I guess some of this partly depends on how one defines (or experiences) “joy,” “fervor,” and “community.” I find all three abundantly in the Roman Catholic Church.
I am also reminded of what my college roommate once told me. She was engaged to a Presbyterian in seminary training, and in their religious encounters had met a number of evangelicals. She said that what she observed over a period of time was that their very fervor was quite dependent on, and drew from, emotion. When things were going well (in their lives, or in their perception of religion as impacting those lives), they continued to be very fervent and convicted. When the bottom fell out, they were like fair-weather friends. What troubled my roommate was the lack of independent faith/conviction, despite the appearance of grandiose enthusiasm: it didn’t last. It was not built on the theological virtues of faith/hope/charity, but rather on feelings. (In her opinion, with considerably more direct experience with that whole branch of Protestantism than I had at the time.)
If joy is defined as certain kinds of music and spontaneous, audible bursts of passion, then I guess we Catholics are “joyless.”
But of course, theologically, joy is not defined as outward excitability.
I think this is more a matter of differences in cultural taste. The moment any parish I attend imports an “evangelical” flavor in some patronizing attempt to meet an assumed 'demand," is the moment I will retreat to recognizably Catholic parishes.
As to community, I continue to maintain that it’s up to the individual to make & discover community. You don’t have to be an extrovert to do so. Showing up for parish events, joining a group as a participant/follower, — there are many ways to experience community in a Catholic setting, even though that is not necessarily during worship. (If that’s what people want, and place as a priority, they should in fact seek faith traditions whose worship involves fellowship.)
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