and healthy. But A little older, I could be more easy. (I am a woman, 30 years, But I can testify that sex drive is not always the same all the life…) and I depends on your mood, depression…
-If you married and have sex one day, temptation will decrease or stop. But I not tell you that it is the solution to yoyr problem! beacuse marriage has his own challenge, even in sexuality! Not the same…

And the more important, love. Have a life order with love. Because if we don’t love all we do Is nothing…
(read St Paul…)

And yes, we have sexual desire because we are ordain to procreate. It is a natural order… Without that, humanity will extinct in few generarations…
 
I’ve been clean for a month. Whenever you have the urge, pray and ask God to help. God never gives you temptation that you cannot overcome. Whenever the urge is small, spend some time in prayer or read some bible verses then relax with a episode of your favorite show or something. I can’t remember whose idea this was, but I read it off another website from a helpful commenter so this wasn’t my idea, but he or she said something along the lines of: Before you sin, think about Jesus on the cross. In the boiling heat. The pain of the nails through his flesh, his body exposed to the public. He did this for you. Every time you sin, the nails are thrusted further into his flesh causing him even greater pain. Every time you remain good and do good deeds, the pain is slightly eased. God you so much, and wants you to succeed, and he will help you. Never think that you cannot overcome the temptation because it is so strong or that you cannot life a life without masturbation. You can because Jesus leads everyone out of sin. He did it for me, and he’ll do it for you.
 
someone429 said:
Hello everyone. I am a Catholic, and am a 22-year-old male person. Now, I have a big problem: I often masturbate. I know that I shouldn’t do that, and I have tried much to avoid that, but I have made little progress because of my sexual desire. I am tired of this. Now I want to know: Is there any way to reduce (or eliminate, which is better) my sexual desire, which can definitely help me avoid masturbation? For example, eat some food, or take some medicine? I will appreciate all suggestions that really work.
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I have suffered from this temptation badly in the past, and it still comes back to haunt me every now and then.

When I have the temptation, the ONLY think that works for me is to start praying several Hail Marys.

When I pray the Hail Marys the temptation starts to go away and I stop praying once the temptation is completely gone (sometimes it takes as many as 5-10 Hail Marys).

When I don’t pray and simply try to ignore the temptation, I fail & fall into sin.

So that’s my suggestion… pray multiple Hail Mary’s until you urge to masturbate goes away.

Trust me, it really does work.

God Bless
 
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When I have the temptation, the ONLY think that works for me is to start praying several Hail Marys.
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This is also great advice, and has helped me throughout my road to purity and chastity, especially when I’m actively fighting temptation.

I’ve had times at mass (and everywhere else; during HS, the height of my addiction) where I’d have pornographic thoughts - heck, I still have them occasionally, but I’m much better able to throw them away - and try to get rid of them, and nothing would work except constantly saying the Hail Mary to myself - in hopes that I could then focus on the Mass again.

Also, if you don’t, exercise helps. Get up and out. Bike ride. Jog. Walk. Anything. Lift it as a prayerful sacrifice. I found physically draining myself assists in fighting lust.
 
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Masturbation is a maladaptive coping mechanism for sexual desire, or it can be an anxious habit (a mode of procrastination).

The solution is to develop self-discipline to ignore it and seek a spouse.

You can decrease sexual desire through habitually turning your attention to other matters and physical exercise. It’s important not to “exercise because you want to masturbate”, though, or else psychologically you’ll associate exercise with procrastinating masturbation and it won’t help as much.
 
What about those of us who are gay, or same-sex attracted? How do we ‘share our sexuality’ with others, ever, in Catholic teaching?
 
well ,avoid the occasion of sin .Pray to Jesus and Mother Mary to keep holy thought word and actions,frequent confession,also in this state hope your not receiving holy communion.you need to surrender to the Lord everything and build a relationship with him.God Bless

Psalms 119 :9-12 How can young people keep their way pure?
By guarding it according to your word.
10 With my whole heart I seek you;
do not let me stray from your commandments.
11 I treasure your word in my heart,
so that I may not sin against you.
12 Blessed are you, O Lord;
teach me your statutes.
 
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What about those of us who are gay, or same-sex attracted? How do we ‘share our sexuality’ with others, ever, in Catholic teaching?
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Sexuality is ordered to the good in chastity. This applies to everyone, whether you are same sex attracted, hetero attracted, married, single, celibate, etc…
Human beings are sexual beings. Sexuality is more than the body parts and how they work, but not separate from that.
Well ordered sexuality is about being a whole person and developing communion with others.
http://www.vatican.va/archive/ccc_css/archive/catechism/p3s2c2a6.htm
2332 Sexuality affects all aspects of the human person in the unity of his body and soul. It especially concerns affectivity, the capacity to love and to procreate, and in a more general way the aptitude for forming bonds of communion with others.
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