People not wanting babies

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13pollitos said:
Anytime anyone is sexually active, the possibility of children exists.
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Unless a woman’s ovaries have been removed because of disease…to give a counter-example
13pollitos said:
Honestly it makes no difference to me how others live their lives, as long as they don’t harm the baby they end up creating.
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Yes, this is a very sensible view that I share - however the original poster does seem to care and I’m inviting him to think about why he does…
 
because it is really disheartening to hear people talk negatively of parenthood, especially Christians who are to have a prolife attitude. Does my opinion bother you?
 
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I think you will have a happier and more productive life if you don’t let other people’s opinions bother you.
 
I mean I am happy. But certain things made Jesus angry. It does really bother me in a moral sense. It bothers me because as Christian’s we really are not to have that attitude toward family life and as stated I do feel it is disheartening that people in our Christian community feel that way about family life
 
Even if those daycare centers were typical, there are a lot of other options besides daycare centers. Childcare is very difficult for parents to negotiate. Other than dealing with medical issues, I’d say finding the best possible care for my children has been the biggest struggle. Most parents don’t go into it willy-nilly. Based on the “fight club” video, I’d venture to guess that was a pretty low quality care center and I suspect a lot of the kids were there on vouchers, which indicates that their parents probably didn’t have a lot of options.
 
Well, people are going to feel how people are going to feel and any mental energy you spend letting it bother you is pretty much wasted - but you do you, I guess…
 
I know one or two people who think children are just all little brats and have no desire to have them. Some of their comments can be a little irritating I guess, because my kid is not a brat and is very polite. But really, not everyone has to want or like children. And not everyone can handle everything that comes along with having a kid or kids.

That’s okay. Kids are irritating and annoying and frustrating and just hard. Those of us who have them know it’s worth it, but yes, kids can be a “burden” too. They can be really expensive and wear your patience thin. I think most people who really want kids get over all the uncomfortable stuff.

All you have to say is “yeah it’s hard, but worth it!”. And then move on. No need to dwell on it or let it annoy you. If you’re a new dad who is one of the only parents in your peer group, as more people you know start having kids you’ll probably encounter this less anyway.
 
I think there are just certain things that each of us hear that bother us and we just have to let go. Personally, I get tired of remarks that women who do not have children are somehow inferior or not living fulfilled lives. I’ve triefd to learn to just let it go
 
Look, parenting is no walk in the park.

You’re in the thick of it if you have a new baby. It’ll get tougher if and when you have another…especially if you have a lack of sleep and increased frustration because of things occurring you haven’t experianced before, ie being puked/peed on.

It’s normal. I’ve been through it and so has my husband. I found aggression in other places.

You can feel however you want towards people but think about if it’s necessary or if you’re letting those thoughts really bother you and interrupt daily life.
I’d spend some more time in prayer and ask for help working through those thoughts.
You can pray for others to have a change in heart and to hopefully see things differently about having children.
You could also pray for your own acceptance for things you can’t control.

I love being a mother and thinks it’s such a gift and a blessing. I have at least one close friend, from high school, who is married but has chosen to not have kids. She has several dogs and is completely dedicated to her career.
When I first found out I thought it’s sad and I’m sad for her but I have never let it bother me or let it invade my thoughts. I’m not jealous for her free time and extra income.

Maybe you should redirect your focus and concentrate on other things. We all do…I know I do.
 
Yup.

But again I think it goes back to us being a prolife church. Poor attitudes about raising children are not welcome in the Kingdom of God. I do get concerned because if that attitude spreads in our Church that will not be a good thing.
 
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“not everyone sees marriage as a vocation that requires that they have children” the Church teaches that the purpose of marriage is the procreation and education of children, and for the good of the spouses. The default position, so to speak, of the Church is that if a couple is ready for marriage, they are ready for children, absent serious reasons. Agree?
 
It’s creepy to love other people in your lives? Is it creepy that my kids’ godparents live them? Is it creepy that I love my nieces? I mean, I’m not related to them by blood and I only see them a few times a year. I’d think that’s way more creepy than someone loving the kids they spend a large chunk of time with every day.

Those same nieces? They’ve all been through daycare in one form or another too. As well as all of my kids. Not a single one has been neglected or poorly cared for. None of my coworkers have dealt with neglectful daycares either. Stories such as you mention are sad but are newsworthy because they are not the norm.
 
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guess I’m one of those people that find having kids is a burden lol I never really had a strong desire to have kids.
 
I dont care if someone doesn’t want kids. but when we talk about them like they’re animals that’s an issue.
 
TechieGuy said:
Unless a woman’s ovaries have been removed because of disease…to give a counter-example
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The cases we are discussing here are not about infertile people, when we talk about people who do not want babies, obviously they are non-sterile people.
Here is the rule: every time you have a sexual relationship you must be ready to assume the coming of a child, otherwise, we abstain. To want sex without wanting to assume the coming of a baby is a sin.
 
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