I remain of the opinion that the mantra, “personal relationship with Christ” is the wrong way to go about these matters.
We are called to develop an authentic love for God–it is even mandated in the Commandments and the Church supports that as well. Yet, developing an authentic love for Christ is not an easy thing–it takes discipline and work to attain–one must develop a true prayer life, and they must avail themselves of the Sacraments and all the tools Jesus gave the Church for the world. Catholics who appear to be “going through the paces” are quite often developing and maintaining a prayer life with the Lord–they are often the ones who will say daily rosaries, go to daily Mass, and set specific amounts of time each day for prayer and worship.
Mass is NOT a place for fellowship as Protestants have in their services. Rather, Mass is the highest form of prayer and worship we can celebrate. We go to Mass to worship Christ, not each other–we are supposed to go to honor our Lord and Savior, not each other. God does not need our attendance–WE need our attendance for the sake of our eternal souls.
We CANNOT develop an authentic love for the Lord without first developing a disciplined prayer life (and Mass is the highest form of prayer available to us). We must have an interior disposition that places Jesus at the center of our lives, and we do that through prayer (planned daily prayer), and we do that by listening to the Lord (being quiet so Jesus can speak to out hearts–in a planned structured way).
There are 8,760 hours in a full year. God, through His Church, asks for us to give just 60 of those hours back to Him–yet many Catholics will not even make that requirement. If we were to do a tithe of our time, we would need to give 876 hours each year back to the Lord. Yet, most Catholics do not even attain the level of 60 hours given back to the Lord.
We are called to love God–we cannot do that unless we spend time in prayer with Him, and any Catholic who delegates certain time each day for prayer (even if it is routine prayers) is telling God that they love Him so much, that they have dedicated time each day to be with Him in prayer (preferably before the Lord in the Blessed Sacrament in the Tabernacle in a Catholic Church). That is how one grows in faith–it is NOT a declaration of some “personal relationship with Christ”–rather it is working to develop an authentic love for Christ, and it is creating a true disciplined life in which Jesus is at the center, and one in which we give time to Jesus to speak to us.
By relegating a path to holiness to some “personal relationship,” we are in a very real way saying that “our God” is different than “your God.” That somehow our “relationship” with Christ is so personal, that no other person can share the same view of Jesus, and under that way of thinking we often hear things like: “Oh well, ‘my’ God would never judge me for that, and ‘my’ God is one of pure love and will understand and accept everything ‘I’ do because me and the Lord have this special thing together.” It becomes a situation in which there are billions of different gods, rather than One true God as we all know there is!
Along those same lines we see so many Catholics justify all manners of sin–abortion, contraception, living together, fornication, etc…and they justify those sins by saying, “Well, that is fine for you to think those things are sinful, but that is not how ‘my’ God is.”
In a nation so heavily influenced by Protestant thought, it is sad to see so much of that same thought being held by Catholics–I have no idea, other than prayer and asking for the Lord’s help, how to re-Catholicize the faithful. It will take incredible work and a lot of Divine help.