I can tell you something that is NOT useful. To say “the Bible says” or “The Church says…” Many times Christians approach pagans this way, not “getting” that for someone who has another faith with its own history and teachings, they don’t feel bound to see yours as truth.
I know this sounds really elemental, but it can be very hard for a person who is so secure in their Christian faith to really understand that there are folks who don’t measure the universe with the same yardstick. It is reality to you, so it is impossible to understand that other people not only don’t see it as reality, but don’t even give it the time of day.
Lots of folks lump my faith into paganism, and I hang with lots of pagans, and that ONE thing is the biggest issue I see.
Christians have a hard time understanding and accepting that pagans aren’t just acting out against Christianity, but really believe, live and accept as reality, their own pagan faith.
Often there is such a gap in world view, and experience that it can be hard for Christians to communicate. In the USA, pagans have the upper hand in this instance, in that they understand Christian mindset because they are exposed to it through culture, but many Christians have not truly been exposed to the mindset of another faith.
Christians assume they understand the “pagan” mindset, and that it involves “believing whatever makes you feel good” etc. etc. But have no real understanding or respect that there are other religions and philosophies out there.
If all a person can see is that people either believe in Christianity or they are entirely deluded, then it is unlikely that a non-Christian is going to take anything that person says seriously.
It is foolish to assume that all pagans follow the religion of self. That is a misinformed view. Many spend much time, effort, in ritual, prayer, discipline, ethics, works, etc. People practice their religions for the same reason you practice yours, to know and serve your deity and to align yourself with right practice for the good of yourself, the world and to honor the truth.
If you enter a conversation with that level of understanding and human respect, even if you don’t know the details of the other person’s faith, you can have a good dialogue.
cheddar