'Pearls in need of polishing'-paedophiles

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What you say in #1 and #2 are equally true for government and non sectarian agencies as well. Abuse in government custody, foster care, is far, far more common than reported.
Unlike the agencies you mention above, the Church has always been special. Even for non believers.

The Church is the place you go for hope when hope fails.
The Church is the place you trust when trust fails.

That’s why when abuse happens in a place of God or by a man of God it’s so shocking, and why I think the media puts such a heavy spotlight it.
 
That’s why when abuse happens in a place of God or by a man of God it’s so shocking, and why I think the media puts such a heavy spotlight it.
The media has grossly under reported abuse by foster parents, by public school teachers, human services professionals, and (to some extent) by Protestant ministers. All trusted members of society.

None of this is to deny what the Church did, but to take a look at the media.
 
The media has grossly under reported abuse by foster parents, by public school teachers, human services professionals, and (to some extent) by Protestant ministers. All trusted members of society.
On the contrary. If it wasn’t for the media, we wouldn’t have known about the abuses in the first place and they would probably still be going on full force unabated.

I remember child abuse being reported at day care centers and recently at illegal immigrant centers. So I think the media is doing their job. The media isn’t the problem, the Church is.

But as I said previously, THE CHURCH IS SPECIAL. When you lose faith in the Church, it’s like losing an arm. You can’t get it back.
 
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What you say in #1 and #2 are equally true for government and non sectarian agencies as well. Abuse in government custody, foster care, is far, far more common than reported.
Unlike the agencies you mention above, the Church has always been special. Even for non believers.

The Church is the place you go for hope when hope fails.
The Church is the place you trust when trust fails.

That’s why when abuse happens in a place of God or by a man of God it’s so shocking, and why I think the media puts such a heavy spotlight it.
As Archbishop Michael Sheehan of Santa Fe said, “Do not put your trust in human beings, because they will fail you. Instead, place your trust in God and in His Sacraments, because these are the things which will never fail.”
 
On the contrary. If it wasn’t for the media, we wouldn’t have known about the abuses in the first place and they would probably still be going on full force unabated.
For this, we should be grateful. That said, there are still outlets that have gone too far, still reporting old abuses as if it is current news.
 
there are still outlets that have gone too far, still reporting old abuses as if it is current news.
Yes, I noticed that too, but I think it’s because the victims from so long ago still feel the pain.
That’s how awful this is. The pain never stops.
 
As Archbishop Michael Sheehan of Santa Fe said, “Do not put your trust in human beings, because they will fail you. Instead, place your trust in God and in His Sacraments, because these are the things which will never fail.”
Archbishop Michael Sheehan is absolutely correct. The trouble is that many see priests and bishops as something above human.
 
I think that THESE priests who are wisely doing their
explanation of God’s Word, the Scriptures are the
Pearls that need polishing to make them MORE shiny
in reflecting the Glory of God!!
 
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Your priest is correct. Sin diminishes but does not remove that part of us that is precious and of infinite worth to God. The moment we fail to see this in any other person, regardless of sin, then we are at direct odds with Jesus who died for these men as much as he did for anyone.
There is no room and no need for this to be expressed from the pulpit. The last thing the Church needs right now is apologists for sex abusers. The only thing the priest needs to say is that they need to be found out, turfed out of their position, and stripped of their ability to act as a priest. That is all. If they want to turn away from sin they can do so in prison.
 
But as I said previously, THE CHURCH IS SPECIAL. When you lose faith in the Church, it’s like losing an arm. You can’t get it back.
Sure you can. the Bible has numerous examples of those who have lost faith and then returned to God. Indeed, the prophets are regularly calling people to turn back to God.
If you follow CAF for a while, you are likely to encounter members who became athiest or agnostic for a period of time and then found their way back to the Church.
Oftentimes, those who have reclaimed their faith, find tha t faith renewed, is stronger than the faith which had not yet encountered a period of trial.
May God bless you and may he bless all who are struggling with the faith.
Amen.
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The only thing the priest needs to say is that they need to be found out, turfed out of their position, and stripped of their ability to act as a priest. That is all. If they want to turn away from sin they can do so in prison.
I’m glad you’re not my confessor. :roll_eyes:
The Church is the place you go for hope when hope fails.
The Church is the place you trust when trust fails.

That’s why when abuse happens in a place of God or by a man of God it’s so shocking, and why I think the media puts such a heavy spotlight it.
Call me cynical, but I really don’t think that the media gives this the unrelenting attention it does because they hope in the Church and want to trust her. 🤔
 
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Call me cynical, but I really don’t think that the media gives this the unrelenting attention it does because they hope in the Church and want to trust her.
True. Sensationalism sells. But there would be nothing to sensationalize if the Church didn’t cause the problem to being with.
 
Sensationalism sells. But there would be nothing to sensationalize if the Church didn’t cause the problem to being with.
I think it goes beyond ‘sensationalism’. It seems more like a particular group’s attempts to tear down the Church, with whatever ammunition is at hand.
 
. It seems more like a particular group’s attempts to tear down the Church, with whatever ammunition is at hand.
Sounds a lot like conspiracy theories to me. This does NOTHING to fix the problem.
The ammunition, as you say, was given to the media by the victims.
 
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I’m glad you’re not my confessor.
Why? Do you think that punishment too harsh for a paedophile?
I don’t. I don’t think most people would either.
The trouble with that idea is that our God is a God of love and mercy. Yes, it is tempered with justice. But the Catholic Church is here for the salvation of souls, and that means dispensing love and mercy in generous amounts. The worst, most depraved abuser can receive healing and forgiveness when she shows contrition, confesses her sins, and does penance. She must resolve not to sin again, but the wonderful part of God’s mercy is that she can receive that forgiveness over and over and over again. She should suffer temporal consequences for her abuse, but I ask the people calling out for blood: are ye without sin? Cast the first stone. Is this The Worst Sin you can think of? Is this wretched abuser worse than Hitler and Stalin put together?

What should a priest preach in his homilies about abuse? Should he mention that the Church offers healing and love for victim and abuser alike? Should he mention that our Sacraments work for everyone–in Christ there is no Jew nor Greek, slave nor free? Should he mention that the Church is proactive in discipline and has taken steps to ensure that abusers will be stopped and brought to justice? What is the nature of that justice, when it comes to the Church?
 
The trouble with that idea is that our God is a God of love and mercy. Yes, it is tempered with justice. But the Catholic Church is here for the salvation of souls, and that means dispensing love and mercy in generous amounts. The worst, most depraved abuser can receive healing and forgiveness when she shows contrition, confesses her sins, and does penance.
Nobody is disputing this. But the key words are that they are contrite and do penance. Certainly an abuser priest should not remain in their position or be put in a position where they could abuse again.
but I ask the people calling out for blood: are ye without sin?
This is a ridiculous statement to utter in this conversation. We are not talking about cheating on a spouse, or some one night stand between two high-school kids. We’re talking about the sexual abuse of children. It’s perfectly reasonable to expect these criminals to face the harshest punishments our judicial system has to offer. Let’s not even get into trying to compare them to Hitler and Stalin. Hitler and Stalin weren’t claiming to be serving Jesus Christ for one thing. It doesn’t matter who is worse. Just that a priest abusing his power to interfere with children is up there with the very bad sins. The fact that he is a priest actually makes it worse and magnifies the evil because the consequences are much worse.
Should he mention that the Church offers healing and love for victim and abuser alike?
Nope. People already know this. What is the need to say this? No sympathy should be shown for offenders from the altar. No abuser should ever be held up as an example of repentance.
Should he mention that our Sacraments work for everyone
Nope
in Christ there is no Jew nor Greek, slave nor free?
No paedophile or non-paedophile?
Should he mention that the Church is proactive in discipline and has taken steps to ensure that abusers will be stopped and brought to justice? What is the nature of that justice, when it comes to the Church?
Yes but that still hasn’t happened in some places and it’s a terrible scandal. The justice that the Church needs to serve here is removal from the clerical state, and from any activity that affords them access to minors.
 
The justice that the Church needs to serve here is removal from the clerical state, and from any activity that affords them access to minors.
I disagree. You can’t have both. Here’s why. When you dismiss a man from the clerical state, or when you exclaustrate a monk or nun, and dispense their sacred vows, you release them from the temporal and spiritual control of the Church. You release them from their duties and responsibilities as clerics or consecrated religious.

It is quite possible to order a cleric or religious to a life of penance and prayer in a secluded monastery, away from children. It is also easy to remove all faculties from a cleric while he retains the clerical state. It is impossible to control an ex-cleric or an ex-religious who lives out in the world. Impossible.
 
I disagree. You can’t have both. Here’s why. When you dismiss a man from the clerical state, or when you exclaustrate a monk or nun, and dispense their sacred vows, you release them from the temporal and spiritual control of the Church. You release them from their duties and responsibilities as clerics or consecrated religious.

It is quite possible to order a cleric or religious to a life of penance and prayer in a secluded monastery, away from children. It is also easy to remove all faculties from a cleric while he retains the clerical state. It is impossible to control an ex-cleric or an ex-religious who lives out in the world. Impossible.
A few issues here.
1- You’re kind of bypassing the secular justice system here, which should take over once an abuse case has been reported. Nothing like this should happen without the approval and agreement of secular authorities.
2 - I know of a case where this happened with the agreement of the secular authorities. The agreement was that the religious order in question would monitor and house the priest and he would fess up to all his misdeeds and avoid jail. The man pretended to go along with it and was secretly visiting one of his victims who was too ashamed to tell his wife and family that this priest abused him. Eventually he was discovered and is now in jail where he belongs. But the fact that he was residing in a religious house meant that there could be no activities involving children in that place for years. His brother priests were turned into wardens and the man was given the opportunity to torment his victims as adults.
3- What makes you think that they’ll obey these restrictions. It’s a pretty big leap to go from not trusting a person to not abuse kids, to trusting them to remain in a monastery saying their prayers for the remainder of their lives. Should we just trust them, or as I mentioned, are we to turn their brother priests into wardens, responsible for running a mini-prison. No priest signs up for that.
4 - Back to the justice system. These abusers should be handed over to, and monitored by the secular justice system. And yes, stripped of their priesthood. The Church is not a replacement for that.
5 - Optics. Just from a simple PR perspective, the Church should not be the ones to say what punishment these people deserve. The Church just needs to very publicly show that they are out of their position.
 
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I can see that your faith and hope have been seriously damaged by abuse. I will pray that you find healing and redemption in the Sacraments.
 
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