Ah ha! I just had an epiphany. Your examples (except abortion) point to issues around individuals vs society. It makes the assumption that the needs of society usually trump the individual. I just don’t think that is where the West is anymore. So the real question (outside of theology & natural law) is whether or not the needs of the society outweigh the smaller group of individuals?
We live in a society, not as a collection of anarchists passing in the streets. We live in societies because it human nature to do so, as it is human nature to form families, governments, and pass laws.
My examples point to what occurs when we attempt to veto natural law. The answer is that it harms society. It really doesn’t help the individuals either, but like the drunk having the next drink they’re too intoxicated with their stupidity to see the harm they cause themselves.
It so happens that we arrive at similar conclusions if we weigh our decisions by the maxim “the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few”.
There was a Roman legal maxim “hard cases make bad law”.
You may recall that when abortion was being debated at the state level, before the full weight and power of a runaway power drunk Federal judiciary snatched democracy from the hands of the people and took upon themselves to dictate to hundreds of millions of people, abortion was favored for the “few hard cases”, the rape, the incest, and so on.
Millions of abortions later we know better. What we don’t know is what Dr. Sabins, Einsteins, Madame Curies, and other future worthies were aborted.
There is no societal good, no purpose in natural law, served by legalizing same sex marriage. It is a power grab by a handful of people who frankly don’t give a fig for society as a whole, they just want what they want when they want it.
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