So, we just don’t talk about it?
Or is it because that, in my experience, most men do not have the issues with gay women as they do with gay men?
There is a huge double standard at play when we only talk about gay men and their place in the Church and let all sorts of other behaviors get swept under the rug. Homophobia, much to Carinal Muellers chagrin, is alive and well in the world and the Church.
I think it because there is a difference been parish priests and religious (male or female) who do not celebrate public masses.
A parish priest (whether diocesan or religious) is far more visible. They are assigned to take care of spiritual needs, teach us the faith, give homilies, hear our confessions, mentor us and our children, be role models, etc.
A lay religious (whether a brother, sister, nun, friar, monk, etc) are not as visible. Now, a malformed nun, sister, brother, etc can a very negative effect on the population (esp if they are a teacher or professor).
Regardless, more so than any other vocation, ministry, etc, the parish priest is the one where trust is essential. We want trust everywhere in the Church (Bishops, priests, deacons, religious, lay ministers, teachers, etc); but without trust in the parish priest, everything else is lost.
I think that’s why focus on the priest when it comes to these issues. I think it’s just a result of subconscious behavior.