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I just have to respond to the subject of the English teacher.
You need to tell your parents about him. You know it’s wrong to be having sex with him, otherwise there wouldn’t be any need to try to defend this action, to yourself or anyone else. You can’t lie to yourself about this. Also, your relationship with him is not an affair. He seduced and used you. He is the adult that KNOWS he should not be having sex with a minor. He also KNOWS that sex leads to babies.
You can not base your actions on if he is going to be upset. This baby is more important than the feelings of an adult male who has abused his position and can take care of himself.

You say you love him, but actual love does NOT entail this sort of fear and secrecy. Real love means you share together the joy of marriage and pregnancy without fear or wondering if the other person is ashamed of you. Real love means the other person doesn’t treat you in a way that will hurt you like this. He doesn’t respect you because if he did, this never would have happened.

I know of what I speak. My sister was seduced by her High School teacher. They carried on a so-called ‘affair’ and when she graduated and became older she REGRETTED it and became so ashamed and sorrowful about how he took advantage of her need to **feel **loved and be important to someone. She went on with her life, but she made sure that he didn’t work at that High School again. She didn’t want any other girl to go through what she did.

You will grow up and want to Marry and be part of a Truthful, Honest and Respecting Relationship. You deserve that. You don’t deserve anything less than that.

Believe me, if you keep his identity a secret. If you continue allowing him to take advantage of you. You will grow up and regret not standing up for yourself.

People who LOVE you, take care of you and respect you. A man who loves you would never have sex with you in secret and get upset because his actions made you pregnant. Not only is that not loving, but it also shows how unbalanced he is. And don’t let him sweet talk you into thinking otherwise.

Go to your principal and tell him/her about this. Don’t be frightened. My sister did the same thing and it was handled perfectly. The High School teacher was fired and no one but the principal and those involved knew anything about it.
 
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sadlisa:
its just that i luv the father, alot

u guys think i shud have the baby?? but wont that mean i hafta drop out of school and be kicked out by my paretns and then will i go to hell when i die??

:confused: i didnt ask for this baby!!!
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You have had some good advice, read it again. It was loving.

Do NOT underestimate your parents, I have seen this before. After the first few hours of disapointnent parents try to help.

In some schools you wouldn’t have to drop out. Here, the last 4 months of pregnacy they attend in a separate place.

Ask God…Have you taked it over with HIM yet?

You are 15. You have a lot of growing up to do. TRUST GOD, TRUST YOUR PARENTS - I BET THEY LOVE YOU!

You can’t hide it from your mom, in the next 2 weeks you have to act…tell your mom!
 
This is the Catholic site for “Priests for Life” they come on EWTN often.
This is their site:
priestsforlife.org/ First look on the left side for “Alternatives to Abortion” Father Frank Pavone is the Director.
Look for a phone number…call them, they do this all the time

At your Church they should have “Help Numbers” , call, don’t give your name. Ask for telephone numbers for help for you. CALL THEM.

Act. Do not sit. Call.
 
its late but i just wanted to say MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

and thanx for all ur help, i will call that number this weekend, after i tell my parents

to MPardeon:

thank u for ur concern about my teacher but he luvs me and i dont think he is using me at all

i culd never tell on him, it wouldnt be rite
 
Your English teacher is a sick sick man…he needs to be fired right away for how he taught you to write.

Seriously, your teacher is a rapist and I doubt you were his first rape victim. Turn the S.O.B. in before he rapes any more kids.

Merry Christmas
 
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sadlisa:
thank u for ur concern about my teacher but he luvs me and i dont think he is using me at all

i culd never tell on him, it wouldnt be rite
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listen, kiddo, you may not believe this, but it is not normal for an adult man to find a teenage girl attractive. He is using you and telling you he caes because he’s scared he’s going to get caught. Once he’s not scared he’ll dump you like yesterday’s garbage.

If you care about this man, you need to turn him in so he can get help for his problem. That would be the thing to do to show you care for him. He will thank you later, and you will save him from hurting himself anymore and from hurting other girls in the future. Tell your parents who the father is, so they can help him.

good luck and God bless
 
sadlisa,

You have many people on the forum that already care about you and your baby even though they have never met you. We will be praying for you and for your parents. God’s love and forgiveness have no bounds or limits. Trust in God as you do the right thing.

You are in my prayers.
 
tom i think u r being rely mean

i culdnt tell my parents about it even tho i wanted to
i was too scared

i will talk to my priest in church this sunday, maybe he will kno wat to do
 
sadlisa,
THANK YOU. Thank you for talking to your Priest!

A Catholic Priest is a man who truely will listen to you as Jesus would. A Priest is here as Jesus’ substitute. He will be the very best person in the world to hear your words. They are trained to help you. A Priest has heard every kind of story - you will not surprise him!

You have had 4 serious prayers from me since last night. Prayers for your courage, for your parents and prayers for you to get help from a Priest.

We love you. We are Catholic, you be a Catholic…please.
 
Whatever you do, do not be nervous, and do not withhold information from the preist. Tell him everything, you will be amazed at the weight that will be lifted off your shoulders.

Do not be worried about going to Hell, going to Confession as soon as possible will remove that fear for you.

If you are scared about the situation with the father, Please please please, tell a preist, or your school counselor, they will speak to the proper authorites for you.

Your Teacher will not be able to hurt you if you go through that route.

Tom be nice to her, she doesn’t need tough talk, she needs hope. Her lingo is a very commonly used one by teenagers (I know, I am 17 going into college next year).

Lisa, please please listen to the other posters in the thread, we are here to help you and give you new life.
 
Lisa,

I’m also a member of another Catholic messageboard. You have written about this situation on that board too. In the last post there written today you say that you have told your parents. They have said to you that they will talk to a doctor tomorrow and arrange an abortion.

I’m so sad for you and I hope that you don’t give in to your parents demand. I will advise you to talk to a priest about this situation. The priest can talk to your parents. There are many agencies out there who help crisis pregnancies.

At your school I guess you have a school nurse or another person you can talk to. If you want you can withhold the name of your child’s father for the time being.

As your teacher is has done something very wrong and because of your age he has also commited statutory rape against you. Chance is that you are not his first victim. You may be in love with him now, but what will you do if the next girl he makes pregnant is one of your best friends.
 
Lisa,

You are a sweet heart in the eyes of the Lord. God only wants the best for you. When we fall He lifts us up. He will even carry us when we cannot walk at all. Depend on the Lord and do not give in to having an abortion. You have been wronged by an older man. Your part in this is yours, but you are largely a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized a second time. Do not have an abortion. It is something that you will regret for the rest of your life. Give your baby life and let the baby be adopted. You will have done the most loving thing you can do for your baby.

I am going to my Sunday mass this evening and I will be praying for you, dear child. May the grace of God be with you and I pray that He gives you strength.
 
Ok, you have to turn that teacher in. He’s using you and he’s sick. He needs help.

And don’t have the abortion. It says you’re catholic on your profile, remind your parents that abortion is a grave sin, it’s murder! Talk to them and talk to a priest, have the priest speak with them as well.

I’ll pray for you and you’re baby.
 
I am against abortion.

What your teacher is doing is against the law.

Talk to your parents about it. If they don’t understand, if you know they won’t go easy on you, if you know they just won’t know how to help, try talking to someone else. A counselor, your doctor.

And TURN YOUR TEACHER IN.

If you really do not ever want to see your child, do abortion. They should show you a video about the system of abortion though, so that might change your mind.

Adoption is probably best, but I’m sure if you get a job, support from your parents, you CAN keep that baby. It will be hard though, so, yes, adoption is best.
 
i said i wasnt gonna tell my parents about it yesterday but then i did and they yelled alot

theyre makin me hav an abortion, i culdnt talk to the priest today they wouldnt let me go

they only want me to not have the baby or else theyll kick me out, my mom doesnt want to be embarased of me
 
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I’m so used to the no-double-posting rules at the cooler forums.

Well anyways. Make sure you report your teacher.

Unless you’re an imbecile.

Don’t be stupid and you won’t get hurt.

Report your teacher…today!
 
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sadlisa:
i said i wasnt gonna tell my parents about it yesterday but then i did and they yelled alot

theyre makin me hav an abortion, i culdnt talk to the priest today they wouldnt let me go

they only want me to not have the baby or else theyll kick me out, my mom doesnt want to be embarased of me
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Call a priest or even a lawyer!Pull up the abortion pictures and show your parents!Don’t do it!Please, the baby is not in any way at fault.Remind your parents that they are excommunicated if they make you have an abortion, and the blood of their grandchild will be on their hands.If you don’t want to have an abortion, you call the priest on the phone and tell him to get to your house and talk to your parents.God Bless
 
You got yourself in a big mess.

You should’ve been wiser in who to trust.
 
sadlisa,

Stand up look at Christ, just look at him he died for YOU. take a look at a child next time and think that he died for that child as well. Every bit of that child, he or she could grow up and be the best thing to ever walk the earth or to ever love Christ. So please love your child as Christ has loved you please!!! Your parents CANNOT make you do this. Fight it! If you bring the right people on your side your parents will not let you go through with it. call up relatives tell them you do not want to give up this child, call up friends do not be ashamed, the Lord was not ashamed of you. call up your priest, do whatever you can to save your child. You can do it i know that you can all of God’s children have the strength to fight for him, because it is his strength.
God Bless you,
 
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