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omg its JO:
You got yourself in a big mess.

You should’ve been wiser in who to trust.
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Don’t be to hard on her an ADULT teacher manipulated and used her:banghead: I wonder how his time off is going:mad: I had better be quiet at this point because I am very close to going on an uncharitable rant.God Bless
 
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Lisa4Catholics:
Don’t be to hard on her an ADULT teacher manipulated and used her:banghead: I wonder how his time off is going:mad: I had better be quiet at this point because I am very close to going on an uncharitable rant.God Bless
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Truly though. I am younger, and I know better.

I was simply stating that she was in a mess, and she must learn and make a decision about it.

Or maybe I am just too cold and apathetic.
 
omg its JO:
Truly though. I am younger, and I know better.

I was simply stating that she was in a mess, and she must learn and make a decision about it.

Or maybe I am just too cold and apathetic.
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I am not upset with you, I was just telling you,these predators have ways to manipulate vulnerable people,you might have other things you are struggling with and may not be so vulnerable.These types know who they can manipulate. God Bless
 
sadlisa, Please read post #38 one more time, then reread it.

Excommunication is extremely serious, read pst # 38 again. Thanks.
 
I really come close to hating people who use women like that. There are times when chasing predator/controllers with a machinegun sounds like a good time:tsktsk: … Just as bad, now I don’t like who I am because of them, because I don’t want to be a hateful person.
 
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Lisa4Catholics:
I am not upset with you, I was just telling you,these predators have ways to manipulate vulnerable people,you might have other things you are struggling with and may not be so vulnerable.These types know who they can manipulate. God Bless
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I never thought you were upset with me.

Oh noo, not at all.

I just thought those angry emoticons/smilies you put on there were just a sign of devotion to the higher deities.

I’m not stupid. Of course they know how to manipulate.

But to have sex before graduating? Hem. To have it with your teacher, which is illegal? Hem. How about turning around, saying no, because you should know it’s wrong and that he can go to jail, while you or I grin in triumph. (:

It’s understandable, I suppose. I’m not here to criticize people. I’m here to teeaach the wrong.

Now, she just has to realize her mistake, and find ways to fix it.

Mourning for sympathy isn’t going to help.
 
omg its JO:
I’m here to teeaach the wrong.
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"Do not say to your brother, ‘let me remove the speck from your eye’ if you have a plank in your own eye! First remove the plank from your eye, then you will be able to see the speck in your brother’s eye."
Oh and BTW, let me “teeaach” you how to spell. The word, “teach” is generally not spelled with doubled vowels. It’s like saying “I’s gonna learn y’all some good grammar”. It just doesn’t work.
 
Trying to correct me in such petty ways isn’t too mature.

I spelt it that way to exaggerate the vowels, to show how you would say it.
 
my parents arent telling the priest about the baby

theyre just gonna make me have a abortion, rely soon
were busy until after new yeras so they said jan 2 im gonna hav it 😦

my mom doesnt care shes had like 2 abortions alredy and she still goes to church and everythin

also every1 he didnt make me do anythin, its not all his fault esp becaus hes soooo sweet to me
 
What did he say about the baby?

You understand that it is AGAINST THE LAW that he does that, correct?

Tell authorities about it, they can sort this out.
 
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sadlisa:
its late but i just wanted to say MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

and thanx for all ur help, i will call that number this weekend, after i tell my parents

to MPardeon:

thank u for ur concern about my teacher but he luvs me and i dont think he is using me at all

i culd never tell on him, it wouldnt be rite
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Maybe you don’t understand this, because of your age/experiance, but the fact is that your teacher has committed a felony, and should be jailed, but I doubt he will be.

I know it is hard to accept this fact, partly because if you were to recognize what he has done as evil, then you might feel that you are bad in some way, but this is not true.

YOU have made a mistake yes, BUT YOU are not to blame, for you did not make this mistake DELIBARETLY. The sheer fact that he must be twice or better your age makes him accountable, and DELIBERATE. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.

Be Loyal to Jesus, not to this “english teacher”, who is a liar and pervert.

Make no mistake, the Truth WILL surface and your deceptionshould you chose to hide the identity of the father from your parents or the authorities] will only make it harder for the healing in the long run.

I won’t even go into what I would do to this, hmmm…“english teacher”, if I were your father, but to think that my little girl thought she couldn’t come to me with ANYTHING, would just tear me up.
Your parents will be angry, I know I would be, justifiably so, but I certainly don’t think any loving parent would not hate you or turn you away.

Whatever you do, remember that Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy, and I think the best advice here was to have your priest help you break the news.

As for adoption, If you decide you love that baby enough to put his/her needs above your own, then I commend you. I am an adopted baby whose parents saved me from being murdered or growing up in a undesirable environment[which my sister had to endure]. For me, adoption is one of the most charitable and loving acts someone can make.

May the peace of the Lord be with you and may the Lord guide you in your decision.

Christ’s Love
 
my parents arent telling the priest about the baby

So? Tell him yourself. You’re a big girl, if your parents won’t tell a priest, you’re old enough to be able to do it yourself.

theyre just gonna make me have a abortion, rely soon
were busy until after new yeras so they said jan 2 im gonna hav it 😦

If it means that much to you, find a way. Run out of the house while they’re not looking and run to the nearest Chruch. If it’s too far away, call a priest. Call a friend and have her drive you. Just do something, and quick. And stand up for yourself. Tell them you’re not going to have the abortion because you know in your heart that it is wrong.

my mom doesnt care shes had like 2 abortions alredy and she still goes to church and everythin

You shouldn’t let that get in the way though. If your mom doesn’t care, then you care.

also every1 he didnt make me do anythin, its not all his fault esp becaus hes soooo sweet to me

That’s how they work. They’re all nice to you and everything so you’ll trust them. All he wants is sex, he does not care about you. If your english teacher cared about you, he would not have let this situation happen to you. And even if you don’t think he made you have sex with him, he definitely talked you into it. You may not realize it, but it’s definitely the case. Listen, this sort of thing happens all the time, and it ALWAYS turns out the same way. Your case is no different. I can only think of one teacher/student relations that turned out that they got married, and in that case the teacher was the female, which makes the situation quite different.
 
sadlisa,

Listen. I’m going to be fifteen in a month, if I were pregnant now, I’d be so afraid… but I’d rather cut off my arm then have an abortion.

Jan 2nd is a Sunday. When you go to Mass then, I pray in the morning before the abortion, try to get to a priest. Before Mass, catch him in the hall and ask his desperatly to talk to your parents.
Do everything you can to save your child. Go to a friends and tell them, call your family, aunts cousins.
www.abortionismurder.com
Show your parents this site! Do not let them kill their grandchild. You’ve said your mothers had a few abortions… that’s horrid that she’d do that, and now make you do the same.

I’ll pray for you, God bless.
 
Sadlisa,

I am praying for you. I pray that God will bless you with strength and courage to make the decision that will make God happy - one that will give you peace now and forever.

That peace will not ever come from an abortion.

Your mother may have had 2 abortions, but that does not mean you need to do the same. Please do not let her sinful choices become your choices.

Adoption is a beautiful way to give the gift of life and hope to people if your parents do not want additional responsibility.

God Bless you.
 
I know that teachers seduce and knock up their young students all the time, and I know that parents insist their daughters have abortions all the time.

But I still think “Sadlisa” is bogus. C’mon…she has to come to a CATHOLIC message board and ask for sympathy, yet keeps insisting that we don’t understand or she has no ability to act on anything we say. Her parents are “making” her have an abortion, her English teacher is “sooooo sweet” to her. :rolleyes:

This person is just yanking our chain and getting off on watching a bunch of people get hysterical over a non-existent baby.

If “sadlisa” is NOT a troll, however, I’d say the biggest shame about all of this is that her English teacher is clearly no good at teaching English. Such illiterate drivel just HAS to be contrived… I hope.
 
Sadlisa,

The most importanti thing right now is that you protect the life of your unborn child. Although you are not in a position to care for a baby, there are many loving couples waiting for the chance to love and nurture her.

What city or state are you in? We need to help you locate support.

Please call your priest immediately! Tell him you need help!
 
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sadlisa:
my parents arent telling the priest about the baby

theyre just gonna make me have a abortion, rely soon
were busy until after new yeras so they said jan 2 im gonna hav it 😦

my mom doesnt care shes had like 2 abortions alredy and she still goes to church and everythin

also every1 he didnt make me do anythin, its not all his fault esp becaus hes soooo sweet to me
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How often do you rebel against your parents? For example, if they say be home at a certain time, do you come home then? I am guessing as a teen that you do things that your parents disagree with, right?

You are a mother right now. You choose what kind of mother you want to be. There is always tomorrow and it will be a brighter and better day for you. Just be tough during this time. Show your parents that you may be young, but that you can make grown up decisions. You can decide to have this baby and they can either enjoy their grandchild or they can stay away and never see it. I’m betting they will want to see the grandchild after it is born.

It is your decision to have the baby. Will your parents physically abuse you? If so, go to a shelter now. Just post on here and I am sure we can lead you to a shelter. I am pretty sure that when your parents realize that you are serious about having this baby, they will help you tremendously. Are your parents normally loving or abusive or somewhere in between?

It is an easy way out to say that your parents are making you get an abortions, but will they actually physically drag you into the car? Be strong and tell them you are not going to have the abortion. Then just let them rant and rave for a while until they get tired. Us old parents get tired ya know. You have more endurance. If you are in physical danger, please let us know this, so we can find help for you. You will not regret your decision to have the baby. I am pretty sure that you will always feel bad for the abortion although there are organization to help cope with this.

Do you always listen to your parents? Now is not the time to be obedient. If they are not abusive parents and if they tell you to have the abortion, you tell them that it is your body and you are not going to have it done. You probably have a relative that you trust don’t you. Go to that relative and tell them the whole story. Then your parents will get distracted with them and they may even appreciate having someone to share this with. Get it out in the open and then coping may be easier.

Don’t worry about how to deal with the teacher. That will take care of itself, I think. You will live and learn. Typically, there are many heartbreaks on the way to finding Mr. Right. Have the baby and you will know how much he loves you? I hope he helps take care of the baby. IF not, it is not the end of the world. Women are strong. God designed us with all we need to take care of a baby. You have breasts and they will nourish your baby well. You will find shelter and clothing. MOst likely, your parents will provide so much for you. All you have to do is love your child. It will all work out ok. Your life will change, but you will be ok. You can continue loving your English Teacher. No one will stop you. You can continue to go to school, no one will stop you. You can also continue with this pregnancy, no one will stop you. Only you can let this happen or prevent it. I don’t expect that they can cuff you and drag you in to the clinic. It may make an easy way out for you to say your parents made you do it, but you can choose otherwise, right? Or do you have abusive parents?
 
Ok, if your teacher is really this sweet to you, call the man up and tell him about his child. He has a right to know.
 
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katybird:
I know that teachers seduce and knock up their young students all the time, and I know that parents insist their daughters have abortions all the time.

But I still think “Sadlisa” is bogus. C’mon…she has to come to a CATHOLIC message board and ask for sympathy, yet keeps insisting that we don’t understand or she has no ability to act on anything we say. Her parents are “making” her have an abortion, her English teacher is “sooooo sweet” to her. :rolleyes:

This person is just yanking our chain and getting off on watching a bunch of people get hysterical over a non-existent baby.

If “sadlisa” is NOT a troll, however, I’d say the biggest shame about all of this is that her English teacher is clearly no good at teaching English. Such illiterate drivel just HAS to be contrived… I hope.
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Gosh- regardless of whether or not this poster is “yanking our chain”, the fact remains that a lot of people lurk on these boards. Lots of young, single mothers who can’t rely on the fathers for whatever reason, who are afraid to tell their parents, who are afraid of the future, who don’t know if this means that God condemns them to hell or if the Church will reject them. Even if “sadlisa” is a hoax, the situation is all too real for many women. Even if they’re too afraid to come on and ask for themselves, they may read enough to know that they are not alone, and that abortion isn’t their only “out” in the situation.

I remember being 15. Things were confusing, up was down and black was white a lot of the time, and a relationship with an older man might have seemed romantic. Now that I’m 26 and looking from the outside I can see how twisted that situation truly is (at least on the part of the older man) but I doubt Lisa- or many girls in her situation- is seeing it that way. And unfortunately, I’ve participated on enough message boards to know that her writing style is likely not contrived. Fully half of the teenagers I’ve encountered post in a similar fashion.

For Lisa: please, please do not let your parents force you into an abortion. You are a parent now, and you have the right to protect your child, whether you ultimately raise him or her yourself or give him or her up for adoption. Many people have given excellent information and contacts. I don’t have any new contacts to add without knowing where you are. If you are in the Detroit area PM me and I will find contacts for you. We will all be praying for you over the next week. Ask the Blessed Mother and St. Joseph to pray for you and help you protect your child- they were entrusted with the care and protection of the Christ Child. They understand the urgency and anxiety, and will pray for you. God bless you.
 
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katybird:
I know that teachers seduce and knock up their young students all the time, and I know that parents insist their daughters have abortions all the time.

But I still think “Sadlisa” is bogus. C’mon…she has to come to a CATHOLIC message board and ask for sympathy, yet keeps insisting that we don’t understand or she has no ability to act on anything we say. Her parents are “making” her have an abortion, her English teacher is “sooooo sweet” to her. :rolleyes:

This person is just yanking our chain and getting off on watching a bunch of people get hysterical over a non-existent baby.

If “sadlisa” is NOT a troll, however, I’d say the biggest shame about all of this is that her English teacher is clearly no good at teaching English. Such illiterate drivel just HAS to be contrived… I hope.
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Well, I wasn’t going to be the one to say it. And I might not have put it in exactly the same words. But thank you katybird for being the first one to say the obvious. I have only one thing to add:
:amen:
 
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