People not wanting babies

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Yeah well, and what should they do? Most families in their 20s aren’t that financially secure to miss one of the two incomes.
And then there is the time before you have children. Are you living like no pregnancy is in sight, which is useful because you don’t get mad and have nothing when you aren’t blessed with babies at the end, then chances are high you may have some sort of career when you get pregnant.
 
There are plenty of caring loving and good daycare workers out there. Please don’t tar them all with the same brush.
 
I loved my babies, but I found the lack of sleep and sleep disruptions awful. I was actually sick to my stomach much of the time–I simply don’t do well when I am sleep-deprived.

I also gained a lot of weight because when I am tired, I eat–lots, and mainly sweets and caffeinated soft drinks. I’m now 60 and have never lost that weight permanently. I’ve lost it temporarily at least a half- dozen times, and at this point, I’m pretty much resigned to never losing it. My knees are too painful to do any type of vigorous aerobic exercise (and no, I am NOT a swimmer and I absolutely HATE getting into a pool and getting cold wet and chorine-y, so water walking is not an option).

I work in a microbiology lab so gross things like spit-up and poop don’t phase me. But I know a lot of people who have a hard time with this. Usually people get over it once they have their kids. It’s strange to me that people who dislike gross things are interested in cats and dogs–those pets make some nasty messes!

But it was the sleep deprivation that did me in, and I think it’s the main reason, along with my weight gain, that we only had two children. I just couldn’t face the lack of sleep and the unsteady stomach that I get when I am tired.
 
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But I know a lot of people who have a hard time with this. Usually people get over it once they have their kids. It’s strange to me that people who dislike gross things are interested in cats and dogs–those pets make some nasty messes!
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Yeah, this. My dog have had issues with gastritis and I woke up in the night more than once to clean a carpet of the fluids that left the poor animal from both sides :roll_eyes:
But honestly, beside all single cat ladys and married to their dog people, I often notice that those who care for a pet reasonable (and not making humans out of them) are less against children because of the “I need to spend time and care” reason. I think in general this is a huge benefit for children to grow up with a pet they have to take care of (and stay interested even when the dog need to be walked at 6 am).
 
whoever does not want a baby does not get married, and must renounce any romantic relationship. Well, I do not see where the problem is
 
MiserereMei25 said:
People make children sound like they’re a burden
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If you woke up one morning and found a pony in your living room along with instructions that you were obligated to keep, feed, and care for that pony would you think it a burden?
 
That is an unfair comparison as a baby is not an animal. He or she is a soul created in the image and likeness of God.

And there is time to prepare for the baby before it comes into the world.

Look. I am so tired as I write this. I have had more bodily fluids on me than I ever have had in my life. We spend much in formula and diapers…But I am happy. I am the happiest I have ever been in life because I knew when I got married that to be a husband was to also answer the call to fatherhood. It’s hard but my son is far from a burden even though we rent an apartment and are tight in funds and lacking sleep.
 
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If someone is paying the same to their daycare that they are making, and then that daycare is not a good place, that person should re-evaluate the way they make choices. They either should step aside and not work, or find a better daycare option. That doesn’t mean all families are in that position. Most families aren’t willing (or able) to pay the same or more for childcare than they make, and most childcare is safe and loving.
 
MiserereMei25 said:
Look. I am so tired as I write this. I have had more bodily fluids on me than I ever have had in my life. We spend much in formula and diapers…But I am happy. I am the happiest I have ever been in life because I knew when I got married that to be a husband was to also answer the call to fatherhood. It’s hard but my son is far from a burden even though we rent an apartment and are tight in funds and lacking sleep.
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That’s cool, but not everyone feels that way -

What’s it to you if someone else isn’t as enthusiastic about parenthood as you are?
 
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I mean, waking up and finding a baby in my room sounds better than you may think when you´re going through pregnancy with nausea, but really, don´t you think 9 months give you some time to prepare?
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Okay, so change the scenario to ‘you get an official notice that in nine months, you will receive a pony that you must care for, etc…’
 
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Okay, so change the scenario to ‘you get an official notice that in nine months, you will receive a pony that you must care for, etc…’
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Well, if you entered a lottery knowing that 1/4 win, and the prize is that you will receive a pony after nine months, it sounds kind of dumb to enter that lottery if you view ponies as burdens.
 
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Guessing if you talked to them, many of them have not had the experience of living with babies. They were only children or had only one sib very close in age. Today extended family connections are often lost, so, people grow up seeing cousins, aunts, uncles once a year at best.

When a person has had little brothers/sisters/cousins in their day-to-day live, when they have never seen that babies are just another part of life, that they are more than diapers and spit up. They get the TV/Movie/Internet blog version of babies.

Encourage them to volunteer with little kids, to get some exposure to the joy that comes from a drolly smile and stick hugs.
 
First of all, a human female’s ova do not “dry up”, and it is a crude, unkind phrase.

You might want to do a read of the “ideal woman” in Proverbs 31. She has both a family and a career (as an artisan and real estate).

Look at the shining examples of working mothers who raised Saints or who are themselves Saints.
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instead a lot of kids have some mean daycare worker that leaves them to break bones or daycare fight clubs, which have been in the news recently.
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You realize that media outlets scour the world looking for the most outrageous headlines so they can get your clicks which = $$$$ in their pocket. These salacious headlines are not the norm, they are not even on the curve.

The thousands and thousands of care providers who get smeared do not deserve your unkind words.
 
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Then I question if they are truly fulfilling their vocation as a married person unless they are called to not get married.
 
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MiserereMei25 said:
Then I question if they are truly fulfilling their vocation as a married person unless they are called to not get married.
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A) Not everyone sees marriage as a vocation that requires that they have children.

B) What’s it to you if they are ‘truly fulfilling their vocation’ or not?
 
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Anytime anyone is sexually active, the possibility of children exists. If you do not want babies, do not have sex. Honestly it makes no difference to me how others live their lives, as long as they don’t harm the baby they end up creating.
 
The nanny who takes care of my children treats them like her flesh and blood. She cuddles them, cares for them, and brags about them like they were her own grandchildren. She has a level of patience with children that I will never have. She has never “left them to break bones” and the “fight club” is their normal sibling squabbles that would happen no matter who was in charge of them. My kids have someone else in their lives who loves them unconditionally. That’s not so bad in my opinion.
 
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